what is with the no cash bar stand?

Amen Libra!!

I have crystal taste on a beer budget but that doesn't mean that I'm going to leave my guest high and dry. So I found a venue that would allow me to self cater and stock my own bar. I'm going to buy my liquor on a military base at discounted prices and food from costco and have my aunt cook and cousin(both of whom have catering experience). I also found a way to have a nice dress and lavish centerpieces AND an open bar with select drinks (just the stuff I know my family and friends will drink) and tons of food (lots of apps, 4 main dishes, 5 sides, salad, and a dessert buffet plus wedding cake and grooms cake). However if your guests are not the drinking type then it makes sense. I once went to an afternoon wedding it was dry and there was no music) However both the bride and groom were religious and their family are no dancers at all. At first I was confused and didnt understand it but when I got there and saw everything and everyone enjoying themselves I understood it.

Keatha please re-read my post...then rewind selecta and come again. If I were putting someone down....you would know it. If you feel that I did put someone down then maybe you feel guilty about something? Did I strike a chord? There have been many times I've had to listen to folks complain about spending too much money on a wedding and I took it in stride. Again my point.....cash bars are not the norm where I'm from......I wouldn't have a wedding without one.....that's me...as Shannon S. Pointed out it's the bs excuses for not treating your guests well ( however YOU define that) which irritates me. Then people will scratch their a$$es and wonder why folks were salty. Remember these are my opinions and my experiences...if you have had different great for you!

OK...first off, I am not having a cash bar. We are doing beer, wine and set-ups. One of our priorities is to serve our guests including some alcoholic beverages.

And my comment was not directed at you specifically, but at those who are so anti-cash-bar that they are calling those brides rude or selfish. And yes, there are people saying those things.

I concur that there are people who call the pro cash bar brides tacky but is it any better to call those of us that host it or expect it snobs? I get it we all pick a side here and bravo to you for providing some libations for your guests but let's face it there are brides and grooms who think they are doing their guests a favor by inviting them.....regardless of what it SHOULD be.....people come to functions in general with expectations. I'm a proud NYer and he'll yeah (most of us) have come to expect an open bar......it's not rude it's a custom if you will. Just as in other areas hosting an open bar may be considered snobbish or what have you.....ok it's late and I have made my point well enough.....

On a different note I wonder who will be the 200th poster on this thread.....hmmmmm

Lol....I agree with you Libra. I would not say you are a snob if you expect it if that is the norm in your area. Around here, someone who got all pissy because there wasn't an open bar would be considered a brat, but then again that's about grace not about open bar/cash bar.

Though come on...they get to see my lovely face! Isn't that reward enough. I throw them some crackers and a bottle of soda water. That should be good right?

Good night!

We did a partial cash bar at our daughters wedding. We hosted wine and sparkling wine. I wanted to host beer as well, but the bride and groom stated that their guests would not be beer drinkers. Looking back, I wish we would have done beer.

Anyway, in my area, a cash bar is not out of the norm, as long as guests know ahead of time, and as long as some items are available without charge.

Each area, and each wedding, is going to have different circumstances.

Mrs. Libragurl I think we went to the same wedding, lol.

Really did not think it would spin to this big of an issue! now i want drink!!!!

You could always just not have a bar at all. We are trying to keep people from getting trashed so we are having beer and wine coolers! This way nobody has to pay for anything, and most people could drink one or the other, everyone's happy!

@ keatha yes your sparkling beauty should be enough for the guests!

@ Candice I would have remembered you there......you would have been in tears after paying $3.00 for ginger ale and listening to the electric slide on scratchy wobbly speakers........so you know this means that 2 weddings equally sucked if you have a story too! This madness must be stopped!!!!!!! Oy vey!

@Samantha you think that having just beer and wine coolers will "keep people from getting trashed"?? SMH. Again another person worried about their gets drinking too much, if you don't trust your guests enough then you shouldn't invite them.

@chuwana we did the same thing with regards to the venue. One of our requirements for a venue was that we could bring our own alcohol so that we could stock the bar. We are going to have the following available for our guests (and when we host a party we always have MORE than this for them):

Bacardi Rum

Jack Daniels Bourbon

Johnnie Walker Red Scotch

Tanquery Gin

Jagermeister

Three Olives Vodka

Jameson Whiskey

Jose Cuervo Tequila

Bailey's Irish Cream

Cabernet

Charonney

White Zinfindel

Coors Light

Guiness

Yuengling

Champagne

@Glenn...we made it even easier on ourselves. Our venue WAS a bar! They had an affordable package, though most people went with beer because they had all good beers on tap - Blue Moon, Sierra Nevada, etc.

I swear, Wedding in a BAr is going to be the next big thing.

Glenn S. ( batting eyelashes) room for one more guest? I'll bring Sharon and we'll get in the pool if you like!

Below is a small table which housed SOME of the liquor we made available for our engagement party. We still had a few coolers of beer as well as the keg (this was at my parents house, their keg is always full).

Also there is a picture of my dad and NiseyyD's dad after several drinks and feeling no pain, let's just say they barely remembered this (there are tons of pictures of me and I definitely don't remember many of them, it was a good night). We encouraged everyone to get trashed and have fun and it worked out great.

Mrs. Libragurl - Pick me up on the way, I don't take up too much room in the car!

@Shannon yeah a bar would be fun and should be the next thing!

@libra Ha, I wish we had room for more, one of the problems with looking for a venue that you can bring your own booze is that you have limited options and ours isn't as big as I would like.

Ok Sharon and I will drink outside! And holy $hit I'm the 200 th poster!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What's my prize?!

Free shot of virtual Whiskey!

MRs. Libragurl - A mimosa, of course!