Planning My Own Bridal Shower

Pancakes, NWR Garfield had a summer home in the town I grew up in too! (Long Branch, NJ). Actually, several presidents did. When we had my nephew's christening my FH whispers to me, "Why is there a stained glass window of Ulysses S. Grant in your church?" Lol. He went there.

Wow what an awful situation. I would never ever let your sister be "in charge" of something and do not let your mom talk to you that way...

I'm sorry that sounds awful! I would rather my family do nothing for the wedding, which they aren't doing anything, rather than them forcing me to do whatever they wanted. Yuck!I hope it works out for you, though.

And she's pissed at me. That didn't take long.

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Omg yes, just cancel this whole thing. Let your bridal party/MOH plan it and let your horrible sisters and mom just be guests. Who cares if your sister already wrote out invites (on construction paper??) -too bad so sad she spent a couple hours on it, its really not a big deal since she hasn't sent them and no money has been paid down. Re-use the favors you bought at your new and improved shower lol.

Thanks, guys. I'm a pushover wuss. That's the way it is :/ I need to work on it. MOH is calling her. I feel so guilty she has to do it this way. I didn't want her to have to deal with this insanity. But my MOH does not take shit from anyone. Lol.

Pancakes, I am sorry that this is happening to you. I hope this isn't taken the wrong way but I just wanted to add that sometimes you just have to "fight back" even if is family members. I am a firm believer that family is important; however, no one has the right to make you miserable and say horrible things to you. NO ONE. Believe me when I say it is hard at first (especially when you are the peacemaker and don't like to cause others stress) but the first time you politely put people in their place, they'll be less likely to try to badger you into doing what they want the next time. As for your shower, I would let your MOH plan it and have a great time. You deserve it-laugh, eat good food, have fun, and surround yourself with people who genuinely love and care for you.

I'm sorry Your sister shouldn't be such a meanie. I'm no pushover, want me to call her? Lol That'd be fun! Hopefully your MOH will deal with her and you'll have your shower put on by non-crazy people

Edit: Non-crazy people who love you

How about we "shower" ourselves in tequila and tacos instead of you dealing with this nonsense?! I'll meet you in Tremont in 20 mins lol

(If I were your sister, this is the kind of text you would receive from me. Sending you hugs, they sound like crazy fucks. Good luck!!)

This is a time of happiness for you and your MOH is doing that for you....making it a happy time. Your post when you said she was taking care of it and getting a venue was HAPPY. Just tell them you no longer want want them to handle it and let them be angry. This is your time.

Your MOH sounds like a good woman. Although it will be difficult, let her handle things from here. She truly will only need addresses and then you'll just need to arrive on time looking cute and get that drink in your hand Perchance your sister or mom try to give you a hard time from here, you can respond saying that now that the shower is in experienced hands the details of the event will be a surprise for you and they shouldn't reach out to you as a planning contact point for the party. Showers really should be planned FOR the bride, and apparently your MOH can be trusted to plan one!

This is awful so sorry you're going through this. I would offer her the $60 and have the MOH plan it the way you want it.

Pancakes, send me a msg with your registry info or post your link...i'll shower you.. and i think a few others here will also.. since you were so selfish and were keeping the virtual shower list up to date..

Oh hun I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with this. I have violent drug dealer brothers so I know what it's like to be scared of your family, I'm just thankful mine are brothers so they don't give a flip about my wedding. I dunno what to say just sending you virtual hugs and I hope everything works out. Just try and remember what this wedding is about and keep your head up, hopefully once you're married you'll be able to focus more on building your own family than dealing with the drama of your relatives. Sending good vibes your way <3

And I'm totally with ImtheOne4HIm I'd be totally game to join in on a virtual shower for you, you deserve it!

Your family is so awful. Is there any plan to move far, far away from them at any point in the future?

Oh Lord and I thought my sister's could get crazy. I hope you are asks to get a proper shower from your moh.

Thank you guys, but no. I already got virtually showered by a bunch of girls so I was extremely lucky to have so many sweet girls send me awesome stuff! My older sister is not allowing the shower to be cancelled. I am getting a shower in MI for FH's family so it's not like I won't have a nice shower. His family has been awesome and very sweet to me.