Is it ok for my step mom to wear a long Ivory dress too !!

Sorry no help here- I would go BRIDEZILLA on her!

Im not going to comment cuz I dont have what your looking for, I would snap

OH HELLS NO.

I'm not sure if you want encouragement that her dress is ok, or encouragement to stand up to her. It's definitely NOT ok! It'd be one thing if you were cool with it, but clearly you're not. The #1 rule of wedding dress code is to not wear a white or ivory dress. Just calmly and maturely tell her that you'd prefer for her to not wear it. If she just bought it, she should be able to return it without a problem. Maybe even offer to go shopping with her for a new one. Kill her with kindness, but do not let her wear that dress!

Hmmm if you were okay with it then I would say its fine but you don't seem okay with it to nooo way its not kool. If it were me and that was my relative of any kind I'd be upset very upset. Everyone knows not to wear white or any off white, ivory etc dress to a wedding the bride should be the only one unless the dress code is for an all white wedding.I don't know but how you could tell her without her getting her way and getting you upset but honestly its not okay for her to wear that

Ooh this is a toughie. I would try talking to her and being positive about her coming and dressing appropriately for the occassion mention to her that your dress is ivory and it's not polite or customary for anyone but the bride to wear white or any shade thereof. Ask her to go to lunch with you (I know you don't like her but remember it's for the greater good/take one for the team) and then while you're sitting there ask if she'd like to do a little shopping afterward and go to Macy's or nice dress shops and see if you can't talk her into something else.

If all else fails go to your dad and have him talk to her.

My mom has an all white outfit......from the advice I was given, you have 3 options. 1. Throw a fit about it and cause even more stress to yourself that you clearly don't need and cause family drama. 2. dont stress over it.... let her wear it and she will be the ahole in everyone else's mind for thinking it was ok....fingers crossed someone will say something to her. 3. have someone else mention to her how inappropriate it is.

Uhhhh I'm going to say absolutely not. Maybe go online or check out some stores to see what you can find that you want her to wear.

I would talk to your dad and let him know how you feel about it ... maybe she just didnt realize or maybe she did it on purpose ... either way I would make sure she would not wear that!

That is like a huge no-no... Oh goodness... I would be furious. However, I can see how telling her not to wear a dress she bought would be difficult, especially if you're anything like me; I hate conflict. I agree with dme_cjm, maybe have someone else point out inappropirate it is.

On the brightside, you are the bride, and she will just embarass herself by wearing a dress the same color as yours.

Ask her to have it shortened at the very least. the bride should be the only one in white. you can't control what the guests wear but the wedding party is different, their attire is the perogative of the bride whether or not you buy it. if it was your grandma that would be different, you don't want to tell grandma off. ask your Dad to talk to her maybe, she should have known not to buy ivory.

It's a definite no-no. If you don't want to deal with drama and in order to avoid conflict - think about this.

You're 26 and hot

She's probably not 26 (I'm assuming) and I dunno if she's hot or not

You'll have professional make up, hair, flowers, veil etc. It'll be obvious who's the bride and she'll look like an idiot.

You'll also look STUNNING and well, unless she looks like heidi klum, she isn't going to outshine you!!

That is what I am afraid my step mom will do at my wedding... i say no way. too close to your color. It is completely disrespectful of her to do that. She knows exactly what she is doing. put your foot down it is your day not hers. She needs to find another dress.

I do agree it could be situational, for an example I have a good relationship with my Mum and daughters. I wanted them in white or ivory. But your case HELL NO- Like I said!!!

OMG....Thank you guys so much. Actually i think I just wanted clarification that I wasn't being a bridezilla or something. i mean I was astounded that she even had the audacity to tell me that,well actually she didn't tell me the color I asked,and she hesitantly said "cream". I said like "ivory or off white". She responded"um yeah". i told her I would talk to her later. I had to clear my head cause i'm not really the confrontational type, but I know her well enough to know she did it on purpose. So although i haven't made my mind up, i do think that others in my family are going to call her out when they see the dress.

Oh no she didn't! i actually think it would be embarrassing for her if she wore it cause she's making a total fool out of herself! everyone will think she's such a bitch lol

No way!!!! You should be the only one in a long ivory dress that day! I'll totally go Bridezilla if anyone shows up in a white dress on my day LoL but I know no one would. I say speak up sista!

There are some situations where a bride might actually encourage her attendants or close relatives to wear white, ivory, or champagn. Obviously, this is NOT one of those situations. I would hope your stepmother is socially savy enough to comprehend that only a bride wears white/ivory to a wedding in our society.

Since this bothers you to this degree (and rightfully so!), I would have a converstaion with her - either by phone, or face to face. Try to be calm, and not be a "bridezilla." But let her know that what she has chosen to wear is bothersome to you, and for what reasons, and ask if she might be able to exchange the dress for something a little more colorful.

I really hope you two can work this out!

No no No! talk to your dad he should help solving this...

WOW!!! SO not ok....but ya know what, if she does end up wearing it then she will be the laughing stock of the wedding. People will all say se is horrible for that so she's only making herself look bad. So sorry, hang in there!