Was asking your parents for their blessing before the proposal important to you?

Yes, it was very important to me (and FH said that, by that standard, it made it important to him). I am super close to my mom, who is very old-fashioned, and I'm the baby (by a lot), so in addition to it just being expected, she's also pretty scared about losing me, and the conversation with FH helped her a lot, I think. Of course, FH made it clear that he was not going to ask my mom for permission, because she doesn't own me and I'm the only one who can give him that, but he was perfectly happy to ask her blessing.

Yes ! It’s important for Him to respect my parents !

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Same. If fiance had talked to my parents, I would have been giving him the side eye like, you're not the person I thought you were. This is our decision, not theirs.

Not important at all. I have very strong feelings about not being my parents property and something they can agree or disagree upon “selling off” to a life partner. I wanted nothing to do with it. Though, that may also have to do with the fact that my parents were very controlling growing up and the last guy they insisted I date broke my neck and almost turned me into a paraplegic. Their approval was the last thing on my mind. My fiancé told my father he was going to propose but not where, when, or how.

Aw these stories are all so cute my fiancé told my mom he bought me a ring and she encouraged him to ask me, but he took so long after that to propose that my mom thought I must have said ‘no’! But he says he couldn’t find the right situation or timing to ask me, so it was a while. Then my mom was as surprised as me!

It was extremely important to me. In my first engagement, my ex did not and that was a major issue for me. My fiance did ask and it meant the world to me

Very important to me. My dad didn't get that with my older sister because she was pregnant at 16 and so as kids they didn't think about it. But with my FH that was actually the only hang up. I told him not to ask me until he asks my father. When he did I knew because my dad wouldn't come around me until after FH proposed. FH showed him the ring and everything. Of course we were having a baby so my dad's response was "Too late now, you've already contaminated her". That's my Teddy Bear with spikes (What I call my dad) everyone.

My FH asked months before he proposed on a trip home without me. He went in asking for their permission but my father told him that it was his blessing he wanted, lol! We are a very traditional couple, so I knew he would want to ask them.

Nope, I didn't need that kind of input from them, and FH knows that. He did ask my eldest daughter if "she would do him the honor of taking his last name" (she's 7) and she is so excited. The legal adoption process won't be for a year after the wedding, but she is so excited that we will all have the same last name. Once the adoption goes through I plan to have a special celebration for the two of them, similar to a wedding on a small scale. It's going to be a really special moment 🥰

It was important that he talked to my dad to reassure him that he would be committed to me and by my side through it all. It was less about asking permission, and my father even said he wouldn’t say no, because he trusts my judgement and is happy if I am.

It was absolutely important to me, my parents are very old school and I love that about them. I knew that my dad would respect the fact that whomever I was to marry had a conversation with him about it first! Although from what I heard, when my husband went to my dad to ask he was really nervous & my dad told him to calm down because he already knew why he was there 😂

I've never really thought about it and always saw it in movies.. however, my future spouse asked my Mom, Dad & Grandma for their blessings. I didn't think of asking my parents for their blessing, they've been waiting and wonder why he was taking so long. So I figure I have their blessing.

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I feel the same way! For me, I've always viewed it more as a blessing rather than permission!

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I totally get that, I feel like with having a daughter sometimes dad's really want to take on that role! How did your future spouse bring it up? Did they talk about it over dinner?

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I totally get that! I feel like when it comes to my wedding, my fiancé and I will discuss marriage with my family but never out right ask if we can get married!

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Yes, I was out of the country for my best friends wedding in Costa Rica ( FH doesn't get a lot of time off work so he couldn't make the trip with me) and he took them both out to dinner. I think both my parents knew what was going on and I've never really gotten all of the details on how it actually went down but I do know that my dad and FH have a way better relationship now then ever before. (Dad loved my cheating, abusive ex and took the breakup harder than me before he found out what was going on, FH isn't much of a "manly man" so I do a lot of our home repairs just because I know how and he doesn't which irked my dad so it was rough going for FH for the first little bit we were together)

Nope. In fact, I even told him not to ask my parents. I knew it was coming, and I even told my parents and made sure they wouldn’t be offended. They laughed, said I’m an adult and unless he comes with a dowry, no permission is needed.

To me, I felt like as a grown woman the decision to get married was between us and us alone. If my family disproved of him, I would have known and taken it into consideration.

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This is exactly how I feel. I'm not anyone's property, so why does my SO need their approval? Specifically, asking my father for his permission feels really icky to me. It reminds me of Christian purity rings/balls. No thanks!

My Grandfather's blessing was extremely important to me. My fiance' asked my grandpa when he was very sick right before he passed away, it meant the world to me because my fiance knew how important my grandpa was to me. I'm so glad he asked and my grandpa said yes (he loved my fiance).

My FH didn't ask my parents for their blessing before he proposed.