Kelly
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Was asking your parents for their blessing before the proposal important to you?

Kelly, on January 23, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 92
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Did you or your future spouse ask the parents for their blessing before the proposal? Our 2018 Newlywed Report found that 72% of couples asked for parents’ blessing before the engagement, so we’re curious about your personal experience! Did you ask, and was it important to you?


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  • Kelly
    Master October 2018
    Kelly ·
    It was important to me. I’m extremely close with my dad so I wanted my husband to have a conversation with him first. Not necessarily for his blessing but just to have a conversation and assure him he would always take care of me and love me.
  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·

    My FH talked with my dad. It was only important to me because I knew it was important to my dad. All of my siblings' spouses spoke with my dad prior to proposing, and I knew my dad would be hurt if we didn't, also.

  • Tori
    Savvy September 2020
    Tori ·
    My fiancé went to my parents house to talk to my dad and ended up with the whole fam. From what I was told everyone was in tears and it was so emotional I almost wish I was there. He proposed later that same night ❤️
  • Brittany
    Super October 2019
    Brittany ·

    It was important to me. I am very close with my dad and I knew deep down my dad would want FH to ask him. My FH took my dad out to dinner where he showed him the ring and asked for his blessing. According to FH, they both were trying to hold back tears! The story is so sweet and I am so happy he did it. It really means a lot to me.

  • Madelyn
    Expert August 2019
    Madelyn ·
    Yes my FH talked to my dad and asked for his blessing before proposing to me. I’m very close with my dad and value his opinion so having his blessing was important to both of us❤️
  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·

    Absolutely important! My parents were so happy he asked!

  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·

    No, I don't have a relationship with my family. Even when I was younger and in touch with them, that was never something I wanted.


    My husband asked my dogs permission. That meant the world to me.

  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
    Kristen ·

    FH did not ask a blessing and to be honest I prefer that. He called and told them the night before, but it wasn't like he was asking permission or anything he was just letting them know. I don't have the best relationship with my dad and he's been telling me not to do it, we are too young, and all of that. My dad also took issue int he beginning of our relationship with the fact that FH is not fully the same race as us. He's supportive now, but i'm dreading having him walk me down the aisle and dancing with him because we've never been close.


  • Ashlee
    Dedicated April 2020
    Ashlee ·
    Honestly it wasnt important to me, but it was for my dad. My FH showed up to my parents house while my mother was with me trying on dresses and got my dads blessing! Lol. My dad said my FH was nervous and really didnt know what to say, but got his point across.
  • Ana
    Devoted September 2019
    Ana ·

    This is my second marriage but his first. He asked my children and his son if it was ok and then he told me that he asked them and they said it was ok. So he was planning on propsoing to me soon. I loved that he asked the children thats more important to me then my parents.

  • Rachel
    Super July 2019
    Rachel ·
    Definitely not. The choice for us to get married is strictly our own. No other parties needed to be involved for us to be engaged. Everyone knew we were getting married at some point.
  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
    Definitely important to me as I'm very family oriented. My fiance spoke to both my parents and grandparents prior to proposing.
  • Brittany
    Dedicated September 2019
    Brittany ·
    No. My parents and I have always had an open dialogue about my relationships. They have always told me when they didn’t like/approve of someone but they’ve also always told me that it’s 100% my decision. If they had an issue with my fiancé, I would’ve known long before he proposed so there was really no point. Of course, knowing that they love him and are happy for us was important to me, but I have known that throughout our relationship without ever having to ask them. We’ve always known that they love him as part of our family and they were more than happy when we told them we were engaged.

    Not only that, but my parents put an emphasis on the fact that this is my life. My mom used to tell me that no man ever needed to talk to them because I don’t belong to them. I belong to myself. It isn’t their decision whether or not I marry someone. It’s mine. If dad had said no (he wouldn’t have) then that would have put a strain on our relationship and I may have done it anyway. There wasn’t a point to it, in my opinion, and my parents agreed.



    f fiancé had asked if he could marry me, I’m pretty positive that dad would’ve said something along the lines of “I don’t know, why don’t you ask her?”
  • Victoria
    VIP October 2018
    Victoria ·
    Absolutely it was! I knew the right man for me would be respectful enough to ask my parents, and he did. He didn't ask for permission, he asked for their blessing. I just think it's the sweetest gesture ever.
  • Ashley
    Dedicated September 2021
    Ashley ·
    It's not something that was important to me at all, but FW asked/let my parents know she was going to propose anyway. She knew it would be important to them, especially my dad. They love her to death and leave it up to me but I think my dad valued the respect she showed in asking. I thought it was sweet of her to consider their feelings as well
  • Meghan
    Super September 2019
    Meghan ·

    FH talked to my dad beforehand. I don't know if he asked per se but I know they talked. I appreciate the gesture. If he hadn't I wouldn't have been mad or upset, since I know how awkward it must have been to bring up, but I definitely appreciate that he did.

  • Kate
    Devoted June 2019
    Kate ·
    It was very important to me. I told him if he was going to propose he needed to talk to my Dad first. Apparently it was a weird conversation. Dad thought he was asking if he could marry me and Dad told him well that’s up to her isn’t it? 😂 my Mom had to explain that he was asking for their blessing not if he could marry me or not. After Dad understood that part he just smiled and said of course!
  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
    It wasn’t a huge deal to me until my dad made a random comment a few years ago stating that he hopes whovever I marry asks for his blessing first. After he said, it became important to me. Several months before my fiancé proposed, I made a comment stating that if we do take that step, I want him to ask my dad first. His response was “well obvioussslllyyy” haha good to know he was already planning on it
  • Maggie
    Super February 2019
    Maggie ·
    Absolutely not. I told my parents once we decided to get married before he officially proposed but would have been really upset if he asked them first. He mentioned having a conversation with my dad beforehand and I asked him not to - I didn't feel my parents should be involved in the decision, I felt very strongly that it should be between the two of us only.
  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    That's awesome!! I know that my dad would be the same way about it!

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