HockeyGirl
Dedicated June 2018

Parents! How are you incorporating your kids in the wedding?

HockeyGirl, on December 14, 2017 at 3:14 PM Posted in Planning 0 33
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I have a 4 year old son from a prior relationship, and he's SO excited about the wedding. He says it's my, FH's, and his wedding. He really wants to be a full part of it, and I want to incorporate him to honor that all three of us are becoming a family, while also being realistic about a 4yo's attention span. So far my ideas are, he'll skate me "down the aisle" along with my dad, and while FH & his mom do the mother-son dance, I'll also dance with my son ("House of Gold" by TwentyOne Pilots.

Looking for any and all ideas to involve DS more Smiley smile I'm sure he'll want to stand with us during the ceremony. What have other parents done?

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  • Taylor
    Savvy April 2020
    Taylor ·
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    My brother and I were included in the ceremony. My stepdad got a necklace for my brother to match the one he always wears and he got me a small ring. He gave them to us just before him and my mom exchanged rings.

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated September 2018
    Brittany ·
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    I have a 10 year old. I'm planning to have him walk me down the aisle. That's all I've thought up so far though. Wish I could be more help!

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  • Red Queen
    VIP May 2018
    Red Queen ·
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    My son will be the ring bearer. He's nine.

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  • Danielle
    Super March 2018
    Danielle ·
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    My daughter is walking me down the aisle and we are doing a sand ceremony with all 3 of us. We have also tossed around the idea of FH presenting her with a necklace or something as his promise to always be there for her as well.

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  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    Not a parent, but my parents remarried when I was 7 and my little sister and I were both flower girls. My sister actually stood up at the alter with them during the ceremony because she was confused and wanted to be near them, which was really sweet and is a funny memory to look back on.

    My best friend is getting married in 2019 and her little one will be around 18 months, and they're planning on having her be the flower girl. We just went to a wedding about a month ago where their daughter was the flower girl, and she was almost 1. The groom walked his mom down the aisle, then circled back around and carried their daughter down the aisle because she did not want to walk haha. It was so sweet!

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  • LoveAlwaysWin
    Devoted August 2018
    LoveAlwaysWin ·
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    I have two boys and FH has a daughter

    Flower girl

    Ring bearer

    Jr. groomsmen

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  • bluevelvet
    Devoted October 2017
    bluevelvet ·
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    My sons are older (20 and 18) and they were my Best Men. I did not come down an aisle so no escort needed. Hubby has no children. One held the ring and my bouquet during flowers, the other one signed the marriage license.

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  • HockeyGirl
    Dedicated June 2018
    HockeyGirl ·
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    Thanks for all the ideas! Keep 'em coming!

    We're not doing the traditional flower girl/ring bearer thing (we're getting married on an ice rink, didn't want to involve other's kids who may have questionable skating ability), but we could simply put him "in charge" of the rings. I like the blessing idea!

    We're doing a handfasting, I wonder if there's an opportunity there?

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  • Staci
    Super February 2018
    Staci ·
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    Our son just turned 2. The plan is him being the ring bearer. If that doesn't work he will walk down with FH but then again he's 2! So really who knows.

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  • HockeyGirl
    Dedicated June 2018
    HockeyGirl ·
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    @rica Oh, the guests will be seated in the stands, just the WP on the ice, they all know how to skate. Most are hockey players (it's how FH & I met - we both play).

    But we are hosting an open skate after the ceremony. Most of our guests do know how to skate, and for those that don't/don't want to, we'll also have some card & board games set up.

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  • WHO? Mrs. Jones
    VIP December 2016
    WHO? Mrs. Jones ·
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    We eloped at the courthouse, and our son (newly 4 at the time) stood with us the entire time, holding our rings. He held my bouquet when we took our rings, then he got in on our hugs at the end! (1st pic)

    We had a vow renewal and celebrated with our family, and he (now 5) also stood with us while holding his dad's hand the entire time. He took my hand when our officiant began talking about our family during the ceremony! lol. He's a huge part of our life, obviously, and it was important to us that he was included fully.

    He had similar sentiments toward it being "our" wedding. It was awesome! He loved it, and loved being involved. He also helped us cut the cake, and I had a special dance with him (which we practiced for!). He's my boooooooo lol.




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  • Amandaw
    VIP April 2018
    Amandaw ·
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    We are including my son into the sand ceremony and I will be having him as my ring bearer and doing a special dance with him just us.

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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
    Amanda ·
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    I have 3 daughters .. the ages at the wedding will be 10 , 7 and 2 .. my oldest is walking me down the aisle and then standing as a bridesmaid . My 7 y/o is going to be the ring bearer and my l/o is our flower girl

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  • Amandaw
    VIP April 2018
    Amandaw ·
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    I also let him see my dress and help with some of the small planning like the candy buffet

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  • Kim
    Super August 2017
    Kim ·
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    Ours are 12,12 and 13. My son (the 13 year old) walked me down the aisle (and was a jr groomsman) and the girls carried and handed us our rings (and were jr bridesmaids). When our officiant asked "who gives this bride and groom to one another" all three stepped forward and said "we do" together. While we wanted them to feel included we also didn't want to take away from the fact that it was a wedding between DH and myself.

    ETA, I forgot to include that we had a special dance where each one of us rotated dancing with all three kiddos.

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  • Jessi
    VIP December 2017
    Jessi ·
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    My 18 year old son is walking me down the "aisle" (there isn't really a traditional one, thus the quotes) and holding the rings for us.

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  • Bailey
    Devoted January 2018
    Bailey ·
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    My son from my previous wedding is walking me with my dad and our unity sand will be for all 4 of us (I have a daughter with my fiance) coming together.

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  • Valerie
    Devoted September 2018
    Valerie ·
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    My six year old will be the ring bearer

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  • FinallyaRoy17
    VIP October 2017
    FinallyaRoy17 ·
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    My son was my ring security and hes 8. My daughter was 5 at the time and she was my petal patrol. They were very excited. Also from a previous marriage they bith are. We also did a sand ceremony with the kids. My son stood behind my H the whole time and he times he cried.

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  • Crystal
    Devoted July 2018
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    I'm a little sad to mention. My Fh's daughter (14) doesn't want to be a part. But, my 8yr old son will be ring bearer and my daughter will be a flower girl with her little sister

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