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Super January 2021

What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

Paige L., on September 3, 2019 at 8:39 AM

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Hi everyone! While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What...

Hi everyone!

While wedding planning, I have noticed that if I try to focus on all of the things I would want in my dream wedding, I either get overwhelmed by the vision or sad to think that, no, I can't afford to rent the most beautiful china and glassware with matching sterling silver cutlery. What I find better is think of the things I refuse to have at my wedding! If I just make sure those things aren't a part of my day, I know I will have a great time.


What are some of the things you refuse to have at your wedding? For example, I HATE mashed potatoes and green beans (the texture just is so wrong to me), and my caterer will not be allowed to bring those within a 10-mile radius of my reception.

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  • Amy
    Dedicated August 2020
    Amy ·
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    We are having no seafood of anything I hate seafood.. and no burlap I find it plain.
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  • Amy
    Savvy May 2021
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    No seriousness. At the end of the day, we will be married and spending a weekend celebrating with our loved ones. So we aren’t putting too much pressure on things. Oh also no fondant.
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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·
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    I defy all of these No's! lol

    I'm all for fall and rustic and mason jars! hahahahahah

    a mashed potato bar would be awesome, you should have done it! my best friend did a baked potato bar at her baby shower lol

    I am doing a taco and fajita bar at my wedding and we are doing a donut bar for dessert!


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  • VIP November 2021
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    I am really against phones at the ceremony. I’m going to have it announced to please put them on silent and keep them away during it but I know they’ll be those few who don’t listen 🤷🏼‍♀️🙄😤
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
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    I do feel bad we decided against the taco bar, but the logistics just got to be too much with the appetizers and hors d'oeuvres we already had planned. I'm not big on mason jars but country definitely isn't us. We're more older lady modern. lol

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  • Kayla
    Savvy February 2021
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    I'll have to work on my list of no's. But for everyone saying no traditional wedding music as they walk down the aisle, what are you playing? I have been thinking about this.
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  • Sara
    Just Said Yes May 2020
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    Agree on the music! I hate the “line dancing” songs
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  • Michelle
    Just Said Yes January 2020
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    Definitely no smashing of the cake in the face. I never understood why… I’m paying someone to do my make up and make me beautiful why would I want to mess it up with cake and icing? I also will not be doing the bouquet and garter toss. I hated it when I was single and people forced me to go out on the dance floor to catch a bouquet. It made me feel small.
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  • A
    Savvy June 2021
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    I refuse to have these things at my wedding:
    No first look
    No garter toss
    No cake smashing
    No money dance
    No hard alcohol
    No derogatory/cursing music

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  • Nicole
    Dedicated October 2019
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    FH doesn’t want to do a garter toss because his family is too proper. His solution? Hide a can of beer up my dress and pull that out instead, then proceed to raise it in the air and shotgun it. WHAT?!
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  • Paige L.
    Super January 2021
    Paige L. ·
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    Oh. Oh my. It will be definitely something new!
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  • Savannah
    Beginner March 2021
    Savannah ·
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    Definitely agree about the music. I could never xD

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  • Cathy
    Devoted October 2019
    Cathy ·
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    Ugh. My fiance and his Best Man are insisting on the "Stupid Shuffle" because they say it is so easy to do. I'd rather have the Macarena.

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  • Cathy
    Devoted October 2019
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    No cake smashing. No garter/bouquet toss (we're doing the anniversary dance instead). Maybe no parent dances (our parents are too old), and definitely not doing the "save the top of the cake" thing. (My best friend did that, and she said it was like eating cardboard.)

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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Lol We are having BBQ but were also having some other options as well. HOWEVER, I totally feel you on the pumpkins. I don't want one pumpkin at my wedding or reception.
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  • Whitney
    Savvy May 2021
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    I am loving this thread! Smiley xd So many different opinions. Here's my list so far.

    - Nothing rustic. I have more of a modern aesthetic so nothing that would go with a barn venue (no burlap, no lace ribbons, no hay, no mason jars, no raw wood)

    - No country music. See item 1.

    - No traditional music at the ceremony. I don't like how dated and impersonal the bridal processional is and the standard recessional is so over the top. I'll be walking down the aisle to an instrumental version of "Can't Help Falling in Love." I haven't decided on the rest of the music, but instrumental covers of popular music is the plan.

    - No unity ceremony (candle, sand, etc.)

    - No phones during the ceremony. I want an unplugged ceremony so the only camera out is the one I paid for. I get so sad seeing friends' photos with nothing but cell phones in the background

    - No garter toss of bouquet toss. I'm over 30 so I don't need to parade out my 2 single, female friends. And the garter, just grossssss

    - No asking "Who gives this woman away?" I'm not chattel.

    - Nothing that is expected just because it's tradition. I'm not anti-establishment but I want our wedding to be a reflection of us. I'm not going to use standard readings or music just because that's what's always been done.

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  • D
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Totally agree. We paid for my maid of honors' dress, best man suit (that's it for the bridal party) and we are paying for each of their hotel rooms at the venue. Open bar is the way to go for us as well! Everybody just have fun!!
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  • D
    Dedicated October 2019
    Dawn ·
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    Awww come on...gotta feel the pumpkin love😁 Our reception is Oct 26, but the color scheme is gold/rose gold/ cream/blush/grey. I got artificial pumpkins of all sizes that I will be spray painting rose gold. I was also leaning toward pine cones, but fh said "let's not over-do it". 😂
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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
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    Yep Im with this! I love love love rustic, main jars etc... Like even before they were 'popular' lol
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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Too funny! My FH was like 'We dont really need decorations. Ill just get some pumpkins and hay bales we can throw around somewhere".... It was then I had to inform him I would take over the decorating, because this is our wedding and not a pumpkin patch with hay rides
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