Not Engaged yet but still planning my Wedding.

Sorry Hilary but I'm with everyone else .... Definitely did not plan my wedding (not even 1 detail) before being engaged ..... Part of the fun of it for me is that it's something we do together. And as Pan mentioned .... what if the man you do eventually become engaged to has totally different vision for the wedding?

UMMMMMMM you have the wrong website I think you are looking for EHARMONY.COM or something for a relationship... not wedding wire this is definately not the place for you. How about looking for a relationship ... the old saying dont put your cart before the horse welllll that is what you are doing!!! Lets be real!

I agree with the other ladies. A wedding and all the pomp and circumstance that is brings is nice but it’s about a lot more than that. A wedding is about two becoming one so instead of focusing so much energy on the planning side you might want to focus on you and finding the right person to spend your life with. All the rest will fall into place after that.

Nah, planning a wedding is a lot of work....there is so much more living you could be doing right now

I haven't won the lottery yet, but I know that I am so I have been planning and spending because I know it is going to happen.

It's like saying I am going to buy a pair of size 0 pants that I cannot wear right now, just so I will be motivated to lose weight. Honestly- by the time I lose weight and I'm able to wear the pants, they might fit weird, or be out of style, or I might just change my mind and want to wear a skirt instead.

There's nothing wrong with daydreaming, I daydream about having babies all the time. But I don't devote hours to planning a life that doesn't exist yet.

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but if I were you I would either become a wedding planner, or find a new hobby that might give you an opportunity to actually meet someone and forget about weddings for now.

It's not a Sweet 16 Birthday party - it's not just about YOU and just your dreams...

Weddings involve two people. I would think you would want to include things that he likes but also relate to you as a couple.

True true true.... @kris why not ... You can have your dream life and then post on here how things are going.... I like to see that we can dream about things that are not happenning like a size zero.... for me that day will not come but I am gonna plan like it is going to come!!!

This chick needs a hobby for real ... not living in a fantasy life ... GET A GRIP sweetheart and go on eharmony and find your forever mate... please.=]

I think that same mentality is what has Kim Kardashian in the situation she is in today. Forget wedding planning. Concentrate on enjoying life. If you're not ready to settle what's the point? Plus by the time you find someone wedding trends will be so different you will most likely scrap your plans. Plus it takes the fun out of being engaged.

Don't get me wrong, I have always thought of getting married since I was a little girl and loved watching shows such as Say Yes to The Dress and movies about getting married....but until I met my FH I had given up on dating and finding someone who even had the qualities of someone I would like to spend the rest of my life with (there are a lot of not so nice men out there that I came in contact with).

Take your time; its okay to think about getting married in the future, but I wouldn't necessarily plan for one either at this point. You are more likely to settle for someone if you continue on the route your going. I found that when I stopped looking for love, then I found the love of my life and soulmate

I never had a thought about my wedding before I got engaged. For a while I was convinced that I wasn't going to get married.
I think you need to focus on other things in your life rather than a wedding right now. Just imagine, should you find your FS and get engaged, you might be so jaded by everything you've already seen that planning your wedding just won't be any fun anymore.

First, I don't think you are crazy. I think all little girls dream of their perfect wedding because of the childhood stories (like Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, etc..) we all hear. It's nice to already have some ideas in your head, but you should never use 'wanting to have a WEDDING' as an excuse to rush a marraige. If you keep focusing just on having a wedding, then you are either going to run off an viable suitors, or you are going to end up with someone that you aren't really meant to spend the rest of your life with just because he proposes. Honestly, just relax and have fun.

Takes 2 to compromise in planning a wedding..it's not like a fairy tale party or something that you can just swap any jo shmo (or joan shmo) into your vision..it should reflect the both of you.

Wow. Single life leads people to do crazy, crazy things.

Um no way...

by the sounds of it, it seems like you would bring marriage up right off the bat...if that's the case...good luck, cause it'll creep guys out

You don't sound crazy, you ISSSSSSSS CRAZAAAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!! Please find something more beneficial to do with your time. Like volunteering, it'll make you feel good :-D I promise.

I can understand your obsession...I love weddings...I loved them prior to getting married and I ended up starting up my paid hobby. I always thought about what my wedding would be like...but my dreams and ideas were quickly thrown out when my husband wanted a different time of year to get married and we found a venue that was opposite of what I had ever imagined.

I also never joined bridal forums until I actually got engaged...I think coming on here is a tad bit much...but that's just me...I was also afraid that I'd jinx myself if I started doing 'wedding planning' for my own wedding before I ever was engaged.

I think maybe looking at doing wedding planning might be a good idea for you. See if you can go to some networking groups in your area for wedding and event planning and make some connections...it might help you get a better grasp on what you really want.

Hillary thats kind of creepy to me. I hope when you get in a real relationship you don't scare the poor sap with all your wedding ideas on the 1st date. Good luck!

Heck no before FH i didnt even want to marry

Soooo obvious ...