How to make it clear there's NO plus one?

On your RSVPs say "___ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor" and write in 1.

We put on our inner envelopes Jane Smith

or Jane Smith and guest.

I figure if you don't see and guest then you should know you won't be getting one.

We did what Mrs. O suggested. We only had one person who didn't get it...he actually RSVPd correctly, he just brought the girl he was recently dating with him without telling us.

IrishLove - I think some of my friends still might not get it even if it doesn't say "and guest". I think the # of seats reserved might be a better idea for us.

Http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/what-is-polite-way-of-telling-guests-they-cant-just-invite-extra-people/c782ccdda2c7683b.html

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/not-allowing-single-guests-to-bring-date/6f1246b080fbab23.html

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/how-do-you-word-on-an-rsvp-that-they-are-not-allowed-to-bring-guest/11c4e5ad382ca986.html

With this current trend of adding anyone they want, I doubt that a singing telegram with clear directions would do the trick. I received a very DIY wedding invitation recently. I know the bride and groom are on a budget, so no surprises. Included in the envelope was a small, printed note that said:

1. This is an alcohol free event

2. Ceremony/Reception terrain may be difficult to navigate in heels, so wear something comfortable

3. We've can only accommodate the individual(s) named on the envelope. No plus ones unless clearly designated.

It was crystal clear.

There will most likely be some sort of issue anyway (just a warning)

I did the we have reserved ___ seats and still had people write in a different number. Some people just really don't get it.

Also the “__seats have been reserved in your honor.”

Reenski gave a good option in a previous post:

I have reserved 3 seats in your honor

__ of _3_ attending

__ of _3_ declined

They write in how many are attending and how many declined

These posts make me shudder in memory of what happened with my sisters wedding. My sister was remarrying after the death of her husband of 30 years. Her daughters who were extremely disgruntled at her remarriage went behind her back and invited most of her first husbands family. (Scary part, they showed up).

You write in the number of seats saved. I have seen ladies leave it blank, like: ___ seats reserved in your honor. dont do that! It confuses your guests and makes them think they can add in the number of guests. You need to have it written in there somewhere or it is unclear

@TFMD OMG! What a B!

I wrote down each persons name, with a yes/no option. If I was allowing a guest, I left a blank line. But some people has the audacity to add lines, with their own bubbles that thy filled in yes. Others RSVPd correctly, but still brought their (grown) children.

I am doing the same thing as Trena, I am making sure to call everyone on my side beforehand to get the name of their plus one (if I don't already know) and put a yes/no option beside each name. In addition to that I will be putting a disclaimer under the names stating *Please restrict the attendees in your party to those specifically listed on your invitation*

And just to top it off on the wedding website we have a FAQ that addresses it stating "Unless we have specifically invited a guest (i.e names were listed on the invitation) we are not allowing invitees to bring a guest. We have worked really hard to create our wedding with our close friends and family. If you have a question about this please call _____ directly. Thanks for understanding. Due to our budget restrictions we cannot allow extra guests at this time, but we will be sure to seat you with people you know and love!"

So yea it's pretty clear, and if its not I'll just let hubby address it and that wont be good lol

Sorry double post

I feel like you have to draw the line between doing this in a classy way and going overboard/rude. I think the ___seats reserved in your honor is just enough. But that's me. People will do what they want regardless and you don't need to come off badly.

I combined what both Mrs. O and Irish said. I only had one person send the RSVP back with the original number scratched out and another person added.

We did the "we saved X seats for you" so there was ZERO confusion!!!

We kept it simple & straight to the point, here is my 1st draft

plus 1 adult

adult only invitation

You could do Mr.Smith will be attending ___ will not be attending ____

and the guest can check it off