How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

Its her day and you already rsvp'd. Just go and make the best of it. There was probably other people that decided not come because of that and if that's the case im sure she may not feel very supported. If it was me i wouldnt want that. I'm sure you will find a way to have a good time!

Dry wedding dance floor-

I've attended every dry wedding I've ever been invited to.

Everyone left after dinner.

If you are expecting an all night dancing wedding and it's dry? It ain't gonna happen.

Brunch wedding that's dry? Fine. Cake and punch? Fine.

Evening wedding that's dry? Hell naw.

Go, bring a handful of minis in your purse, go to the bathroom and dump them in your drink! Order lots of coke and bring lots of mini rums!!

Only read through a few of the comments but:

1) For the white knights who are saying "How dare you not go to your friends wedding and support them because of no alchohol!" I've never been to a wedding without alcohol. Ever. FH and I look forward to celebrating when our friends or family get married and celebrating with DRINKS. Do we have a drinking problem because on a Friday or Saturday night we like to have a few drinks while dancing around? No. That's actually highly insulting of anyone to assume because people like to have a drink while attending a PARTY that they are alcoholics.

2) IF you DON'T want alcohol at your wedding then host a cake and punch reception that will end before lunch. Don't have a freaking all night affair with NO LIQUOR. WTF is that even? People will leave so fast. I know I would.

3) A lot of venues do not allow outside liquor and wouldn't you hate to be the bride or groom who had their wedding shut down because people brought in their own liquor to have fun? Know how you avoid this? PROVIDE ALCOHOL.

While I agree that OP should go to the wedding, which she has stated she is, I don't agree with all these white knights popping up acting like we are children of satan because we like a god damn glass of wine on a Saturday night. I bust my ass at work during the week - I want a drink on my day off.

ETA: While I will always attend every wedding we are invited to unless for some reason we can't, I would side eye the shit out of someone who had a dry wedding. I'm sorry I would.

Either call and say, "Gee, if I can't get hammered at your wedding, I don't want to come-- you know booze is more important to me than my friends major milestones", OR wait a tell her you're sick at the last minute, which will at least hide how little she means to you. I'm with you on the long gap, but seriously-- alcohol is more important than your friends? WTF?

@FMC-The only time we get dressed up and go out is either Christmas parties or a wedding. So yes I buy a new dress, yes I get hair and makeup done. Why? Because we are going to celebrate and then party. Not have dinner and go home. Sorry that you felt the need to crap on the fact that some of us like to get dressed up for someone's wedding. But luckily not a single person I know would have a dry wedding. So when we go we know we are going to party most of the night

Bring a flask, and make it obvious. #petty

Look at it from her perspective - would you be okay if a guest backed out so close to your day? I think of all the responses, I would echo Emilyg's the most...I think you can make it through one social event without alcohol.

Best of luck!

@Must Love Cats - "I really hate how people feel like they're entitled to things. . ." BINGO.

Most of us here in the WW community truly do hate how people feel like they're entitled to things....like having guests pay for a party that is meant to thank the guests. And not properly hosting a party meant to thank wedding guests.

"[I]t's not your day, it's theirs" WRONG.

THIS is the entitlement we here in the WW community hate. Thank you so much for being a prime example.

Also, I flagged you for calling Laura names.

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You're missing the point, Razzled. Most people here are properly hosting their guests so really the only reason they'd have people backing out last minute would be for emergencies. That's understandable.

In this case, I would still go. I'd pre-game that day. I probably wouldn't take a flask just because I wouldn't want to take the chance that they could get in trouble with the venue, if that's why they're not having alcohol. I'd eat my dinner and get the hell out so I could go home, drink and enjoy myself.

I love how everyone is ganging up on Emily about judging when they are judging people for having a dry wedding. I also think it is a horrible idea to bring alcohol to a dry wedding because they probably didn't buy the insurance for it. Like other people said the venue could shut down your 'friends' entire wedding because you brought outside alcohol into the reception. I just find it all really disrespectful and inappropriate. Also I would personally never spend 800 dollars to attend someones wedding. You can do your own hair and makeup, and you don't have to buy a 200 dollar dress no matter how nice of a wedding it is. I would be upset if I ever found out that someone spent 800 dollars to attend my wedding. Also we have not yet decided whether or not to have a dry wedding or not. My parents are paying for the majority of our wedding and my dad is super religious and so is a lot of my family (Mennonite). My dad really doesn't want us to have any alcohol at our wedding but my FH would really like us to at least have some beer bottles to grab. Either way if whether or not I have alcohol at my wedding makes your decision to come I wouldn't want you to even bother. A wedding is about celebrating my marriage and having a good time. With or without alcohol.

@FutureMrsMaiden I did not say anything inappropriate. People need to grow a backbone and be prepared to hear comments that they're not going to like on a public forum.

Btw, flagged you right back.

Tell them the truth.

@must love cats. Are you really calling someone a bad friend? Didn't you have a post about not allowing a friend to bring her SO to your wedding and being pissed at another friend for wanting to bring someone to get ice cream with you and your FH??

Reading your post OP where the bride likes to drink I'd be even more annoyed at the idea of a

Dry wedding.

Eeerrrrrgggghhhh

@Must Love Cats - you said really contradictory, selfish stuff. That's all I guess.

ETA - speaking of wondering how old someone is......

Yes, I did. Do you know how many times I was told that on that thread. I didn't flag anyone's comments or make a stink about it. And you know what I still stick to what I originally thought single people who know others do not need a plus one or do people need to bring a date to go get a friendly casual ice cream.

Okay...can we dispense with the "it's their day" mantra? Everyone's day belongs to them. They can choose how to spend it or not spend it (they can choose to stay home from work, but then they're also choosing to get fired). As far as leisure time is concerned, no, a wedding day does not magically create some otherworldly quantum physics situation in which a matrimonial magnetic field pulls everyone's day away from them and gives them to two people who decided to get married with guests in attendance. If a guest wants to stay for two hours at a dry wedding, it's their day -- they can choose to do that, just as the hosts can choose to ban alcohol from their very lengthy party.

And Zoe, I generally agree with you, but we'll never see eye to eye on this one. Just because somebody doesn't spend the entirety of the event at the reception, it does not mean that the couple means nothing to them. It means, I've come, I've seen, I've congratulated, I've gifted, I've eaten, I've kissed...and now I'm going home (and since it's my day, I can chose to do that because I've had my fill of small talk and coffee).