strip club

There is another post on this https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/shes-inquisitive-shes-mess-shes-just-asking/3878a0e7224dbc96.html

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As I said on the post Michelle pasted above, I really don't care. He knows what's going over the line and what's just having fun. My FH goes to strip clubs all the time when he's out of town with his surgeons (He's in medical sales) for whatever reason that's what they all want to do!!! He call's me drunk saying "Baabbbbbyyyyy, I loooooovvveee youuuuu, can I get a dance from Candy" or whatever their name is, I say have fun babe and he goes "Seeee, I told you my fiancé's the besttttt.. Babbbyy I love you, I wish I was with you... *then whispers* you are so much prettier than all the girls here..... lol truly cracks me up. I trust him, he's coming home to me so I don't care

@sydney - my ex is a surgeon and he said the same thing that they went to strip clubs all the time! lol. That's obviously not why we split up because I honestly don't care, I think half the time they go it's part of some event (FS and I have ended up a strip club after some of his navy parties, etc).

Now if they went by themselves... I think that's when I would have an issue with it.

This is the ultra conservative side of me coming out, but I'm not cool with it at all. I've explained my feelings on the subject to FH and he understands. I wish I could be cool with it (and more power to the ladies who are!), but I think I am just too insecure with myself to be ok with it.

If you aren't sure which side of this line you are on, may I suggest looking to see if there are any "pole studios" in your area! A friend of mine owns a Pole Studio where every day ladies, like ourselves, dance for fitness, to feel sexy, and learn a trick or two! At the end of your semester you can dance privately for him

I told my guy if his best man decided to take him there i'd be okay with it. But I know he won't go so i'm not worried about it.

I don't really care if he goes, I would actually go with him if he enjoyed it that much but my fs doesn't really like the strip club.

@Sydney, LOVE IT!! haha that's great!!

I'm ok with it. I've been to strip clubs. Hell, we've gone to strip clubs together!! It's just entertainment, and at night he's coming home to you (perhaps a bit frisky, but hey now, I enjoy that!). It's kinda like going to a movie, you are only allowed to watch. 99.9% of strip clubs will kick you out if you touch any way.

Besides, being in a marriage isn't about "letting" the other person do or not do things, it's about you both being ok with mutual decisions.

I told FH if he ever went to a strip club, I would go to the nearest male strip club and get a lap dance. He didn't like that idea too much. I figure when you love someone you're not going to open the doors to temptation. If someone is truly in love with their significant other, they aren't going to want to get their jollys from other people.

Absolutely no tolerance!

However, I have done the pole classes and love love love them!!

I'm against it and so is my hubby. He said the only way he would go is if I went with him. And I am all for trying the pole dancing class though :-)

Haha,I love some of the other comments!

I am SOO against it myself-but I'm fairly conservative when it comes to relationships and I believe they should be preserved as much as possible.

I don't think I should ever feel like I'm 'too insecure' too be okay with it since I just don't think its right from a (gasp!) christian standpoint.

FH isn't into all that-unless it's me he can see and touch anyway.

I have done lap dances/strip teases and such for him and I would LOVE to have a pole in our bedroom!

I've always told him that if he ever goes to one (I think I'd be hurt though...) I will go to a male strip performance.Basically if it's good for him it's good for me.He doesn't want to anyway,but he also would never want me to do that.

Honestly though,it doesn't always mean you're insecure if you just aren't okay with this type of thing.I think it's good to keep your relationship pure

You said it all Denee! I just think they are demeaning to women! Men just sit there and oogle over half naked women... no one is aloud to give my man a lap dance but me! BACK OFF!!

hehe

The pole classes are very empowering and an AMAZING workout!! Great pre-wedding workout!! (and you learn sexy moves for the wedding night!!!)

First of all, my relationship is no less pure than yours just because I used to and my DS does still work in a strip club. Secondly, consider a different perspective than what the general public is telling you. Engage yourself in the setting, then make your own conclusions based on what you know from experience. A lot of you ladies will do a strip tease or a lap dance for your man. It's not demeaning, it's liberating and empowering. You know that you're sexy enough to do something like that for your man and turn him on. Naturally, part of what's turning him on is that he knows you and loves you. The turn on stems from both your mind as well as your body. Not just that you're "that hot". So bump up that feeling of empowerment a notch, and you now have a woman that can to only turn on her man, who loves her for her body AND her mind, but you can also turn on a man who doesn't know you from Eve. While paying off two cars, a five bedroom house, and your college education all at once.

I'll say it again. I hate this topic so much when it comes up on this forum. Because it makes a lot of you ladies say stupid isht and act like b*tches. And you don't even realize how offensive you're acting. Unfortunately, it just keeps coming up over and over. But it really sucks to have to sit here and read comment after comment of people contributing to the demeaning and negative connotations you claim to be so against.

Everyone is different. But for me and my relationship... its cheating. plan and simple.

Different strokes for different folks so if you wanna work at a club... go for it. Its just not for me

That's fine. Some people are okay with things and some people aren't. My point was not to say that you're wrong for not being okay with it. My point is that you're contributing to the idea that it's demeaning by making assumptions and blanket statements about how the business operates as well as the type of people who work in or frequent such places. If you really want to give an opinion based on fact, the only way to be positive you're right is to get the facts for yourself, and not just go on what your TV tells you.

Carmen,we don't expect you to agree with us since it's what you do.....I never said anything against the actual 'dancer' but the fact that I TRULY do not think allowing that type of behavior is healthy in a relationship,whether it be a male or female 'dancer'.

Oh,and I'm sorry if my opinion is stupid and makes me a bitch for saying so...