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What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

Paige L., on September 3, 2019 at 8:39 AM

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Hi everyone! While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What...

Hi everyone!

While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What I find better is think of the things I refuse to have at my wedding! If I just make sure those things aren't a part of my day, I know I will have a great time.


What are some of the things you refuse to have at your wedding? For example, I HATE mashed potatoes and green beans (the texture just is so wrong to me), and my caterer will not be allowed to bring those within a 10-mile radius of my reception.

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  • Katelyn
    Dedicated June 2021
    Katelyn ·
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    Mason jars, burlap, a photo booth, fake flowers of any kind.
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  • M
    Devoted October 2019
    Meredith ·
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    I do not want drunk people at my wedding! That's why we have a cash bar. That & neither of us drink. I have told a few close friends that if they see someone chugging, they are to distract the person with conversation or, if needed, manhandle them out of the venue. I know it's a little strict but I was hit by a car as a child so I'm extra sensitive to things like that.

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  • Bella
    Dedicated October 2020
    Bella ·
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    I love mashed potatos! But to each their own.

    No "traditional seated plate dinner" ive watched too many episodes of Four Weddings where the food is crappy half the time. We are doing buffet, probably bbq.
    No shots.
    No cupcake wedding cakes. They are cute but not for me.

    That's all I can think of right now.
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  • Lisa
    Dedicated November 2019
    Lisa ·
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    I will not have a bouquet toss. I hate them. I hate when people make me participate in them. I will hurt anyone who asks to have it happen.
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  • Rebecca
    Super January 2020
    Rebecca ·
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    No garter toss or bouquet toss... the garter toss is icky, I don't want my family or my FH's family seeing him go under my dress!! Also, there's only going to be maybe 1 or 2 single ladies out there, and I'd hate to single (no pun intended LOL) them out!

    No cake in the face. I'm paying too much money for my makeup and my dress!!

    No unity candle or sand ceremony thing

    No money dance!! Sorry, it's a bit tacky.

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  • Katlyn
    Devoted December 2021
    Katlyn ·
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    I am putting my foot down for a garter retrieval. I refuse to have it at my reception as I don't feel comfortable being in that position in front of my family, and by extension I don't really think it is family appropriate. It's cool if others are for it, but absolutely not me. I also have banned baby's breath. I don't really find the flower appealing at all.

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  • Terria
    Beginner June 2022
    Terria ·
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    I'm refusing drunk ppl will only have two types of alcohol at the wedding, with low levels be in it.
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  • Kassie
    Dedicated January 2020
    Kassie ·
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    I can’t really think of anything we are deliberately leaving out. Our wedding is going to be pretty traditional, including all the normal customs and traditional vows with nothing left out. Before I met my FH I did think I would have the whole “obey” part taken out if I ever got married, but I’ve since changed my mind ❤️
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  • Megan
    Dedicated August 2019
    Megan ·
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    Girl YES!!! We had both of those songs on our do not play list 😂😂👍🏼
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  • Molly
    Expert October 2020
    Molly ·
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    My FH wants no line or group dancing at all. I want the wobble and that's it.
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  • Bella
    Dedicated October 2020
    Bella ·
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    Hahaha I chose a Friday because if not everyone would be on their phones like oh bama is winning oh Tennessee is beating so and so its the 3rd quarter. Lets not haha.
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  • Nikki
    Devoted March 2021
    Nikki ·
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    Love reading these lists
    my have nots will be:
    no bird cages/lantern as center pieces (way over done)
    no first look with FH (will how ever have on with my step dad and bio dad)
    no traditional music for ceremony ( I find it boring and not personal)
    as well no Trex costumes ( my family has came across a story where a moh dressed a trex to her sis wedding) sorry not happening.
    And no cake smashing in the face. Well be sides his 😁
    no tux for groom and groomsmen

    this is all I can think of right now
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  • Ashley
    Savvy December 2020
    Ashley ·
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    hate the rustic decor or themes in general. We are just doing a color scheme and “romantic vibe” would be the best way to describe it
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  • Christina
    Dedicated February 2021
    Christina ·
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    I am not doing the garter or bouquet toss at my wedding, its just not needed.

    I also only allowed the cupid shuffle at my wedding, no others like that no macarena or electric slide! No first look either!

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  • DuttonSandersWedding
    Expert September 2019
    DuttonSandersWedding ·
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    I refuse to do the bouquet toss for a couple reasons. 1) everyone feels super awkward doing it, 2) we really wont have any single ladies at our wedding and 3) my bouquet is not the kind of thing you throw. I spent 6 hours creating that masterpiece and it's not going anywhere but in my hand haha.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Nuts! I’m allergic. It was fun to go to an event for the first time ever and not have to worry AT ALL about any sort of contamination or hidden ingredients or anything.
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  • Terria
    Beginner June 2022
    Terria ·
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    This is so me
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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
    Heather ·
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    I refuse to have BBQ at our wedding. Haha. 95% of the weddings I go to has BBQ! I dislike BBQ and also don't want to do the same thing as everyone else. I also refuse anything country or rustic, like burlap and mason jars. Nothing wrong with those things, just not my style or the theme of our wedding!

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  • Karen
    Devoted July 2020
    Karen ·
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    Fake flowers!!
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  • Jillian
    Dedicated October 2021
    Jillian ·
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    I refuse to have hard alcohol and cigarette smoking at my wedding.
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