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Long distance relationships that led to marriage!

Rebecca, on January 29, 2019 at 2:05 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 16
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Was part or all of your relationship with your fiancé(e) spent long distance? How were you able to maintain your relationship? If you two are currently long distance, how do you manage wedding planning together? How did you handle being long distance in your relationship?

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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
    A part of our relationship had been long distance (100 miles). We have been together for over 3 years, and lave been long distance for 5 months. We maintain/handle our relationship by having trust, effective communication, taking turns visiting each other every weekend and a goal to no longer be long distance within 2 years. I’m currently doing all of the wedding planning by myself, which I love. I have total control and can be frugal without anyone telling me I need to do this or that.
  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
    My fiancé and I started long distance. I was in CT and he was in MA. There was about an hour between us. A few months into our relationship I got a job in Boston and moved there. That made us about an hour and a half apart. I drove to him every weekend tho. More to do at his place and it worked better with his work schedule if I went to him. I stayed there for about a year and then moved closer. Now I live about 20 minutes away which is soooo much better than the hour and a half. I can’t wait until we are both living under the same roof though!
  • Natalie
    Dedicated June 2019
    Natalie ·
    Most of our relationship has been spent with him overseas. We met and dated in middle school (we were each other’s first kisses!) but drifted apart in high school. We reconnected over Facebook while he was stationed overseas, he came home to visit a few months later, left, and we spent another 6 months 5000 miles apart. I came to live here in Italy the beginning of this year! So in total, we’ve had about 3 months together in person.
  • Ashley
    Dedicated April 2020
    Ashley ·
    My FH and I lived about 4 hours apart for 2 years and 3 months. He moved to me in Oct 2017. We got engaged 1 year and 2 months later 😍

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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·

    We were long distance for the first year of our relationship. One of us did make the drive almost every weekend so we could see each other. It was VERY hard. Lots of phone time. Lots of texts. And counting the minutes until we could see each other again.

  • Rita-Jean
    Devoted May 2019
    Rita-Jean ·

    We've been sort of long distance almost our entire relationship. (I say sort of because I usually think of a long distance relationship as one where you don't see the other for at least a few months at a time.) He works out in the oilfield here in Texas, about 5 and a half hours away. His rotation is a little weird, but he works two weeks on and one week off, and he comes home on his week off. So we get to see each other one week out of every 3.

  • Rebecca
    Master October 2025
    Rebecca ·
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    You two were each others first kisses?! Adorable! I'm so happy to hear that you two are together now

  • Rebecca
    Master October 2025
    Rebecca ·
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    Do you two usually FaceTime during the weeks that he's gone? Or text throughout the day?

  • Rebecca
    Master October 2025
    Rebecca ·
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    I absolutely agree that trust and effective communication are very important in a relationship - especially when it's long distance! And it's great that you two have a system for seeing each other!

  • Rita-Jean
    Devoted May 2019
    Rita-Jean ·
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    Lol I actually hate FaceTime, but we text constantly when we’re both awake (he works night shift so he’s asleep most of the day), and usually talk on the phone for about an hour every night before I go to bed while he’s at work.
  • Mrs.
    Super May 2019
    Mrs. ·

    About 3 years of our 8 year relationship was spent long distance when he moved away for work after college and then I moved away for graduate school. Now we're back in the same vicinity! We texted sporadically throughout the day when we could and talked on the phone before bed every night. He would come up to visit every few months and we'd both be back home during the holidays. We knew there was an end in sight and that's what helped us through!

  • April
    Dedicated January 2020
    April ·
    Me and my FH have been long distance our entire relationship. I was living in Brooklyn, he in NJ, and we worked together in Manhattan. About a month after we started getting close I moved to Texas for a new job. It's been 2.5 years since then and our relationship grew. We talk on Skype 2x a week, text often, and every few months he comes to visit. He proposed Christmas eve in my hometown of Atlanta after asking my parents for permission. Wedding planning is just getting started, and there's a few unknown variables that need to be worked out. But since he'll be moving to Texas, most planning is coming from me.
  • Ingrid
    Super October 2020
    Ingrid ·
    We're in a long distance relationship and have been the entire length of our relationship. We live 3 hours apart and talk every day on my way to work and home until we go to sleep unless we have something else to do. We text throughout the day as well. We plan together, and discuss all decisions before we make them. We've met and toured venues together as well as met with our planner together. The only things I've done without him is dress shop and buy my shoes. We consult each other concerning big purchases and consider each other although we live separately. We have open, honest, transparent conversations and keep no secrets from each other. We try to see each other twice a month if our schedules allow it and we take turns driving to each other. We are parents to children from previous relationships, so our children still take precedent and we understand that and make room for them. I've been married before so I enjoy the balance of our time away and missing each other.
  • Jenna
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Jenna ·

    All of our relationship has been long distance. He lives in Ohio and I live in Colorado. It's about a 26-hour drive and a day's worth of flying away. Plus there's a two hour time difference. We maintained our relationship while dating by intentionally making time to talk each other, trusting each other and also we were lucky to enough to always be able to know the next time we'd see each other. Wedding planning has been an interesting challenge, we try to plan like crazy for a day when we are together and then spend the rest of time just being together. Also facetime and lots of phone calls have been a huge part of the planning process The distance is really hard but it's ending soon!!

  • Julia
    Savvy April 2020
    Julia ·

    We were together for a year and a half before I left for college and my fiance joined the Navy so for our 7.5 year relationship we have been apart for the last 6 - it's not easy but with the right person it is easy, does that make sense?

    There was never a question in my mind that he was what I wanted so we just embraced the suck of being apart knowing that it was the best for our futures. We see each other about every 6 weeks, I do most of the wedding planning haha and I wrangle him in for big decisions and we plan a weekend where we can meet at our venue location and get it done!

    The relationship itself - just a whole lot of love and being silly and sexy skype dates at least once a month, lots of nudes and good morning and good night texts

  • Sweetness
    Dedicated March 2023
    Sweetness ·

    Me and my fiance are long distance, and we always have been. We got engaged 3 months ago, and yesterday we spent the whole day chatting online about wedding things, which was lovely.

    Even though we are now engaged, we don't plan to marry for about another 2-3 years yet. He lives in the US, and I'm currently in Ireland. Our situation is awkward regarding work and finance atm, and being an international LDR means closing the distance will be a long and expensive process.

    We maintain our relationship through the modern day miracle of the internet. We video call, email and message each other most days, and I have just set up a wedding ideas board on pinterest so we can collaborate it together. I also made a wedding playlist on my youtube channel, and have sent him a link so we can collaborate on that too.

    I make him things, and send care packages. He gets excited when he receives them, and will open them straight away unless I instruct him otherwise.

    We are very similar in our viewpoints and ways of dealing with issues and stress. We talk things out, and rarely argue. I'm currently reading Men are from Mars, and I plan to send him a copy too, in the hope that it will further strengthen our relationship. I think being LD, you can never be too strong or too adaptable. They are hard work, but they can be incredibly rewarding as long as you match each other with your openness, honesty, communication and dedication.

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