Maggie
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Which came first: your wedding date or your venue?

Maggie, on December 11, 2018 at 11:05 AM

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When you first start planning your wedding, there are two major questions to answer: when and where are you going to tie the knot? For some people the wedding date is the most important decision (whether it’s a date with special significance or the only date everyone is available), other couples...

When you first start planning your wedding, there are two major questions to answer: when and where are you going to tie the knot? For some people the wedding date is the most important decision (whether it’s a date with special significance or the only date everyone is available), other couples wait to see their dream venue’s availability and then set the date!

Which decision came first for you? Your wedding date or your venue?

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129 Comments

  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Venue. Can't have a set date without a place.

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  • A
    Dedicated June 2019
    Andrea ·
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    We chose two Saturdays in June then narrowed it down to one day which ended up being absolutely the perfect day! Everything else was based on the date.
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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Oh my goodness, the Black Stallion is beautiful! I'm jealous! Smiley laugh What about that venue made you go "yes, we want to get married here!"?

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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
    Cassandra ·
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    We picked our venue and decided the date after (all of 2020 was open so it made it easy!)

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  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
    Maren ·
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    That worked out perfectly, Brae! Smiley heart So glad to hear it, congrats on finding your venue! Smiley heart

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  • Tonia
    Expert October 2019
    Tonia ·
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    We chose the month and weekend. We weren't dead set on a Saturday since it's the holiday weekend. We chose the venue afterwards and ended up booking on a Sunday.

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  • ChefKait
    Devoted December 2019
    ChefKait ·
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    Thought we had chosen a date, then a venue, then we changed our venue, and then changed our date again! Finally chose the venue and ended up with a completely different date because they showed us how they decorate for Christmas and that sold it all for us!

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  • Lacy
    Super December 2018
    Lacy ·
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    Our venue. We chose the month and year (December 2018) and the date itself was determined when booking.
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  • N
    Beginner September 2019
    Nicole ·
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    We had a preference for a date, but had a couple backups.

    We looked at 2 different venues & the venue we preferred already had our weekend booked.

    It took a little time to think it over, but we decided to move the date to one of our backups.


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  • Trisha
    Savvy May 2019
    Trisha ·
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    Venue and then we went with the best date for us that they had available also that also works with the cruise
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Wedding date! My mom actually booked their hotel before I even put the deposit on a venue lol

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  • Shaunte
    Expert December 2020
    Shaunte ·
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    We chose the date first. Since we started planning two years in advance, we could have had whichever date we wanted at our venue.

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    I'm so glad that one of your backups worked well for you, Nicole! Does what will be your wedding anniversary have an significance to you?

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Are you getting married on a cruise, Trisha, or are you going on a cruise for your honeymoon?

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Our date was first. we actually narrowed or venue search down by who was still available on our date.

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  • Nicole
    Expert November 2018
    Nicole ·
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    We chose the venue and selected a date that was meaningful for us from what they had available!

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  • OnCloudRawls
    VIP June 2019
    OnCloudRawls ·
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    Our wedding date. We wanted to get married on our anniversary so our wedding could also be a big anniversary celebration with friends and family.

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  • Trisha
    Savvy May 2019
    Trisha ·
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    No we are getting married at a historic working ranch and going on the cruise for our honeymoon to Alaska. A 7 day cruise.
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  • Beverly
    Beginner October 2021
    Beverly ·
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    We had an idea of when we'd like to get married. We went back and forth on the actual date (as he wanted a Sunday wedding and I wanted a Saturday wedding). We selected the venue, then finally decided on the date afterwards.

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Hahaha, that's one way to get a good date, Cassandra! Smiley tongue What's your venue like? Are you planning on adding some decorations or letting the venue speak for itself?

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