How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

No alcohol on Sunday, eh? That's a new human variation on drinking.

It comes down to cheapness, pure and simple.

Since it's so last minute I would say you should just go. To me, dry weddings suck too, just grab a drink somewhere between the ceremony and reception since there is time and leave after dinner!

OMG I didn't even think of this we got her a fn electric wine opener and wine glasses off her registry!!!!!!!! Nope I'm going right back to BBB and exchanging it.

If someone did this to you you know you would be upset especially since you have a wedding coming up wouldn't you get pissed off if someone wanted to decline in less than a week. I would go because you already said you would and just sneak a flask in. I would also pregame during that time space.

Multiple flasks...bring a big purse....refill your drink in the bathroom. Im sure plenty of people are doing this. If you arent close then the bride wont even notice you all night.

I understand that you don't want to go to a dry wedding and have a gap but how would you feel if you paid for someone's plate and they flaked out of your wedding at the last minute for something other than a family emergency?

I honestly cannot believe the tantrum of having to attend a dry wedding that's fucking ridiculous. It's only a few hours.

It's awful of her not to host properly but it's just as ride to cancel your RSVP so close.

so pre game and pack a flask.

and gossip after

@Natassia why would you spend money to get your hair and make up done if you're just a guest for a wedding? That's just a huge waste of money.

We used to not be able to buy alcohol in CT on Sundays... It was tragic.

I am from another generation also. Wedding ceremonies were beautiful and all about supporting the couples marriage. The reception after was to party! And thank the guests for coming. Alcohol was served in most cases. It was considered rude to not serve alcohol unless it was an afternoon wedding or for religious reasons. Back then, fountains were the big thing. One with a spiked drink and one without alcohol. Some things never change. Good hosting is one of them.

Spazzy has a good point... There's the cure for the gap. I can do some damage in 1.5 hours.

Spazzy has a good point... There's the cure for the gap. I can do some damage in 1.5 hours.

@FutureMrs.C bc people want their guest to look nice and formal in their pictures.

@must love cats bc I like to drink! I don't like dry weddings bc they tend to be boring. I'm about to spend my free Saturday and spend money to attend a wedding that I'll most likely be bored at.

Also her family and friends are already annoyed about it, which is how I found out it was dry in the first place from all the chit chatter.

Katelina I've NEVER spent 725 dollars on some one else's wedding. Unless it was out of town. If its in town you would not need a hotel & gas wouldn't cost you 50 dollars either . And if you dont generally care about the bride/groom you should NOT go out of town for their wedding. Thats just a duh! Wedding gifts i understand. The rest of the costs are purely your choice! The nerve of some people, thinking the bride and groom is somehow indebted to them because they chose to spend 200 on a dress and have their make up done professionally. EVERYONE lovesssss to have coctails at a party but some of you are taking it too far

By the way im having a full open bar because its in MY budget and I loveeeee to drink!

You go to the wedding. Wear a dress you already have, put on make up you already have, straighten or curl your hair based on your preference and attend the wedding. You would be mad if someone did this to you so close to yours. Not knowing the people alcohol might not be important to them, and yes maybe it is a money issue, but they still spent money on your meal. If you are mad enough don't give the gift, that is your choice. A gift is not a requirement, it is just that, a gift. Take a flask if you need alcohol, pregame and post game. I recommend vodka because it goes with almost all non alcoholic drinks and has little smell, but then that is just my preference.

We had a dry wedding. DH's family are all teetotalers. Our guest list was pretty small (50 invited, 35 attended). It was a Sunday evening backyard wedding. We decided on a dry wedding long before the invites went out and everyone invited was told it would be dry. The choice was made out of respect for DH's family. Here is what happened:

People still drank. Groomswoman's fiance brought his own beer & kept it in their vehicle. He was lit by the time the reception started. We have alcohol in our home, out in the open. A few people took it upon themselves to have a drink. I think there were maybe 5 people that ended up getting into the liquor. The thing is, we had a dry wedding for DH's family...who left immediately following the ceremony. Their excuse for leaving? They didn't feel comfortable with there being alcohol. Bottom line? We should have just had wine & beer available for everyone. Did people have fun? Sure. Lots of dancing & fun antics lasting quite late into the night for a Sunday wedding. I'm still pissed we had a dry wedding for nothing.

As boring as dry receptions are I'd still go. I'm in the mindset that the only time you revoke your rsvp is in the event of an emergency. Not because the hosts aren't providing alcohol. Go to the ceremony and reception and leave shortly after dinner if you must. Just don't back out. Wear something you already own and show up. Don't cost the couple money because you've now changed your mind.

I became friends with this bride while we were both bridesmaids in her cousin's wedding 4/5 years ago. During the bachelorette party we were the only ones still standing after pounding back shots of tequila all night. Alcohol is literally the foundation of our friendship. That's why the dry wedding is throwing me off.

"This is why you should have alcohol." No. If people don't want to come to my wedding because there won't be booze, I don't want them there anyway.