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My grandpa was suppose to walk me down the aisle because i have two dads but now he is going to have major heart surgery and he may not make it (he is 82 and is having quad bi-pass) i dont know who i should pick to walk me down the aisle if he doesnt and if he does then which dad do i choose for the father daughter dance it would be easy but my real dad wasnt there for me as much as my step dad but i dont want to hurt any feeling what to do?????

10/24/09
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Posted On: Apr 14, 2009 at 3:16 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I have done weddings in the past that fit this exact situation. If the aisle is wide enough you could have both your father and step-father walk you down the aisle. Then later during the Father/Daughter dance you could either do two separate dances with each or I would pick one song and start dancing with your father then halfway through have your father pass you off to your step-father, symbolizing real life. For more suggestions you can visit my website or you can contact me directly at: admin@kjken.com


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Posted On: Apr 14, 2009 at 8:14 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I agree: It's not fair to anyone to have to choose between both your dads. They each have a part in your life. If the aisle isn't wide enough for both of them to walk you down it, one can walk you halfway and the other from there to the altar. You get to choose who does what. If you are unsure, talk to both of them, sincerely and from the heart, about how they can participate in your wedding. They may even have some ideas or some feelings on the subject. Also talk to them about the dancing. Let them know you want to include them in both ways (or one or the other, depending on how you feel) and work it out together. But remember, you get to make the decisions in the end. You are just talking to them to get their input and to let them know that you want them to participate.

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Posted On: Apr 14, 2009 at 9:09 PM | Flag As Inappropriate
I had the same issue.My father walked me down the aisle for my first wedding but we are not very close. After discussing it with my father and getting his consent, my step-father is walking me down the aisle this time.

For the dances, we are actually just doing a parent's dance instead of father/daughter. We will have my FH's mom and his son introduced, then my mom and step-dad and then my father and step-mom.

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