It seems like no one is coming to the wedding

@Keeping up with the Jones, I think what everyone is having the hardest time with here is the fact that the GMs sent back the RSVP saying no instead of picking up the phone and discussing it with your FH. I think most of us could never imagine this situation really happening, since we are close to our bridal party and communicate regularly with them. I personally see or talk to all of the bridal party on a regular basis (phone or text if they're far away) and there's no way ever, ever that if a GM of BM dropped out that they wouldn't talk to us about it. This is why I'm also thinking there's more to this story than you're letting on (or maybe that you don't know about).

Is FH close to the GMs? It sounds like he may have chosen people he is not close with. Unless it was a joke. The only people pretty much required to show up are your bridal party so it seems strange they would reply no unless they thought it was strange they were asked or if they were just joking. If they have to travel a long way and there is expenses for them, perhaps they can't afford it but again I would think they would call FH to discuss this.

The excuses seem to make some sense but either way, they knew about it for a while and they couldn't just call?! I hope your FH finds better friends...that's very disrespectful and inconsiderate. Good luck! You will be marrying your best friend with or without people.

Sorry OP. I know I'm also going to get a decline rate, and I'm wondering about FH's GMs and one of my BMs as well because I know they still haven't made travel arrangements. I know FH's grandmom won't come to the wedding because it's very far away for her. We were willing to fly her out, but unfortunately the travel would just be too hard. We are trying to make things as convenient as possible, but I'm honestly expecting around a 45-50% decline rate out of 150 invited because of travel for many of the guests.

I know it's disappointing, but remember keep your head up! It's still the day you get married to your FH and that's what the day is about. You'll save some money hopefully on catering and rentals. You'll have a gorgeous day with the people who are important enough to be there. And you'll have a fantastic party!

He was close to them or so he thought. He went to high school with them and the one who bailed because of his own wedding went to the same university with the same major as my fiancée, they hung out pretty often. Granted they are graduated now but he said he stayed in touch with this guy. Maybe not everyday but at least very few months after graduation. Th other one is a similar story- not constant contact but enough to say they were still friends.

To those who keep saying he picked people he wasn't close wit: it's obvious now what kind of relationships they had but prior to the unexpected no RSVP my fiancée had no reason to think they wouldn't show. These were guys he grew up with.

The biggest issue we have here is that they bailed wit no warning 2 months prior to the wedding and now my fiancée only has his bother. I only have 3 bridesmaids and my younger sister with me so it's not like he was trying to match some ridiculous number of attendants for me. This is compiled on top of a lot of his immediate family already saying they can't make it by phone.

I really feel like when we sent the save the dates and even posted a picture on Facebook saying we were finally getting married way back in January, nobody thought to say anything then.

I'm sorry, OP. That is rough, especially the GM and his mom. It's still early and I'm sure you will get more accepted rsvp's soon. People sometimes need time to figure out the travel thing before responding and others will just wait until the last minute to respond. My invitations went out the 1st and we have only had a small number of RSVPs so far. (Our wedding is just before yours and our rsvp date is also 8/15- but all on-line rsvp).

I'm sure you will have a good day, regardless of what happens because it sounds like it's been a long time in the making.

Well, I understand some about the academy. However the GM not coming b/c of his own wedding (especially since he was engaged already when asked to stand up) is ridiculous! If it is the same day/weekend as his own, that's some piss poor planning. If it's because it's simply too close together, LAME. If it's because his finances are drained for his own wedding, he should have been more honest about the ACTUAL reason, $$. Really a crummy situation!

Well that is really bizarre.....but one thing I will comment on is the floral situation. I know you ordered them back in April but your florist can make changes up until 3 weeks for the wedding, so you don't have to worry about extra bouts

I am so sorry about this happening. We live away from almost all of our family as well (same-ish distances you're describing but our parents are only 3h away) and almost all of our family came. Even if the GM's didn't see your FH as a close friend as he did them, you would think they would have had the decency to decline earlier and not via mail. It's like the break up by ghosting thing.

I can imagine how hurt your FH must be, but somehow you both will have to move on and focus on the people who will be making it and focus on what marriage means to you. A wedding is just a celebration, afterall -- it's the marriage that matters.