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What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

Paige L., on September 3, 2019 at 8:39 AM

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Hi everyone! While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What...

Hi everyone!

While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What I find better is think of the things I refuse to have at my wedding! If I just make sure those things aren't a part of my day, I know I will have a great time.


What are some of the things you refuse to have at your wedding? For example, I HATE mashed potatoes and green beans (the texture just is so wrong to me), and my caterer will not be allowed to bring those within a 10-mile radius of my reception.

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  • Suaneris
    Savvy November 2019
    Suaneris ·
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    Black
    Just black
    Want no one (girls) with black dresses or anything thats black

    And obviously no white
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  • N
    Dedicated October 2020
    Neena ·
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    Refuse to have a photo booth. Not a fan. Think it’s tacky and overdone
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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
    Jodie ·
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    My list of "no items"

    No tosses of any kind- they creep me out.
    No crappy music (like many have mentioned chicken dance, macarena, Cha Cha slide crap)
    No dollar dance
    No formal parent dance (out of respect for my FH who lost his mom a couple years ago)
    No toasts (because seriously no one needs to be publicly told all the stupid crap we did in our early years...)
    No Grand entrance/exit
    No unity candle or whatever
    No cake smash

    Just a lot of laid back fun and games for us on our day!
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  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    - No boquet/garter toss
    - No rustic. Not a country girl.
    - No cheesy signs
    - No honeyfun or money dance
    - No grand exit for staged pictures
    -No cash bar...let the booze flow
    -No lecture on the definition of marriage
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  • Mary
    Dedicated October 2020
    Mary ·
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    Mine are controversial.

    No bridesmaids: In my extended family, sisters are expected to become bridesmaids. I have 2 younger sisters, but (1) we are not particularly close due to age differences, (2) my fiance only has his best man so I did not want an uneven number of attendants, and (3) my middle sister is emotionally unstable and therefore a liability. As an engineer, the vast majority of my friends are male and I've never had a female best friend. So I decided to nix the idea of bridesmaids altogether and instead, my gay best friend will be my "man of honor".

    No homophobia: I'm hetero, but obviously, my Man of Honor is very important to me and the wedding will be in SF. My extended family is 99% Catholic but are accepting of gays for the most part, yet there pockets of social conservatism here and there. I will be asking my DOC to escort relatives or other guests out if there is any hint of bad behavior on their part.

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  • Dynesha
    Devoted June 2020
    Dynesha ·
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    Bow ties. Never liked them.
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  • Megan
    VIP January 2019
    Megan ·
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    No crappy food, and NO GARTER TOSS. Also no Bruno Mars 😂
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  • Adree-Anna
    Dedicated November 2020
    Adree-Anna ·
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    I totally respect your choice but I am insisting on the cupid shuffle lol 😂😂 and was planning to shop for (artificial) pumpkins after Halloween of this year when stuff like that is going on sale
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    Absolutely no bouquet or garter toss. And no white dress!
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Country music of any sort was the absolute must not be anywhere near my wedding. I cannot stand country music lol.

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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Overdone, cliche, wedding music.... cha cha slide, shout, ymca, celebrate, macarina, Cupid shuffle, etc....
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated June 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Omg I completely agree with the garter toss!!
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  • Corine
    Dedicated October 2019
    Corine ·
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    I refuse to allow a tip jar on the bar! I think that a tip jar at a wedding has to be the absolute tackiest thing... you don’t invite guests to your wedding and ask them to pull out their wallets.
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  • Alisha
    Super April 2021
    Alisha ·
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    I refuse to have drama at my wedding because I want everyone to have a good time and celebrate our wedding. As for music, I’m have a great selection for everyone (guest ages varies). Therefore has to be clean (without all the cursing and derogatory things about people. You know music can be rough. For now that it is it. I’m pretty sure that there will be other things that I will come across that I don’t want at my wedding.
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  • Bianca
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Bianca ·
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    My FH really wants pumpkins at our wedding. It's a huge no for me! I LOVE fall decor for my home, but not for my wedding.

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  • Tilar Fifield
    Devoted August 2019
    Tilar Fifield ·
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    I refused to have those floating candle centerpieces 🤢 I could BARF! Omg and the mirrors? Get out. Eww.
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  • Jas
    Savvy May 2021
    Jas ·
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    SAME! no mason jars allowed!
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  • AQuixoticBride
    VIP July 2018
    AQuixoticBride ·
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    No bouquet/garter toss or grand entrances or exits, no father/daughter dance, no tiered wedding cake - all those things annoy me for one reason or another - but a big one for me was no disposable plates/glasses/flatware. I don't care how "fancy" they look, I don't think I could enjoy myself watching my guests eat off of paper plates.

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  • Erika
    Dedicated August 2020
    Erika ·
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    I didnt grow up with my dad. Yes I know him, he came around. He gave my mom some money as a child but as far as a relationship, we never developed one. As an adult we talk and see each other but....I DO NOT WANT HIM TO WALK ME but my Aunts and Grandma are given me soo much flack for that....ummm it's my wedding. I am definitely considering walking alone!
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  • Erika
    Dedicated August 2020
    Erika ·
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    These no list are hilarious!!! Hmmm you guys have given me motivation..lol.

    I like the no side veggie( now I have to figure out an additional side). We have a salad. I eat them but at weddings veggies are always soggy and cold.


    No kids. Only if we chose to have them in the wedding..and some exception for siblings.
    No garter toss
    No MOG or FOB dance
    No derogatory, cursing music
    No grand exit
    No limousines
    No more than 35/45 min on pics
    No cake smash
    No real flowers
    No first look
    No drama
    So this last one is sooooooo controversial!
    I didnt grow up with my dad. Yes I know him, he came around. He gave my mom some money as a child but as far as a relationship, we never developed one. As an adult we talk and see each other but....I DO NOT WANT HIM TO WALK ME but my Aunts and Grandma are given me soo much flack for that....ummm it's my wedding. I am definitely considering walking alone...or with my 13 yr old daughter..no she will not be giving me either. I might have him walk with his 12 yr old son.

    So far that's it......but I may have some more!
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