How to make it clear there's NO plus one?

The seats reserved is te best way. If they add names you call them as say "sorry for the confusion but only you were invites. Hope to see you then! Or I'm sorry well miss you" if they threaten not to come without the added guest.

FYI- anyone go considers themselves to be in a relationship, regardless of how long, should be invited together. Plu ones are for truly single people. Not inviting someone's bf or gf will probably result in some very hurt feelings and/or offended guests

What Mrs. O says...you must do the seats thing. As someone pointed out earlier, people DO NOT GET subtle hints. You must spell it out.

I'm already having this problem and were only at engagement party! I just got an rsvp from a friend saying he was coming but not his very new girlfriend. I felt like saying good because only you were invited, but well let it pass. I agree, some of FHs friends will definitely assume the get a plus one even if the envelope is addressed to only them. I like the idea of how many seats have been reserved.

I put "and guest" for people who were given a plus one, and added a thing under FAQ on our website that explained no guests unless on invitation due to the number of people. I had 2 people ask me if they could bring people and a third RSVP'd with a a plus one. One of the 2 people who asked me is now not bringing his one because she's busy that day. (Because it was only 2 people and we'd had enough declines, I said it was ok but to RSVP with them as well and write their meal choice/name down.)

I only addressed it to the people I wanted to be there. Plus I had them RSVP online so there was no way they could add people.. They had to ask me if they can bring their bf's.. To which I replied "no"

I did __ seats reserved in your honour. However, my failing seemed to be the area where they wrote how many people out of that number were attending. I wrote ___number of guests. As in, number of my guests out of your reserved seat count are attending. A few people got mixed up with that it seems, but I set them straight, and people are going to ask for plus ones no matter what. They'll say "I see my invite says only one seat in my honour. Do I get a plus one? Can't I bring my new boyfriend that you've never even met because we've been dating for three weeks?"

I only had one guest actually cross out the number and add someone, but they asked about it on the RSVP. My cousins are hosting an exchange student during that time, so it was a legit request, which I obliged.

Exactly what MrsO said! Also I will have security at the front for anyone who isn't on the guest list and tries to come.

How does one respond to a scratched out RSVP with a new number? I find that rude and I dont know If I could contain myself.

Sooooo helpful

Like the previous posters have said, the best way to indicate that a guest does not have a plus one is to address the invitations very explicitly to exactly who is invited (Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe vs. The Doe Family). You can also add the "x seats reserved in your honor" line to your RSVPs!

Inevitably, there will be some guests who still RSVP with additional guests. Call that guest right away and let them know that "due to budget and/or venue capacity limits, we will not be able to accommodate any additional guests".

For more tips, check out How to Politely Tell Your Guests Things They Don't Want to Hear!

You could do online RSVPs! We're doing ours online from theknot.com, and it only allows you to RSVP with the names that we have entered into the guest list. If you try to RSVP with a name that's not on our guest list, the site won't let you.

No offense but if I am not allowed to bring a plus one to a wedding I do not attend. I understand it's a space issue and cost but my enjoyment is also a factor and if I'm not going to enjoy myself I will not attend as much as I want to celebrate with you on your special day I will not do so by also subjecting myself to the awkward scrutiny of being older than the bride and groom and also not being able to bring a date.

View Quoted Comment Mrs Hill 2 be I found this very helpful, thank you! I will be using please restrict the attendies in your party to those listed on your invitation. I find it is respectful, short, and easy to understand

Finally the question I have been dealing with the most the last few months!!!! We decided the same as far as couples being engaged/married or dating long term. I have had multiple people get rude about not getting a plus one but this helps enormously.

I was planning on being a bridezilla/being extra for this particular situation. We have a tiny budget and we only have 25 guests including kids and whatnot... the problem is we are inviting a special special person that might be married by then but might be with someone else by then, type person (you know what i mean? Unstable person, i meant lol) I plan on being EXTREMELY EXTRA and send this person a little details card inside the invitation saying *NO PLUS ONES ... And if the date comes and this person is still bouncing about oh Lord forgive me... IMMA BE A ZILLA ON THIS GOD FORSAKEN PERSON! ahem.... thanks for letting me vent and sorry i wasnt much help!

This stresses me out so badly..I have a count of 100 currently and that is allowing people to have a plus one, but there are people I could add if I wasn't allowing every single person to have a plus one.

So we will be having the same issue. My husband (we are doing a vow renewal) is adamant about not letting anyone a plus 1 unless they are engaged or married. No exceptions. It will mostly be very close friends and family. The problem is some cousins have been with whoever they are with for over 5 years (one couple 10 years) but they are not engaged, do no live together, etc. I dont think it is the perfect scenario but i do have to say that without exception those plus ones never come to any family functions. So despite the 10 year relationship (or however long) I only met majority of those people once. If i saw them on the street, I would have no idea who they were. Now on the other hand there are a couple of those plus ones that I am close with and see all the time. Husband says if you say no plus ones it should be for everyone. And that makes sense too... But man do I expect lots of BS talk...

It will blow our guest list up if we choose to have those people come. And we dont want that. So most likely will have to deal w the BS.

As someone pointed out be very specific with names of people invited. And if anyone rsvps with a different number of invitees or additional names make sure to call them and talk to them about it. No need to be rude or mean about it but like hey listen here is the thing I am sorry for confusion... Hope to see you there. I know at least 1 person who won't come because of it - OH WELL! I will be doing this...

View Quoted Comment Exactly what I did. All of our friend who understand weddings got it. We have had one of FH’s cousins add a person and it was awkward, but I think she doesn’t understand wedding etiquette and thought she could just add someone.

This is one of those things that you realize after you are in high gear of planning or putting final numbers in to caterers, etc., that you realize the importance of being SUPER clear on your invitations and save the dates. We underestimated the ignorance of people...bringing additional family members who were clearly not invited. It made us look bad because that level on the family tree was not invited but it made other family members think an exception was made when it in fact was not.

So I took this idea since we are having a very small wedding and small venue. There is one particular guest who kept asking if so-and-so is invited and I had to say no. On every invitation I wrote out the specific names of the people invited. The same guest reached out to me asking if he can invite a plus one with him. How do you suggest I respond?