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Which came first: your wedding date or your venue?

Maggie, on December 11, 2018 at 11:05 AM Posted in Planning 0 129
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When you first start planning your wedding, there are two major questions to answer: when and where are you going to tie the knot? For some people the wedding date is the most important decision (whether it’s a date with special significance or the only date everyone is available), other couples wait to see their dream venue’s availability and then set the date!

Which decision came first for you? Your wedding date or your venue?

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129 Comments

Latest activity by Sweetness, on December 29, 2020 at 12:31 AM
  • Tamara
    VIP August 2019
    Tamara ·
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    We chose a month and a Friday and let the venue dictate the actual date.

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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    Our venue came first. Originally we were going to get married in August 2020 but then we pushed it up to June 2019. So happy with our decision!
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  • BrandiWeds18
    VIP May 2019
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    The first time around was the date then the venue. Now after postponing first came the venue then the date. We just had a month in mind and went with it and switched from a Friday evening to a Sunday afternoon

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    Dedicated March 2020
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    we had a couple of possible dates, then talked to the venue we had wanted and picked the date from our shortlist
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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Venue! We had a general idea of timeline (spring 2019) but were flexible so we could have our wedding at the perfect location Smiley heart
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  • Alisha
    Dedicated November 2020
    Alisha ·
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    We picked our date first because we wanted March 20, 2020 as our special day and to me it was easier to approach venues with a date already in mind. Luckily, the date is a little over a year away so we had our pick of venues and didn't run into any trouble Smiley smile

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  • Kaitlyn
    Devoted March 2019
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Wedding date! We have had a 2 year engagement so we were able to get our dream venue and date.
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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Ooh, I like the sound of compromise I'm hearing! What's your venue like, Alexandra?

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    That's super awesome, Alisha!! I'm so happy for you! What's your venue like? And how is 3/20 your special day? Is it an anniversary?

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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
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    We love our venue!!! It has so many different spaces for us to take advantage of - a beautiful outdoor gazebo for the ceremony, a basement speakeasy-style lounge for the cocktail hour, a gorgeous grand ballroom for the reception, and a rustic barn bar for the after party!
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Our venue, then our date, then our new date lol

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  • Alisha
    Dedicated November 2020
    Alisha ·
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    Our venue is beautiful! It took me awhile to find it and I was taken aback by the amenities and the great vibes I got once I toured. After touring and researching various other venues, this one just stood out to my FH and I. It sits on a river and offers great views Smiley smile

    Also, March 20 is actually 8 days after our anniversary but we just liked the numerical sequence behind it lol. We did consider our anniversary, but it fell on a Thursday and would not have worked out.

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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    We knew our date had to be during one of my breaks from school, so we had certain dates in mind but we weren't rigid on the exact date.

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  • Across The Stars
    Devoted October 2019
    Across The Stars ·
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    Venue! We picked our date based off that
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    Dedicated November 2021
    Amber ·
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    We tried to set our date first but changed it when it wasn’t available at our preferred venue
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  • Lindsey
    Savvy May 2019
    Lindsey ·
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    Venue- we had a general time of year in mind and then found the venue and went off their availability and making our date not on a holiday
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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    We chose the month and picked a Saturday based on the venue so I guess venue first!
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  • Brae
    VIP September 2019
    Brae ·
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    We had a date in mind, but would have changed it if it was not available at a venue we loved. So I guess the venue solidified the date, because they did have it available.
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  • EllieRose
    Expert February 2020
    EllieRose ·
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    Our date! We had to go through a few venues after to make our date work!
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  • L
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Lindsey ·
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    Venue! We fell in love with the Black Stallion venue in the Outer Banks, NC so once we knew that, our date just fell into place!
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