How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

I understand why having alcohol at a wedding is important to treat your guests, but the way everyone is reacting is like it is impossible to have a fun wedding without it. Are weddings with alcohol that much more fun than ones with out? I have been to about 4 weddings in my life... all dry except one. The one with alcohol almost no one drank so I don't know what all the fuss is about. just to be clear we are doing alcohol but I just don't know how that would really change the wedding.

@emilyg Chances are, her dinner isn't $85 of it's a dry wedding.

I couldn't agree more with Emily. Do you care about these people at all? I can't imagine missing a wedding of someone in my life because there wasn't alcohol. Etiquette for providing alcohol or not aside, presumably you care about these people enough to RSVP yes in the first place so I think it's pretty unfortunate to miss their wedding because it's dry.

I agree with PP, go and bring a flask.

This close to the wedding, I vote that you have to go. Like someone said earlier, how would you feel if someone canceled on you last minute saying "something came up". Enjoy the ceremony. Find some place close by to hang out for 1.5 hours. Enjoy the dinner. And then see how it goes. Maybe the music and dancing will be enough and it will be run. If not, then leave! But yeah, I think you have to go.

I think you should go since she is paying for your meal either way and it would be rude to cancel because of that. I get it sucks there is no alcohol but it would be awesome letting everyone know your experience.

I'd suck it up and go and just make an excuse to leave after dinner. Like PP's have said, she has paid for your meal so it would be rude not to show up now. How many people have complained about no-shows here before?

I know what I'd be realllllly tempted to do. I can't abide all of the "everyone drinks too much" nonsense when it's really about not wanting to spend money on one of the top elements that make a party a party.

I can tell you that I would not attend their ceremony -- no question about it -- only their reception. If they think so little of me (or so much of themselves) that they believe that it's fine for people to stand around for 1.5 hours waiting to be hosted, then they can think again.

I love the "take one for the team, go and report back" responses. There is some value there -- some brides have admitted that they ditched their soft drink only weddings after they read the comments of those who have been at dry weddings. However, prepare yourselves for the inevitable, "If they don't care about you enough to come and celebrate your love (for six hours on their day off), then they shouldn't be there." I often wonder if all of those indignant brides would return the gifts that the no-shows (who had no desire to sit through a long night of hot-cocoa and lemonade) sent in their stead. Nah...'course no.

Please don't ditch. As a bride yourself, you should understand all the time and money that goes in to hosting just one person. Seating chart, meal, favor, cake, beverages (whether is alcoholic or not), chair, etc. Yes it's dry, but that is not the end of the world. Be there to support your friend. If you absolutely cannot bare to go a few hours without a drink, then go to a bar in between the ceremony and reception.

I wouldn't take it back. Yes dry weddings suck but she has already paid for you and I'm assuming your guest. It is this weekend so there's no way to get that money back. Bring a flask or have some drinks beforehand but don't flake on her last minute because there will be no alcohol.

It is more rude to reverse your RSVP at this point since she is planning on you being there. Suck it up and bring a flask.

It is not FREE alcohol. I don't know what some people wear or bring as a gift to a wedding, but the one I went to last Saturday night cost me close to $800, everything included. If I wanted a budget pleasing night of cocktails, I'd go to a local bar, not a wedding.

I'd take one for the team... And if drinking is that important to you - bring a flask, cooler in your truck, or something. But I wouldn't not go celebrate someone's big day just because they aren't having alcohol.

Centerpiece how did you manage to spend $800 to attend a wedding?!! I need answers. It had to be a destination wedding. Thats some people's pay check for the week.

I don't know about most people but my DH won't get up and dance without liquid courage. We would probably leave right after dinner if we had to go. However we don't know a single person who would have a dry wedding.

Why would you not go to a friend's wedding just because it's a dry wedding..... you are celebrating there marriage not how much you can drink... you can have fun without alcohol! Just don't give that much money as a gift.

I care more about my friends than drinking. I'd go

Flask it. You can grab a drink with your date or a few other guests between the ceremony and reception since it's a longer gap. Then you'll have the flask at the reception. Then take off after cake.

I'm having a full open bar, but this thread right here is the reason my guest list is on the smaller side. I would hope no one I invite is attending my wedding just for the booz and I do the same for them.

I know no one agrees with me and I have kept my mouth shut but...just cause it's a dry wedding doesn't mean it's boring. Obviously I'm from a different generation but it use to be that weddings were to celebrate the couples love to honor them not to party. That being said just tell them something came up if you don't want to go