Not Engaged yet but still planning my Wedding.

The women on here are not rude. They are honest.

Rude: Offensively impolite or ill-mannered

Honest: Free of deceit and untruthfulness

Trolls?!?!?

Indicators:

1. Salt & Pepper defult (typically new people introduce themselves, then eventually change it into something more personal)

2. There was no introduction

3. The question is bound to get a lot of uproar and attention.

4. The only post ever made. Never contributed to any other questions or ideas posted.

5. Didn't reply much and then disappeared.

This is a wedding site for newly engaged or at least dating. Someone that comes on here and the first (and only) post they make discusses how they've planned their entire wedding and they're single - come on. Really??

I love when people get comments that arent what they want to see or totally agree with the OP, immediately they honest comments and opinions are "mean". Telling the truth without insulting or being negative is honest not mean. Mean is when someone pushes you down in the sandbox and calls you a "dumb doodyhead" but this isnt grade school so if you post to an open forum, prepare for all comments.

Here is some advice for finding "Mr. Right". Quit looking. Most women who have a hard time with a lasting relationship seem to have a list of criteria. Using this list they than weed out a lot of great guys who could be the one for them, but don't match the list. I'm not saying settle for just anyone, but you may need to broaden your dating pool. FH is not at all like what I thought I wanted, but he is everything I needed but never knew I needed, and I love him more than I ever thought it was possible to love anyone.

Wow...you guys are harsh tonight! Lol

Btw, what the ladies said about the groom wanting different things is VERY true.

Before I even met him, I knew I wanted a 1950's wedding [1950's EVERYTHING including music]

The only thing 1950's about it now that we are planning is the style, hair, makeup, attire, when the wedding party walk in and when I walk in...sounds like alot, but he wanted to put some of his choices in there too...now the wedding will only look 1950's

all im saying is be prepared to change some things when a actual groom comes in the pic

I don't want to discourage you or antyhing but you need to figure out things in your own life before you plan a wedding! I admit, I looked at wedding stuff before getting engaged, but not when I wasn't in a relationship or growing up. I tried focusing on my own life and relationships before doing any of that. I would stop doing what you're doing and focus on yourself and your life first. THEN, when you find the right person and are with them for awhile and feel the love, THEN you start talking about getting married. THEN once you are engaged, start worrying about the details and decisions. Life will pass you by otherwise!

Best of Luck

I have noticed lately this is starting to become a common practice . It was a lady last year that planned an entire wedding without a boyfriend or groom. Then she started dating a bunch of different men to find a groom within 90 days . It still seems creepy to me . Honey its better things to do with your time . Hell I'm engaged and dont want to plan the wedding . It will be nothing like your dreams .Planning a wedding is a second full-time job .

Not to be a Debbie Downer, but what if your journey doesn't include marriage. Hinging your happiness on something you can't 100% control might lead to disappointment. I think it's healthier to have more personal goals and ways to enrich yourself. If Mr.Right comes along, icing on the cake.

I just have visions of her going out on a first date, and when the guy asks her about her hobbies, the only one she has is obsessively planning her wedding. Somehow, I doubt there would be a second date!

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Long time ago, but I thought this forum needed some facts http://mobile.nytimes.com/2013/01/27/fashion/weddings/planning-a-wedding-while-still-looking-for-a-groom-field-notes.html?referer=&_r=0

people plan weddings without a groom. It's normal and shouldn't be judge so harshly

You can do whatever you set your mind to. The other ladies have valid points- but if you want to plan, what harm is it doing to anyone? Be a planner, have fun creating that vision, but keep your mind open to all the possibilities! Have fun, find love for all the right reasons, and make your day unbelievably special between you and your soon-to-be