How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

There are some really great "handbags" on this thread!

I'm glad you've decided to go. If you had found out about the dry wedding before you sent in your RSVP, I'd be all for you declining if you didn't want to go to a dry wedding. However, I feel like of you want to criticize a person's lack of etiquette, then you shouldn't commit an "etiquette crime" in retaliation. You said yes a while ago and her wedding is only a couple days away. It wouldn't be great etiquette to either just not show up or call her up last minute to bail.

There was something else I wanted to say. No clue what it was.

Oh, I remembered! The estimate for the cost to go to a wedding doesn't account for a plane ticket. Surely, I'm not the only one out there who has friends and family that have moved all over since college?

Is it against etiquette? Yes. But this woman cares about you enough to invite you to celebrate the biggest day of her life. If you have nothing else going on just go

Are you kidding me? Ew. these responses are cringe-worthy. Just go to the damned wedding. they're getting married for goodness sake. they're your friends. In the grand scheme of things, who gives a fuck if it's a dry wedding?

Wow, some friend you are. Just suck it up and go! Don't worry, your world won't come to an end because you can't drink for one night. Hell, if it's that important to you then go somewhere afterwards and have a drink!

I’m sorry but a dry wedding would be boring af. Sooo I’ll just sit here watching first dances, through speeches, cake cutting with my lovely lemon water? No. Just no. Would I still go? Yes and I would take a flask. Like majority of my friends would. Why be that person that imposes on other adults? You don’t want to drink therefore I can’t? Attending a wedding is more than just the money spent, I’m also spending my free time celebrating the couple. I hardly think it’s out of the realm of reason to want a drink with dinner. That doesn’t make people alcoholics, it makes them adults.

Ever interview DJs? They will be the first to tell you that weddings with open bar are the best and liveliest. Wanna know why? ALCOHOL!!! I’m actually pretty laid back on the cash bar thing, I’ve been to plenty of weddings with alcohol not included. I wouldn’t do it but doesn’t really bother me. But to not even allow me the option? Ok Mom, thanks.

I don't even drink and I hate dry weddings. I get to spend maybe 5 minutes talking to the bride and groom, who are circulating among their guests. That's precious time and I always enjoy it. Then I get to choose between sitting with all the people who are in a shitty mood because there's no booze, sitting with the people who are taking shots of straight vodka from hidden flasks like drunks in a park because the bride and groom have made that their only option for social lubricant for the night, or sitting with the people who are being smugly superior because they don't need alcohol to have fun and think that makes them better than others somehow. I could dance, but most people won't dance sober so if I try I always feel like FH and I are alone on the dance floor and people are staring at us.

I think this close to the event, I'd still just go though. Eat dinner and then take off if you want.

"Sorry that you felt the need to crap on the fact that some of us like to get dressed up for someone's wedding. "

That's fine. But then you cannot turn around and use the $ you paid to get your hair done as a complaint. You opted to do that, know what I mean?

Personally I think it's insane to pay for hair and makeup to be a guest at a wedding, but to each their own. Also, I am totally not having a dry wedding.

Go and give us updates the whole time!

I like how OP said that the reason this wedding was dry was out of cheapness, and there's still people white-knighting for the bride; and being pretty vicious with users against the dry wedding, too, I might add.

I don't care if I drink at a wedding or not, but what I DO care about is someone hosting a party and being cheap about it. There are ways the bride could have properly hosted her guests; beer and wine, consumption bar, etc. She chose not to. And a 1 1/2 hour wait between ceremony and reception, with NO cocktail hour? C'mon. She's being rude. She's being cheap. End of story.

Also, OP, if I were in your shoes, I'd still go, but I would make the best of that 1 1/2 hour wait, if you catch my drift; if not, I'll so kindly point out that shots meme posted, haha.

Seriously? You can't suck it up for several hours to honor someone's marriage without drinking? I'm sorry, but this is a poor excuse for not going after you said you would. Just my 2 cents, take it or leave it.

Bring a Lil sustain sumthin in your purse.

I could Dreamer, but I don't want to.

But come to think of it, I don't have any personal friends who would even consider a dry wedding. That would be as unheard of as a naked wedding. Or an 'everyone has to dress like Elvis' wedding.

It's just not on the radar at all....

O hell no @mustlovecats I'm old enough to drink! You can call me a bad friend all you want but I know I'm far from it. so since we're making assumptions I'm going assume you're the boring friend.

As I stated previously I'm going go since I've already rsvp.

I found out it was it was a dry wedding from a mutual friend who is a bm it's a dry wedding bc she doesn't want to pay for it!! Yes I can suck it up and I will but I don't freaking want to. I am an adult I enjoy drinking at parties and weddings. Especially an evening wedding where it's being treated as a party.

Weddings are more fun with booze they just are, especially with this crowd so I already know people will leave early and it's going be boring.

Yeah, I say go. I mean, it's totally tacky that she's not having alcohol considering she obviously likes it. (Hey, bach party). But, if your buds, it's best to just go. Also, just leave after dinner!

Second thing, guys, stop saying "dry weddings are so boring. they suck. I hate them. Kill me." It's kinda a bummer for us who had dry weddings. They don't suck. They are just COMPLETELY different. And tacky, so tacky.

Okay anyone who thinks that someone wanting to decline a wedding because there's no alcohol is an addict or has problems can get off their soapbox kindly. Is the bride and grooms time more valuable than mine? Absolutely not. No ones time is more valuable than another's. 99% of the time dry weddings are a result of the couple cheaping out. Idk about anyone else but I like to enjoy a drink or a few on weekends. And if I get all gussied up, find a dog sitter, and give you a hefty gift, you can at least provide my liquor for one evening. Jesus. Also, it was rude of the bride and groom to not mention it was a dry wedding before invites were sent out. Sounds like a gift grab. I would politely decline. #sorrynotsorry #twa

If you don't go, at least have the decency to be honest with them. If you're going to belittle your friendship due to a lack of alcohol, at least own up to it. I would rather someone be honest with me in that case so that I could therefore choose if you were really a friend to begin with.

Go to a bar in between.

I have been to dry wedding hosted but my Muslim friend. There is nothing wrong with that.

But I also been to wedding with cash bar where the bride spent $5000 on flowers. I know because she told everyone. And yes, I judge the F out of her making me pay $1 for a glass of water.

Not having alcohol is OK but going cheap is not.