Not Engaged yet but still planning my Wedding.

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Lol yea i think you need to focus ur energy on not being weird.

NOPE- I hated weddings. I was too busy trying to find myself and discover what I truly want in a relationship...

Heather has a point. Nothing wrong with creeping but get out there and make things happen!

Umm definitely not! I get it you consider yourself a planner which is all dandy...have you ever thought about becoming a wedding planner? Because planning your wedding and you aren't in a relationship is just a little too much for me - focus your time on something else

NOPE

Don't you think that it'll be a little offputting for a guy/girl that meet to find out that the only thing that you don't have planned for your wedding is a person to marry? All that you'll probably end up doing is scaring off people. Good luck.

Gina has a good idea - maybe you should look into becoming a wedding planner.

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You need to look for a relationship. A wedding is just a party the part that is important is the marriage AFTER the party. And what if you find the perfect person and they don't like anything about the wedding you've already planned?

Really ... no this isn't a good thing ... I didn't even THINK of my own wedding till I met my husband and we had been dating nearly 3 years ... Sure I went to weddings as all my friends and cousins were marrying and I was like oh I like that, that's pretty ... but no never planned it ... I at least waited till he had a deposit down on my engagement ring before I even started creeping ...

Get out there and find yourself ... the worst thing you can do is rush something like this because in the end you'll end up absolutely miserable ...

Interesting......I heard of planning before the engagement because it was a mutual agreement that the next step was marriage; but even that is a stretch for some people. In your case I don't know if I would call it wedding planning since you are still single??? maybe creating a scrapbook of your ideal wedding with pics of dresses, flowers, etc.

Ummmm....I agree with the other ladies. Focus on finding a partner first. First things first :0)

People do things differently. I wouldn't let anyone else's opinion discourage you. If that's what you want to do, then do it. But be prepared to compromise on changes when the right person happens to come along. Good luck!(:

I started planning our wedding before we were engaged - but we had been together a year and a half and FH was dropping hints that he was going to propose soon. I don't really see a point in planning a wedding without a possible groom in the picture. Like others have said - it's his day too. What if he doesn't like what you have planned? Plus, it takes a lot of the excitement out of actually being engaged.

I think you really need to focus your time and energy on planning for a good marriage. The wedding is one day. The marriage is what is supposed to last forever. And one good party won't make that part good.

Also, if you're so focused on the wedding, then 1) No guy will want to date you, because they'll be afraid of being rushed into things. 2) You'll settle for a guy who isn't that great for you because you want the wedding and not have to wait for it.

There is nothing wrong with looking at some stuff for a wedding- in very limited quantities. But you should be preparing yourself emotionally and financially for the marriage and the rest of your life instead.

So what if you get engaged, and then find out that your FI has a different vision of what the wedding should be like? Will you throw him back for interfering with your plans?

I will admit I looked at photos on the internet and such when I was in a relationship with my high school boyfriend.

But I will tell you now that I am actually getting married all those things I thought I wanted out of a wedding then are not exactly as important as I thought they were. I have an entire different set of dreams and visions for the big day.

I think its natural to dream about your dream wedding day from the time your a little girl but don't get so caught up in that you forget to find the person you actually want to share that day with.

I don't think that I am insecure or need to find myself. I think it takes a lot of confidence to know what you want in your future and have the determination to go out and find it! I think my future husband will want to see my dream wedding come to life and will support me. Also, I think the reason I haven't found a guy yet is because I don't want to settle. Just like my wedding, I know exactly what I want in my FH.

Gina- I like your idea of being a wedding planner. Thank you!

I have a great question. How old are you?

Nope, in fact my mother's terrible marriage made me want nothing to do with getting married.

I'm kind of curious as to what exactly is your dream wedding? What if you meet a wonderful man who does not agree to your vision? Would you not marry someone you love who loves you over a wedding? It's okay to dream a little, but planning it out in near exact detail, and reading wedding blogs daily is a little too much. It' also a bit naive to say that your future husband will want to see your dream come to life. What if he's let's say a construction worker, who makes a decent honest living, but doesn't have tens of thousands just lying around to spend on a wedding? Or let's say he does have the money but would rather spend it on something else. Would you still marry him?

I am sure everyone has a thought of being married, but not actually have it planned when they don't even have a bf. It's not worth the effort. What happens when the wedding is over? Then what will you do? If you have no idea on that answer, then I suggest you stop planning. Besides, if you have it pre-planned, you may scare of some guys.