How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

@Laura - I see that you are going to go which is what I was going to suggest since you already RSVP'd and your dinner has already been counted in final numbers. If it were me, I'd return the gift, though, and just bring a card.

I still don't understand why people think "drunk people" will ruin a wedding. I'm not sure I'd appreciate people slamming shots before the ceremony, but I hope everyone gets HAMMERED at my reception. Some of the people who come on here don't know how to party.

Okay I feel like I need to chime in.

It's kinda rude to decline because it's no alcohol.

Seriously- my close friend doesn't drink. ever. neither do her family. but dang- it's about her getting married..

Is it polite to offer alcohol to people who drink? Yes.. but it is what it is. and you dont have to stay the whole time. Or just go to the ceremony..

Also- don't bring a flask unless you're willing to talk to her about it.

I say this for 2 reasons:

One- my venue gave us a strict warning - NO OUTSIDE ALCOHOL. They even told us they've closed down weddings because of people bringing in drinks.

This isn't a huge concern since we have an open bar and guests wont feel the need.. but you never know how her venue will react.

And same concept- if they get caught with people drinking on premises and dont have the right permit, it can just ruin the day.

Be a good friend for just one day. Suck it up, attend and leave early. Pre-game if you need to. Lol

I always bring a flask to a wedding in case it is dry. My friend got told he was going to a dry wedding and went to bev mo and bought handles of alcohol. He kept them in is trunk, but spent the whole night giving out alcohol from his trunk.

You rsvp'd so your going to have to go. Good luck

Would you want someone cancelling on you last minute? No. Their rudeness doesn't cancel our your rudeness.

Just bring a flask and discreetly fill your glass of cranberry juice lol. That's what I did

You already RSVP you gotta go. How are you gonna feel when people cancel last minute via text ?!

Sadly, I've been to many dry weddings. Minis are your friend.

Since you already sent your RSVP, i would just suck it up and go. How wouod you feel if someone rspved to your wedding, you sent in the guest count and paid, and then find out someone isnt coming anymore? They could be out a couple hundred dollars from that. Thank goodness none of our friends would ever have a dry wedding. We all like drinking too much for that to happen.

@Emilyg:

"@HotLikeBea - No. But I can't WAIT to hear how you like it next summer when your guests start pulling out 2 days before your wedding. "

ETA: How could I have forgotten this? #RBC #TWA #WL #WW7

Well for starters, I'm not getting married next summer, so maybe you should learn how to read a date properly?

Second, I'm properly hosting my guests with cocktails, apps, a full dinner, dessert, and dancing, soooo I'm not to worried.

Third, I told her to go to the wedding, and not drop out, soooo again maybe you should learn how to read?

Emilyg...I may have a problem, but the problem is an individual who believes they can diagnose problem drinkers on a wedding forum. It always goes there, doesn't it. It's about money...pure and simple, and there are lots of people who would rather cover that fact with a veneer of faux concern for their guests' safety, the one recovering alcoholic out of 130 people, etc.

The subject at hand was not, as I recall, sitting at home with hot cocoa and lemonade every night of the week. It was sitting at a wedding venue -- something that requires a significant out of pocket expense, I might add -- and then, for six hours, sipping on hot cocoa and lemonade. Sorry, that's boring, and if you don't think so, than I guess you're move evolved that I am. I'm an adult, and until I have a DUI on my record, I think I'm adulting just beautifully, martini glass in hand and covered in sequins. You, on the other hand, should probably stay away from the hard stuff.

Flask or just go to the bar if they have one and get yourself a cocktail. I am sure you will not be the only guest doing this. Hopefully the money she saved on the bar was used to have amazing food.

Alcohol isn't that important for me to have fun so I'd still attend the wedding especially if I'd already RSVP'D. But to each their own.

I would skip the ceremony - ugh no break for me thanks.

Show up for dinner watch the first dance and head out.

My boss' wedding was dry because her dad is a pastor and they do the no alcohol on Sunday's thing. EVERYONE was dancing and having a blast. It was the hottest day of summer that year too!

You already said yes, so it's rude not to go. Watch how annoyed you'll be if someone does that to you!

I would still definitely go, but just to address whoever was stupid enough to say this:

Are weddings with alcohol that much more fun than ones with out?

I don't even drink and the incredibly obvious answer is Yes.

I don't drink a drop of alochol ever, including our wedding night, and the answer is still Yes.

That's like saying are parties with cake really more fun than those without? Are dinners with steak really better than rice and beans?

Fucking duh.

"...martini glass in hand and covered in sequins" love it @The Centerpiece Flowers

My bff had a dry wedding reception partly because the county where the B and B where the reception was is dry. Well you can bring it but they can't serve it unless in the city proper....

Anyhow she is also a big time tea totaled now though she used to drink like a fish.

We went because I love her but we stayed at the venue so we kept going to our room to ahem.....use the bathroom. Ie wine in our bags.

Some of the other guests visited our room to ahem use the bathroom.

I don't think my friend figured it out lol.

My uncle turned his trunk into a bar on wheels for my cousin's dry wedding. I wasn't there, but my mom always laughs telling the story of her, my dad, my aunt, and several other people hanging out in the parking lot for "fresh air breaks."

If it was not a super close friend of mine, I would probably tell her I got food poisoning and then send a check for the price of the meal after the wedding. I can't loosen up to dance without some liquid courage... so the night would be negative on the booze and negative on the dancing... boring -_-

Never leave home without it.