Planning My Own Bridal Shower

I missed the original post, but I just went through and read everything. This is fucking awful, and seems to only get more hostile the more you call her on her bullshit. I'm an outsider and even I can see the holes punched into her story with her telling you invites were sent out/not sent out like 3 different times.

Ok. This one is my fault for responding in the first place.

ETA: She is correct that I did uninvite her to the play because of how she was acting and because I felt she would try to harm my MOH who would also be there (her and I and our SOs got discount tickets to a few shows together), or at the very least get us kicked out of the theatre. But that was after she told my MOH that her and my friends should throw our own shower, insinuating that they were not allowed at the shower down south.

Yeah, My MOH is now handling everything for the shower. I'm just concerned about them spending money, though. I feel guilty. I keep telling her to spend as little as possible on the shower. But I know this shower is one I am actually looking forward to. She is still searching for venues (the one we both wanted is actually closed that day because of a softball tournament next door and they don't want guests to be worried about parking concerns) but she said she would host at her house if all else fails. I just have to figure out if I am inviting my two sisters or not. I kind of feel like I have to invite my mother. But I'm sure she won't come because she will complain it's too far and she never drives on the freeway (yet she doesn't have an issue driving on the freeway to this sister's house to take care of her dogs while she is away on trips all the time). A lot less stressful now, anyways. And we now get to have a place that allows wine so that's a positive

Ugh my sister is bad too we don't have a close relationship, and she was shocked/hurt when I asked her to be a BM in the wedding and my bff to be MOH my family all said I should giver her what she wants but for the first time I decided no. I took some advice out of Amy Poehler's book "...Make NO a sentence." Every time it was brought up I said "No. I've made my decision, its not up for discussion." People were upset at first but when they realized I wasn't changing my mind on it they've stopped questioning me. You're an adult you can make your own decisions, you have chosen to get married, you don't need people making those choices for you. I know it's hard because you don't want to deal with temper tantrums, and being bullied but giving in to them teaches them they can push you around and do what ever they want to get their way. She is being a bully, pushing you around threatening you with empty threats, and when you call her out on her shit she has a temper tantrum like a 2 year old. Stand up for yourself. Say No. thats it and walk away from her as soon as you walk away she has no one to scream at, so she'll freak out at your mom. Your mom will call you and if you say my answer is no I already told her that if theres nothing else you want to talk about I'm going to have to let you go because I'm busy right now and can't talk *click* done repeat process until they get it. I'm sorry you have to deal with this *HUGS* follow your heart and HEAD hun talk to the FH about it and do what you know is right. <3