How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

I would also bring a flask lol. Or just leave right after dinner.

You want to take back your RSVP just because you found out it's a dry wedding? Yes, dry weddings suck and she's ridiculous for having one, but if you're an adult, suck it up and go. At the end of the day, it's a wedding celebration, not a 21st birthday party.

I'm you I just suck it up and just go because I'm doing catering to for my wedding and my plates are $20 per person

Emily, if the wedding is dry, I doubt they are spending anywhere near $85 a person for food. I paid $72 a person and that included a full open bar.

OP, since the wedding is this Saturday, I think you have to go. Bring a flask and keep us updated.

Is it local? Then go, bring a flask, and live tweet how boring it is.

@Emilyg- get over yourself.

As much as i HATE cash bars at weddings... i still prefer it over not being able to drink at all. I like to have a few drinks at weddings... i don't understand the whole dry wedding thing. I have gone to weddings for people in recovery, and even they had an open bar for their guests. I agree with some of the others, since you already said yes... go and make the best of it.

I would absolutely bring a flask lol or a bottle depending how large your bag is! That's great that they don't want to drink but your an adult it's not like your gonna get hammered. I say go and bring your own, it's kinda wrong to decline two days before unless a real emergency came about! Let us know how it is!

Since it is so last minute I would go. But bring drinks to entertain yourself during the hour and a half break and then bring a flask in for the reception.

I would say just suck it up and go if they were only having a dry wedding, but they are also making you wait a long time with no cocktail hour which is 2 strikes so I say bring your own supplies.

This is what happens when your budget or guest list is wrong....

Sure people will want to see your wedding because they *love* you but having a dry wedding or cash bar shows how much they *like* you in return.

Relationships are a 2 way street. I do not have as a high opinion of my cousin for the super fuckery at her wedding.

I agree with Alicia C. Lol!

@HotLikeBea - No. But I can't WAIT to hear how you like it next summer when your guests start pulling out 2 days before your wedding.

@Centerpiece and others - hang on, most of us get through 'long nights of hot cocoa and lemonade' ALL THE TIME. If you can't get through a 'long night' at home or out with friends without alcohol, you've got a problem. Is it more pleasant with a drink or two? Sure. But most adults know how to have a good time without it.

Go. During the 1.5hr break you can always find a bar and get a little loose before the reception. And there's no harm in bringing a flask

I don't think weddings should be rated because there is or is not alcohol. Be there for the couple or don't go.

The last wedding I went to, there was cheap beer, boxed wine and a disgusting signature drink flowing heavily. No one danced and almost everyone left early, but the groom still got so drunk he ended up being taken to the hospital and the MOB was crying all over me on her way out to the lawn to puke.

I would have rather have gone to a dry wedding.

My reaction to getting an invite for a dry wedding: you think you can stop me from getting drunk...challenge accepted.

I vote pre game and bring a flask.

Get over it EmilyG. If someone can't see fit to offer me at least a glass of wine at a social occasion, then I'm not spending six hours with them. I'm an adult. I have limited free time. This is not how I'd choose to spend it, partly because it's NOT only about the dryness, it's about what those hosts think is an appropriate way to treat their guests.

I'd send a nice check in a card and stay home.

I think it would be easy to spend $800 on going to a wedding!

Shower gift: $100

Wedding gift: $100

New dress: $150

New shoes: $75

Hotel: $250

Gas: $50

That's $725 right there. For all that, I'd hope to go to a proper wedding.

OP, you should definitely go. We preach a lot of etiquette on this board, and showing up when you RSVP to be there is good etiquette. Does that mean you have to STAY? Nope. But, barring any medical emergencies, you need to go.

You can rock one of these

I'm going go bc its too late to back out, I went to potluck wedding in Aug. and wrote about as a PSA of what not to do. So i'll take one for the team and report back with another PSA. Dry wedding people let your guest know ahead of time its a dry wedding bc guess what some of us like to freaking drink when we party!

@Emilyg oh please!

And to all the "i Care more about my friend than alcohol people" I care so much about my friends that I am making sure at my wedding they all have something they like to drank! This bride and I are part of the same social circle for the most part and this social circle likes to drink!!! Her reason for the dry wedding isn't religious, it isn't bc recovery its bc shes being cheap!

I am absolutely pulling out my flask purse!

I think you have to go. But I would 100% pregame it and bring a flask/mini bottles! And yes, we demand either a play by play or a full report afterwards!!!

Lillian...I actually calculated the cost this time (after it was reported on CBS news that the average wedding guest spends $703 to attend a wedding).

To begin with, the venue was more than an hour from home. The wedding ended at midnight. I wasn't driving an hour home after six hours at a wedding. So, right off the bat, the hotel was $170 per night. Next was the dress. This was a very formal wedding, and it was held in an exclusive venue (every perk possible, and it was breathtakingly beautiful). It required formal wear. My dress, a sequined gown, was $194 from Lord and Taylor (I tried Rent the Runway, but they didn't have a single dress available in a size 10 or 12). Jewelry was $60. Hair was $87. Gift was $190. Gas and tolls were $25. Lunch on Saturday and breakfast on Monday were $70. Grand total: $795. I didn't do a mani/pedi (a $2 bottle of nail polish worked just fine), and I did my own make-up. Oh, and my shoes...don't tell anyone...but they were gold ballet flats I got at Walmart for less than $10 (I'd love to wear heels, but it just isn't possible).