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I have problem if Jim wants to go. He much rather I go with him, and we have gone together. He spent much more time in them when he was younger, and when he was single. I've never seen as a threat to our relationship in any way. He and I are very open about everything- and he woudl tell me exactly what he did. He knows that the boundaries are that we consider cheating, and what it would take to cross the line.

To me, a strip club is a place of employment. Women there are entertainers trying to make money. If that's the job they choose- more power to them. If FH wants to have a lap dance, fine. Here's $20, go enjoy yourself. But he always comes home to me...

Besides, he says my boobs are better than any stripper's he's ever seen. He's probably lying through his teeth- but I'm buying it.

@ Sharon, ok =)

@Denee - i wasn't forcing anything, I just gave my opinion (outlook as Krysten asked for). As the saying goes, opinions are like arseholes, everyone has one.

I have no problem with hy husband going to a strip club. None. I know where his heart is.

I also think that it is incredibly wrong to assume that any man who walks into a strip club will be enticed to cheat. If he is going to cheat, he's going to cheat. Regardless of the environment. Perhaps visiting a strip club is in order for some understanding here, before banning your man from such experiences. You just MIGHT like it! *gasp* But if you don't, or you have a problem, at least you know why.

I could care less if my DH went to a strip club. I know though that he's just not into that because he's seen it all having lived in Europe and also going to Singapore's "Four Floors of Whores", etc, etc... TBH, I'm more into strip clubs than he is. Even with my exes, I didn't care. At the end of the day, they come home to *me*.

I feel the women who equate strip clubs to cheating are idiots. Oh ye of little faith in your men. Just because he walks in there with his buddies doesn't mean he's going to do something. Whether or not he walks into a strip club, if he was open to cheating in any form, he'll find a way to do it. But hey, that's *my* opinion on the matter.

Look at Analy's post. Now look at mine. Look back at Analy's post. Now look at mine. This thread is now DIAMONDS!

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I agree with Analy and Miya. If your man is going to cheat, a strip club isn't the deciding factor. He can go out with the boys to a bar, pick up a chick and go home with her. HE can sign up for an online dating site and meet women that way. If he is going to stray- a strip club probably isn't going to be the place he does it.

I wouldn't be with him if he was into strip clubs no offense to those of you who work in that industry or enjoy going but I feel like I am woman enough and if he needs to look at someone else in that form to get his jollies off then ...peace out I don't need that. Im not super conservative but when it comes to marriage and commitment I feel this way personally for me and mine.

Didn't mean to cause an arguement just wanted an outlook on this from other people.It wasn't meant to slander anyones profession or anything else in that nature. Just opinions. For the ladies who gave me their opinions thank you

My man is going to one tomorrow for his bachelor party. I'm not upset with him at all about it. I'd rather have him go and tell me the truth, than have him lie to me because he's afraid of how I'm going to react.

If it's for his bachelor party...I not only am I NOT against it..but I encourage it! hehee I want strippers at mine..so why not some naked ladies for his? I think girls tend to forget that stripping is a job...and that strippers aren't out to steal your man or have sex with him..and the ones who do want that, usually charge an extra fee...and then it's not really stripping but prostitution. That's just my two cents.

But I think it was Analy who posted on the other stripclub thread--

Dancer @ Club= Fine with me

Dancer @ Hotel/House= UNACCEPTABLE

I myself don't care because all strippers do is take of their clothes for money and that's nothing and if you really trust ur man you should know that even if the offer to have sex even came up he would say no and leave, but i've been to strip clubs and i haven't seen that happen. but i'm alright with it. my FH doesn't like the strip clubs, he says if he wants to see a naked woman and pay for it he'll stay home and he can have me. he he he

I personally am quite ok with it if my hunny wants to go to a strip club. He, however, is not interested. So...moot point. I told him that if he wanted to go I would totally be up for going with him. I am much more open than he is. As for the comfort factor...I know I don't look anything like those women at a strip club...but if he wanted a stick he would not be with me...So I have nothing to be self conscious about

I don't have a problem with it. I have gon e with my man and even bought hima dance for fun. I'm really secure in the relationship and have no jealousy. In the past I had problems, but for some reason I don't with my FS

I'm with tee... I LOVE strip clubs, well lets just say enjoy haha I go without FS at times with one of my best gfs... I've been with the boys in both the club and house stripper situation and I prefer the club especially how HIS boys are and how things have ended previously. But in the end, who gives a F*** we all out to make a dollar and if my man is helping support someone through her job, not just for F**KS then whatever. As long as I know and he doesn't think that coming home at 5am is ok! there's limits

Fine by me.

"If someone is truly in love with their significant other, they aren't going to want to get their jollys [sic] from other people."

I think this is what is bothering me about this thread. I don't care about strip clubs; if NotFroofy wanted to go, I'd be fine with it, and would be fine with going with her if she wanted that. But neither of us is all that interested, so it's a nonissue for us. However, I think it is totally unrealistic to think that you can go on forever expecting your spouse never to get his/her jollies from other people. NotFroofy, my son and I all used to watch Farscape. It was perfectly clear to me that my son was watching for the plot, whereas NotFroofy was watching for the women in tight leather outfits. People, even happily married people, drool over movie stars, or check out the cute waiter, or otherwise notice the sexual attractiveness of people other than their spouses.

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And this bothers me not because I think it is a terrible thing for a man to have a bachelor party without strippers. In my first marriage, neither of us had a bachelor/bachelorette party at all. In my second marriage, no man was involved, and our (joint) bachelorette parties were totally tame.

Rather, this worries me because eventually, everyone here is going to be attracted to someone other than her spouse. If you recognize that this is normal, and that you can be faithful to your spouse even while being attracted to others, then that attraction will not be detrimental to your relationship. However, if you believe that being attracted to others means you are not "truly in love" with your spouse, you can easily get into a cycle of getting divorced because you are attracted to someone else and think that means you are no longer in love, then having the same thing happen with the next significant other a few years later, etc.