Was asking your parents for their blessing before the proposal important to you?

It was actually extremely important to me that my FH did not do this. Our decision to get married was our own and did not involve anyone else. The only blessing FH needs to marry me is mine.

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Awww that's so sweet!! I bet they all were so excited!

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I can't help but smile when I hear stories like this! So sweet!

Absolutely! My fiancé called both my parents and asked for their blessing. It was extremely important to me because my parents (more specifically, my mom) has always had my back. If they ever disapproved of my marriage to someone, it would be for valid reasons.

Definitely important to me that he had a conversation, not necessarily asked for his blessing. He met with both of my parents at dinner and asked for their blessing and they were so excited. It was important to them, and I felt like if he couldn't bring himself to talk to them (they are sort of scary...) then he wasn't ready to join the family. I don't think they expected it, but they appreciated it.

My Fh and I had talked about a lot before he proposed, and everyone knew we were heading that way. But he was very sweet and called my mom to ask her premission before he formally popped the question

H asked my mom and dad for their blessing (they are divorced). I know it was very important and meaningful to them that he asked. I would like to emphasize that he didn't ask for permission, he asked for their blessing. I am an independent adult and while the opinion of my parents is important to me, I did not need their permission to marry my *now* husband. I thought it was a respectful and lovely gesture, but it was mostly a formality since we knew they supported us and our relationship.

My FH did not ask. My dad told me when I was 8 or 9 that no one needs to ask his "permission" because it is my decision and he obviously trusts my judgement on future spouses and that kind of stuck with me. My FH and I dated for 5 years so he kind of looks at my dad as an additional father figure so they are pretty close. Dad (and mom) approve of FH too!

I wish I had a close family and it was important but honestly we all just live our own lives. It wouldn’t have made sense to ask for their blessing.

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Lol, love it!! I feel like it's a hard conversation to start. But I'm sure your dad was so excited to have been asked!

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I love that!! I feel like asking the children is so sweet! Were the kids excited?!

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This is how my mom feels about it, too! I'm sure she'd happily say yes to whoever it may be, but to her it comes down to whether I want to marry them or not!

For me, I'd have been annoyed if anyone knew it was coming before I did. I'm in my mid-thirties, I own my house and pay all my bills, I'm the only one that needs to be consulted about this. And H had not met my family at that point yet, so it would have been weird for him, too.

My sisters FH did ask permission, and my dad thought it was weird and uncomfortable. He called to ask me what he was supposed to say, lol. (I told him to say that of course she doesn't need permission, but to give his blessing.) I get that for some families/cultures it's an important thing, but IDC about it.

View Quoted Comment Yes they were they are super excited 😊

Since we lived together, it was a second marriage for both of us and we are both older, I was not expecting him to have any kind of conversation about it with my father. But he surprised me and asked for my dads blessing anyway. I thought that was the sweetest thing ever and it really only made my parents love him more.

My FH did not. I am not very close with my dad and not even inviting him.

Very important to me for my FH to ask my dad. My dad raised me as a single dad starting at 10 years old and has done any and everything for me. So it was very important. And the thing he said right before getting on one knee was "so I talked to your daddy and he said yes" and I started bawling. Luckily my dad and FH adore each other. My dad calls him son/FH calls him dad. ❤ My dad has never been close to anyone I dated before (with good reasoning) so seeing how he is with my FH made me know he approved.

It was extremely important to me. I actually interrupted him proposing twice. Once to ask if he's really doing this and the other to ask if he talked to my parents. He had lol. It was definitely only our decision to get married, but my family is extremely close and I wanted their blessing and for them to know it was coming.

It wasn’t super important to me but I know it was a sign of respect for my parents and if he didn’t do it my parents would hold a grudge.

While our wedding is extremely non traditional, I made it a point to make it known that my dad’s ‘blessing’ was required. The concept of a blessing was more of a given, because my father and FH have always been extremely close, and they consider each other family, but it was important that he made it known that he was dedicated to spending his life with me, would always stand by my side, would motivate me to be better, offer unwavering support and to love me almost as much as he does. It was never a question of ‘permission’ as much as it was a conversation of respect and reassurance.
My FH actually custom made a guitar for my dad for Christmas, just two days after the proposal, and joked that he couldn’t find a camel for a dowry, so he made him that instead. It was a super sweet gesture and made my dad feel really important to be included in the decision.