Rant/advice! Engagement on the rocks

It's not rent free we split rent and bills. His sisters are just stuck up. He reason is because we were going to get apartment at the time we are not ready for kids and apparently we are immature.

You sound like a brat. You keep saying that they're ignorant but your only issues that you bring up are that she said you take too many selfies and said you two weren't ready for kids. Honestly, if you're living with your FFIL and FBIL, then you aren't ready for kids. Just because you don't agree with someone doesn't make them ignorant.

If they can be condescending then why can't I? Hasn't anyone heard treat others how you want to be treated? The place is technically my Fh and FBIL. I'm not a brat I just don't take crap from anyone.

And that comment right there is why people are calling you immature. So how old are you?

Except you take crap from your FSIL and then expect your FH to go tell her off for you.

Eta: If you call them ignorant bitches here, I can't imagine you're kind to them in real life, that's probably why they talk to you like that. (Although I don't see what you're throwing a fit about with either comment. You don't have your own place to live yet, you're not ready for kids. Maybe you do post a lot of selfies, is she not allowed to mention it?)

Good lord, because theyre your FHs family and out of respect for your FH you deal with it. That attitude shows zero respect for your FH and if you have no respect for your FH then why are you with him much less marrying him?

Your marriage is on the rocks because of a stuck up FSIL?? Wow. I think we all know that we are marrying into a certain level of crazy. Every family has "that" person. I kinda wonder if you and FSIL don't get along because you are very similar. Stop asking her for help and stop talking wedding with her. I highly recommend that you also look into counseling to work on coping and communication skills.

Oh honey, you sound like you might be quite young and immature. Your future in laws expressing concern over major life decisions is warranted. Quite frankly, I also don't think you are ready for kids.

Expressing concern over small things like Facebook does not warrant a fight with your fiancé. And not that he's not talking to you, I'm guessing there's a bigger communication issue at play here which really should be addressed.

I'd recommend you find a good family counselor who can help with both the communication challenges you face (calling his sister names, saying "excuse me..." to defend yourself to his family, his silent treatment towards you) and can give you tools to help defend yourselves as a unified front to his family.

I agree he does need to share some of that responsibility, but a good counselor will help coach him on how to do it effectively.

Good luck to you both!

Oh my god! I would have laughed in her face!

Honestly I want to know how old you are and how old his sisters are. Non of this sounds like it's coming from more mature adults. For the help and planning I'd you think they are so ignorant why did you want them to help plan the wedding and help make the centerpieces. Honestly if my in laws where so bad all the time I would not want their help on a big day in my life.

I suggested that with my FH but he thinks everything is fine and we don't need help. Coming from person that shuts down every time there's an argument. I have to pry a conversation to solve things. That's what he does he runs away or just don't talk.

I'm 27 and she's 29 if you all want to know lol she kept asking to please let her help so figured OK. Maybe be fine but back of my mind I had weird feeling something would happen.

My SIL wanted to get going on planning and kept asking when I was coming over. So I'm like OK I'll come over she planned a wedding, I never have

So she graciously offered to help you, made a joke about selfies, and you blew up and called her names? Neat.

@future mrs flood89 if you think his family is just plain ignorant and you are tired of them you need to start thinking about how to improve the relationship..... Believe it or not when you marry someone you marry his/her family too to a certain point and having this issues will have a nasty weight on your relationship with FH. Also I understand you are already stressed out about the wedding and all the planning involved but you sound pretty immature and stubborn yourself in some of your comments..... I agree with some of the other girls let it go and do not ask for help from your FH family

Maybe you need a sense of humor. She was making fun of your selfies which at 27, no one needs to be doing and made a joke out of not helping with centerpieces if you kept posting them. Maybe you don't understand her humor

Could you please type in sentences using standard grammar? I'm finding it really difficult to understand what you're trying to express.

Honestly, if your reactions to your fights with your FH is that your relationship is doomed and falling apart, you're in for a rough go.

I think you have great advice from the ladies here, I just think you don't want to hear it.

Winter Wonderland Bride... your lack of selfies is astonishing... how do u you make sure people know how cute your makeup is that day?