Too much? - Roles cards / Bridal Party

Way too much. I would hope that you know your bridal party and wisely chose competent people who know how to their "roles" and how to conduct themselves. If not, shame on you. Also, throwing you parties and showers is not a role. IJS. As for requesting sizes, FH and I are paying for their dresses. So, the only reason that I got their measurements was to order their dresses. That should be the only reason for you to request that information also. The packet is cute, but I think it's a turn off.

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How many answers do you think would be enough to prevent this adult from embarrassing herself with this plan?

Personally I would not be offended or think you were rude if I was one of your BM. I think sometimes the "instructions" can get a bit much, but what's included in the picture you posted seems fine to me. Not necessary, but perfectly fine.

ETA: but don't do this for your parents!!!!

I did a day of timeline with times everyone need to be where with addresses and info like lunch served, or be ready to put on dress by a certain time. Everyone seemed to like it because it was communication. Telling parents what they are expected to pay for might be a bit much.

I don't think they are horrible, demanding, etc...they are a little too much but then again if none of your girls know each other or live close by just a card outlining some interests, hobbies, how you meet, etc would be fine. As far as writing that their responsibilities include the bachelorette party is too forward. No one is required to first even give you a party, and secondly attend. Your girl are responsible for wearing and purchasing the dress you pick out and the color of shoe you want. If you require a specific pair of shoes, color, style, etc then that would be your responsibility to purchase them for the girls. Only you know your bridal party and if they would be offended or not.

Spend your time doing something else. i would honestly think this was bad joke if someone handed this to me.

I think it's a bit over the top personally.

I'm just going to repeat to OP that courthouse weddings are real weddings. Also repeating an answer to your question of whether or not it is extra. Yes.

If I got these, it would make me say no, no matter how good of friends we were. Super demanding and extra.

No! This is awful!!

This is as extra as the cost of guacamole at Chipotle

This is super gross. Just no.

I think it comes off a little too strong right away..

Eh, I think it's pretty obvious what their "expectations" are. This comes off a little overbearing.

From a fellow micromanager----The role card is overkill and annoying. Just tell them what dress, pearls, shoe type, none of this TBD stuff. You can tell them if they want their hair done it is $X and you need to know by X. The our day and my ladies card is fine.

Instead of cards like these I would wait until a month or so before the wedding and just write up a little info sheet that includes the details they'll need for the week of. On that sheet I would include what all they should be wearing, a quick schedule for the rehearsal/grooms dinner and wedding day. This is also where you could let them know about any salons that you would be going to for hair/nails/make up/etc. and if they would like to join. There's not really that much more they would need to know.

I’ve never heard of this, but if I were given this as a BM I would find it to be very rude. It makes it sound like the bridal party is your prop for your wedding, not friends who you should genuinely care about.

That's not being extra to me, I was thinking of doing something similar, but on one sheet type of deal, or two at the most, with just all the details of my big day!!!

These are cute because the "duties" aren't really demanding anything (feel beautiful, wipe away my happy tears). These do seem a little unnecessary but informative - maybe someone would like to know what you envision them wearing before they accept your BM proposal; or the schedule ... I wouldn't want to be in a wedding where I had to wake up before dawn to get ready.

I did these for my BMs and the pictures are exactly the same ones I found on Pinterest too. I put them in the boxes and they LOVED it all. They like the fact that they got details so early so their questions were answered ahead of time. I made a few changes to some of the duties card to add humor and my personal touch. You just need to do the same thing so it's not so serious.

I also used glossy paper to print them on, nothing too fancy was done to them since the boxes did that for me.

Have fun being creative with it!

Good luck!