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It seems like no one is coming to the wedding

Keeping Up with the Jones, on July 7, 2015 at 5:07 PM Posted in Planning 0 89

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I sent out invites last week and while I've only gotten a few cards back so far, the number of people who have called or texted to say they aren't coming is overwhelming. I guess a verbal RSVP could always be changed later. But seriously, 3 out of 4 of my fiancees groomsmen RSVP'd No. Didn't say anything to him, just sent the card back. I feel that was very inconsiderate. A good chunk of his immediate family has also said they won't be coming. Out of 121 people who were invited, I'm thinking only 20 or so might make it. I understand we are 'inconveniencing' people by not having a wedding right in their backyard but come on! I guess I'm just bummed that he he only has one groomsmen now and our wedding will be quite pitiful. Not even family wants to show up.

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Latest activity by LadyMonk, on July 10, 2015 at 2:27 PM

VIP October 2015
DNA · on July 7, 2015 at 5:08 PM
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Do you have more details of your wedding? Is it local? On a weekday? Weekend? That does seem pretty odd.
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Master May 2016
Jac3286 · on July 7, 2015 at 5:08 PM
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Did he not ask his GM before sending out invites? It certainly seems odd that they would respond no.
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Master January 2016
FMM · on July 7, 2015 at 5:09 PM
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Wait what??? his groomsmen bailed??
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Master October 2015
purplekitten · on July 7, 2015 at 5:10 PM
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Whoa, what leads someone who is standing up in the wedding to RSVP no?! Why did they agree to be groomsmen? that's just cruel!
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Tara · on July 7, 2015 at 5:10 PM
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The groomsmen didn't even tell him!?!?!?
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HereComeTheYorks · on July 7, 2015 at 5:11 PM
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This is overall weird.... is it Wednesday already? Tell us more about what's going on? when did you send out invites and when is the wedding?
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Master July 2015
Original VC · on July 7, 2015 at 5:11 PM
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Where is your wedding, and where do most of your guests/bridal party live?
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Master January 2015
Emmy · on July 7, 2015 at 5:11 PM
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I feel like there is more to this story
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VIP July 2015
sdgher · on July 7, 2015 at 5:14 PM
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Yea this seems strange. why would a GM respond no? something smells fishy on this one.
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VIP July 2015
Di · on July 7, 2015 at 5:14 PM
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I'm with everyone else...what AREN'T you telling us?
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VIP May 2016
Rachel · on July 7, 2015 at 5:15 PM
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Did your FH ask them to be groomsmen prior, and they agreed? Because if so, that's really, really messed up.
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Keeping Up with the Jones · on July 7, 2015 at 5:16 PM
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The wedding is on a Saturday evening. The wedding is local for about 40 of our guests. My family is traveling 16 hours and I believe is family is between 5-8 hours away. We set RSVP as August 15thbut we are already getting some back. He said he talked to them when we set a date back in January.
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Monica SC · on July 7, 2015 at 5:16 PM
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The Groomsmen RSVP'd no...that is beyond bizarre. You wedding is two months away...had arrangements already been made for their suits or tuxes?
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Mrs. Lav · on July 7, 2015 at 5:18 PM
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Are you sure the groomsmen weren't trying to be funny? That seems like a clueless/asshat way of behaving, but it's possible...
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StitchingBride · on July 7, 2015 at 5:18 PM
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Are any of them Jewish? though your wedding isn't on a holiday exactly (my understanding) it's on a saturday between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. Since Yom Kippur is the holiest day, some may not be available due to wanting to prepare for the holiday, but even then most people I know would probably come to a wedding.

but that does seem like a lot of people -
I'm a little confused on the Groomsmen too- any idea how this came about? they were Groomsmen then changed their minds?
sorry for so many nos! I wonder why.
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Master October 2016
Ally · on July 7, 2015 at 5:18 PM
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I feel like a lot of the story is left out.
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Super September 2015
VenetianBride · on July 7, 2015 at 5:19 PM
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Laura Marie · on July 7, 2015 at 5:20 PM
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Yeah I really feel like the GM did that as a joke but boys being boys, probably didn't think to put "Just kidding!!!!". You should probably talk to them instead of assuming they actually are not coming because that deserves a huge WTF
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Master January 2015
Emmy · on July 7, 2015 at 5:21 PM
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This still doesn't make sense.
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Keeping Up with the Jones · on July 7, 2015 at 5:22 PM
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When we sent out save the dates in March two of the guys acknowledged they got the cards but never said they couldn't make it.
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