Was asking your parents for their blessing before the proposal important to you?

Yes very important and he knew that! I'm glad he asked bith my mom and Dad and even discussed it with my big broter

It was important to me for him to asks for my dads blessing rather than his permission. I’ve always been extremely close to my dad and my FH knows this and when we had a conversation about it he said he had already planned to do it anyways, which made me very happy& him nervous haha.

It was very important to not only me but my husband as well. He would not have asked without talking to my parents first.
He took them out to dinner and they had a discussion. I don’t think he actually asked for permission but rather told them he planned to ask me and I guess get their blessing. He hasn’t told me what happened. I just know they agreed and had they not, he would have asked any way because it was our choice.

It was important to me. One of the first thing I asked fiancé after the proposal was if he asked my parents for their blessing.

I'm not religious or completely traditional, but for some reason it was really important to me that my husband ask my father's permission before popping the question. He knew it was important, so he made sure to ask my father in person a few days before asking me That meant the world to my dad that he made time to ask him and it meant so much to me as well!

My father would have just laughed if FH had asked for his blessing. And possibly tried to talk him out of it, lol.

FH talked to me about it before proposing and I told him not to bother.

No way. I’m 39 with a daughter who’s almost an adult herself. Getting a “blessing” from my parents before asking seems ridiculous given where I am in my life. My parents love him though so we knew they’d be happy.

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Lol, such a funny response!! I can definitely see how it could be weird to bring it up, but I know that so many parents out there appreciate the gesture!

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Aww I love that!! That's how I feel about my mom, too! She likes pretty much everyone so if she didn't, that would be a red flag!

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Wow that's amazing!! I'm sure your dad was so excited for you both!!

No, I mean we have been dating for almost 10 years and have talked about getting married eventually for over 5 years. I at first was worried about him not asking my parents/at least my dad's permission then I thought about it, would it really change the decision if my dad said no? I am an adult.

Since I was the one that wanted to make it official and asked him, there were no blessings asked for. It wouldn't have meant anything to my fh to do it and I didn't care much either way. I had talked to my parents about it previously and they were pretty aware that it was coming and neither seemed bothered by the fact that no one asked for their blessings.

Having my parents "blessing" was not a priority for me. I'm 36 years old… I have been on my own since I was 17. Although the relationship with my folks is not the best… I still feel like I would feel the same way if it were.

At this point I don't feel that having their blessing for any decision major or otherwise is a necessary move for me in general. However acknowledging their presence in my life, and whatever support they have ever given me… I feel a mention of my groom to be's intentions is appropriate.


My groom however, felt that it was a priority. We had many discussions… and compromised. He sat my father and my brother down and had a conversation prior to proposing that was more along the lines of…" I love your daughter/sister, think that she is incredible for me and for my future. I can't imagine my life without her. So I will be asking for her hand in marriage. And respectfully wanted you to know my intentions and assure you that I will care for her and love her all the days of my life."

I feel that this was tactful and respectful. But not a request, an asking of permission or their blessing. Simply being direct.

It was an absolute must for me. My brother didn't even tell my parents he was going to ask his GF to marry him or that it happened. I saw it on FB when I happened to be at their house and they had to invite them over for dinner a week later and still had to pry it out of them...he said it was because they didn't like her, which in all fairness, none of us do, but we have all been nothing but supportive. They got pregnant at 20 and my parents remodeled their house so they had a bedroom, a nursery, a full bathroom (which is bigger than both bathrooms in my house combined) and a little "family" room where they could stay for free, including food, while they finished school. They were there for 3 years before they got into a fight and she told my parents they didn't know how to raise kids because my grown brother said something stupid and my parents kicked her out but still helped them in any way they could. I guess because of how hard my brother messed up that whole situation I feel like its extra important that I make it up to them. I'm also their only daughter and even though my dad raised me like his first born son, I'm his "baby girl" when its convenient aka boyfriends, prom, wedding lol

We didn't do this. Him and my dad have all alot of shared hobbies, so I already knew my dad approved!

Nope. While I have a decent relationship with my father. I don't really consider her much of a father. Honestly, I think I would have almost felt insulted if he asked permission first... Unless it was permission from my FFIL. That would have been cute.

My FH did not ask for mine or his parents blessing first. Although I am my own independent person and I will marry who I like with or without approval, I wish he had talked to them first. I even voiced this concern to him when we started talking about getting engaged. I felt doing so would allow him to show my parents he respects them but FH shot the idea down so fast!

It was very important to me that my fiancé NOT demonstrate to me or my family that I was some sort of possession to be transfered like currency. We are adults on our own path in life, and it was important to me that our engagement be our own endeavor, not one we were allowed to undertake, but one we chose to - thanks only to our own commitment and love - not to an outside party's permission.

Nope. I'm an adult and can make decisions for myself. The only permission my FH needs to marry me is mine. I'm also not religious so a blessing isn't needed. Of course I'm happy that my parents both like my FH but I've never been one to seek their approval for any major decision in my life.

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Hi Alyssa! I totally agree and that's great to hear. Your confidence in your self and your relationship is everything!