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First off, good job on scoring an invite! Attending an Indian wedding, especially for the first time, is exciting and full of joyful emotions. Whether your friends are Sikh, Muslim or will be having a Hindu wedding, there are lots of commonalities that will thread through your first Indian wedding. We asked American wedding planners who specialize in South Asian weddings to share their top tips for guests attending an Indian wedding for the first time, so you can understand some of the Indian wedding customs and traditions.

Attending an Indian wedding often means multi-day celebrations full of colorful decor, dancing and delicious food.



Not so fast! Before the altar, there’s the Mehendi and Haldi.


If you’re a close friend of the person who's invited you to your first Indian wedding, there’s a big chance you’ll also be invited to take part in some of the rituals that many couples plan before the big day, which is why Indian weddings are notorious for being long affairs. “It is customary for some South Asian weddings to go on for three to four days, so get plenty of sleep!” said Neeva Dhariwal of Project Bride DC in Rockville, MD.

Mehendi parties: You’re probably familiar with Mehendi, which is also called henna. Before she’s married, Indian brides gather with their closest friends and family to dance, celebrate and decorate their hands and feet with intricate henna designs. Typically, this event will happen the morning of the day before the wedding ceremony. Historically a tradition of North India, it’s exploded in popularity and lots of Indian American couples with roots all over the subcontinent and from various religions engage in the happy ritual.

Haldi ceremonies: If you’ve ever seen a Color Run or Holi festival, then you’re already familiar with the basics of a Haldi before attending an Indian wedding. Unlike the Mendhi, it’s a more intimate ceremony that close friends and family of the couple will be invited to celebrate. The bride and groom will host separate Haldis at their respective homes before the wedding to bless the couple and ward off evil. The Haldi paste is made from turmeric by elders of the couple and, while the premise of this Indian wedding ritual is solemn, there’s colorful paste involved, so music, dancing, food, laughs and stunning photos will likely be the result.

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Indian wedding ceremony: Sikh ceremony, Muslim tradition or Hindu wedding?


Your first Indian wedding ceremony will likely either be a traditional Sikh ceremony or a Hindu wedding.

Sikhism is a 500-year-old religious tradition mainly practiced by devotees in the Indian subcontinent and throughout the Indian diaspora.

“At a Sikh ceremony, when eating the lungar (communal food), accept the roti (bread) as a blessing by placing your hands together, then opening them palms up,” advised Preeti Vasudeva of Preeti Exclusive Creations in Washington, DC.

Hinduism is the most popular religion of India and Nepal, observed by almost 900 million people. For Hindu weddings, you’ll want to be prepared when you see flower petals being passed around during the ceremony. Riri Patel of tanaRi events in New York explained that, “Traditionally, when the bride and groom are doing their pheras, (circling around the fire), close family members and guests sitting in the front can stand up and sprinkle the petals on the couple. It is regarded as blessings and love for the couple.”

Regardless of the religion, you’ll want to be sure to remove your shoes if the ceremony takes place inside a place of worship. Women will also need to bring a scarf to cover your head (guys can use a handkerchief), unless you’re planning to wear a saree, in which case you can drape the dress fabric over your head. You may also not be able to take photographs inside the ceremony.

Also, don’t be alarmed if you see lots of tears during the vidhai, or the bride’s (temporary) farewell.

“It’s part of the culture that she is no longer her dad’s daughter (actually very sad), but you will see her at the reception…in just a few hours,” said Preeti Vasudeva of Preeti Exclusive Creations in Washington, DC.