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What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

Paige L., on September 3, 2019 at 8:39 AM

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Hi everyone! While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What...

Hi everyone!

While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What I find better is think of the things I refuse to have at my wedding! If I just make sure those things aren't a part of my day, I know I will have a great time.


What are some of the things you refuse to have at your wedding? For example, I HATE mashed potatoes and green beans (the texture just is so wrong to me), and my caterer will not be allowed to bring those within a 10-mile radius of my reception.

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  • Future Mrs. B
    Devoted August 2020
    Future Mrs. B ·
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    Hahaha this is hilarious!

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  • Future Mrs. B
    Devoted August 2020
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    Hmmm, I guess we won't have a cake smash. I will have spent too much money to have it ruined and cake on my face for photos. Absolutely not.

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    Just Said Yes May 2020
    AlClaire ·
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    This is such a fun question. We have more on that list than on the we want list! No first dance, no cake nor smash, no assigned seats, no bridal party (we're walking together), no garter or bouquet toss, NO OBEY, no gift registry... it's going to be so dope! It's super "us", don't worry, guys, it will be fine haha! My boo is NOT into being the center of attention. He's a 9 on the enneagram if y'all are familiarSmiley laugh

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    Devoted September 2019
    Caitlyn ·
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    Quick point, no one - possibly including you, the bride - will not remember what your centerpieces looked like, let alone chairs, china, glassware and flatware.

    I didn't think much of what I refuse to have at my wedding, rather I focused on what was worth the money.

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  • Asia
    Savvy November 2020
    Asia ·
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    I refuse to have children under 12 at my wedding. Sorry, but just don't want to have kids running around and crying in the background of my wedding video.

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  • Christal
    Dedicated December 2020
    Christal ·
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    Mmmm, you are making me hungry 😋! I love grilled carrots! I better check again with my caterer to make sure my veggies will be grilled! 🤨
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  • Christal
    Dedicated December 2020
    Christal ·
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    Haha 🤣 funny! Love it! Scrape off the frosting if you don’t want it! 😂
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  • Christal
    Dedicated December 2020
    Christal ·
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    No children except ring bearer and flower girl in the bridal party! My son and daughter will be the only ones standing in the wedding with us.


    No mason jars! Definitely no cake smash in the face—paying too much for hair/makeup and dress for that!
    I Love the boot scoot and boogie and soul train line dances—but no chicken dance or Macarena!
    No OBEY—I need to talk to my pastor—I'm glad you brought that up 🧐.
    Thinking about eliminating the garter toss! May still keep the bouquet toss? Definitely NO BURLAP or cheesy Bday-like decorations! No assigned seats! Serving a specialty rum drink for the toast—no champagne. Cash bar for beer or wine—not decided yet???
    I will jump the broom!!! 🥰
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  • Hope
    Dedicated August 2020
    Hope ·
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    No tossing of the bouquet, no garter thing and ABSOLUTELY NO "Wifey" anything. Am I the only person who despises that phrase? "wifey" ... it literally makes my skin crawl.


    No cheesy photos, either. I don't need - or want- a photo of us staring off into the sky or anything like that. Sure others love that stuff, but I am not into it. Sorry, but that's me. lol


    No cake smash.


    No shellfish or nuts. I'm allergic. lol



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  • Crystal
    Devoted August 2021
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    Right?!?! I agree! Smiley xd

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  • Priscilla
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Absolutely no sneakers under my dress. Im a tall woman and love my heels. I think sneakers take away the elegance of a dress.
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