Not Engaged yet but still planning my Wedding.

Awesome troll kimi k!

If that is the case, at least we're getting some diversity in trolls finally!

Awww what a pretty troll. Mr. Troll is a lucky man

I agree with some of the ladies here. The planning process should not be the main focus.

I myself never had an idea of what my wedding would look like... Until a few months ago when I got engaged I love getting input from my fiance and his help means a lot, but like my priest said, too many people spend a lot of time planning for the wedding day and not for a lifetime of marriage

When this post first came up, I started to post some huge comment, but ended up discarding this post as if it was a troll...

I think it is.

Whether its a troll or not i would just like to say that planning YOUR wedding instead of one that represents the couple is selfish and i would never want to marry someone like that. and if i started dating someone and they were like "oh i already have my wedding planned" i would run.

What the what!? Your not even in a relationship, yet your planning your wedding...um...weird.

I call it a 2 for 1 troll...the one "ashley" supporting the crazy

WHAT MRS. CLARK?! Nooooooooooo, just because this is the only post they've participated in inside the forum, have a default pic, and not since defended themselves..??

After all, they live on opposite sides of the country!

LOL I cant anymore with these trolls!!! WTH is it a free wedding if you are a troll groom or not???

LOL I cant anymore with these trolls!!! WTH is it a free wedding if you are a troll groom or not???

I have defended myself... ahem... And after all the comments posted here why would I post a pic of myself. Everyone would just make fun of me. I was just looking for some support. I guess I was looking in the wrong spot. I'm sorry if I am still single, and am not lucky enough to have found the man of my dreams to marry. I would love to post on other forums but have no advice since I am still single. Thank you for all your support.

Wow. Y'all are being so mean.

@Hilary- If you want to plan your dream wedding, go for it. Just dont let it consume you. I get day-dreaming about your wedding colors and how your reception will be, but you should start focusing on getting the groom!

We are only mean to the time-wasting trolls...but yes, go out and find Mr Troll and live happily ever after....

@Hilary, I would like to personally thank you for entertaining by bringing up a fabulous topic to discuss. It would speak volumes if you changed your defult to a real picture of you. I have a friend that planned her wedding all through high school. After we graduated she thought she met the man of her dreams, fell in love, he proposed and 2 years later she got the wedding she had been planning for years. Exactly 1 year later on their anniversary date, he filed for divorce. It's easy to be blinded when you want the party of a lifetime. The love of your life will come around eventually, until then enjoy being single. Love always comes when you least expect it.

@Christine: We're not sooo mean. We're honest. That's why I joined this site over Project Wedding & Weddingbee. I'd prefer someone tell me I'm crazy and what I want is ugly on a forum rather finding out the hard way.

I gotta say, Kimi K...sometimes I think you are a little harsh on here, but that was very well said! And sometimes people need to hear the truth...even if it's brutal! And if it is the brutal truth, I would MUCH rather hear it from a stranger!

I had a friend that had a portfolio since she was in high school, she had her dress, shoes, ring, venue etc all picked out before she got married, BUT she too didn't have anyone to marry yet... She dated a few times, and kept her book with her all the time... Then she met the one, he found her portfolio in her closet, and made ALL her dreams come true, even down to the proposal!! Now she is happily married with 2 beautiful babies and a beautiful home!! Maybe it can happen, just keep your dreams real!!

We are definitely not mean, we're helping this poster realize that she's a bit crazy for planning a wedding that DOESN'T exist! There's not even a potential groom FFS!

I have to say Hillary I read your post when you first posted and I can identify with you. I have been planning my wedding for over 10 years, saving photos on my computer. I actually left The Knot b/c they women there were so nasty about my enthusiasm for my "wedding" although I wasnt engaged yet (I was in a relationship). I came to WW and found the women to be much nicer overall.

I dont think there is anything wrong with being immersed in wedding plans as long as it's not consuming you and your idea of marriage. I agree with some of the ladies, you should make sure your focus is just as much on self growth and finding a good mate as it is on weddings.

I was that woman who would buy wedding books just to look at them and fantasize. I even bought a necklace two years ago that I wanted for my wedding, I am probably wearing that necklace in my wedding this year. I started planning events over 10 years ago and love it. It's a great outlet.

I CAN identify with you and I'm sorry the women on here have been so rude to you. I know it is not "normal" but it's who you are. I don't regret any of my "planning" b/c now I am super organized and know exactly what I want.

As far as the wedding being about you and your FH, that is absolutely true. I was completely open to meeting someone who might hate my ideas but I didnt mind changing them and creating new ones with him.

I hope you know marriage is hard work and takes a lot of commitment and the wedding is such a very small part of it.

Wish you well.