How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

Keep a couple shot bottles in your purse. Or three...or four.

I've done it, and ended up having a great time

I would just leave right after dinner.

A lot of times I leave shortly after dinner anyways so I am not sure what is so wrong with that. If you aren't into dancing, you just sit there all night and watch people dance? At that point I've seen them wed, I've congratulated them, and given a gift. I think that's sufficient.

The people who are assuming that just because an ADULT wants a glass of wine or a drink with dinner or before dancing "can't handle being sober for a day" make me laugh.

JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE TO DRINK DOES NOT MAKE THEM ALCOHOLICS.

JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE TO DRINK DOES NOT MAKE THEM ALCOHOLICS.

JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE TO DRINK DOES NOT MAKE THEM ALCOHOLICS.

JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE TO DRINK DOES NOT MAKE THEM ALCOHOLICS.

JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE TO DRINK DOES NOT MAKE THEM ALCOHOLICS.

It is common courtesy to provide drinks to your guests, unless EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM don't drink for religious reasons (such as the case with our lovely Ninjaaa, as Centerpiece pointed out.)

Even if I didn't spend ANYTHING to go to your wedding (which I wouldn't...even if I wore stuff I already had, and didn't have to spend for gas, you'd still get a gift), I'm still getting ready, traveling to you, and spending part of my day with you. Yes, because I love you, and yes, because you mean a lot to me.

But I don't mean enough to you for you to let me have a glass of wine BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT TO PAY FOR IT?

I'd bring a flask, I'd go to a bar, and I'd leave after dinner. In fact, I've done that. I went to the wedding of a very religious friend of mine, and it was an afternoon/early dinner wedding. My date and I left right after dinner. neither of us were going to dance without booze. That's just how it goes.

I don't NEED alcohol to have a good time. But I enjoy alcohol, especially when celebrating. Its a social lubricant. It helps to loosen people up. Plus, red wine goes great with my steak.

You people who keep equating adults who enjoy drinking with drunks are sorely mistaken. There is a HUGE difference. HUGE.

@Yasmina myself and pp have tried to explain it in different words and phrases but they don't seem to get it. Apparently I'm an alcoholic shitty friend bc I would like to drink at a social event/celebration. I'm such a shitty friend that I'm going make sure my friends have plenty of booze and food while they celebrate with me for my wedding, and if I have a gap I'm going make sure there's hor d'oeuvres and cocktail hour, so they're not just wandering a town most of them aren't familiar with or just standing around the reception area taking selfies. But you know I'm a horrible friend bc I rather spend my one day off having fun.

Laura2.0: Yup. Horrible friend. You know how to host people properly, that makes you a TERRIBLE PERSON.

You have to decide what's more important to you. Drinking or her union. It's her day. That day should be special for her and if she desires to have a dry wedding then that's her choice. Your support should be for her union.

GIRL!! go to specs and get you a couple of those miniature bottles of liquor and stash them in your purse.

Can I trade my broccoli for a glass of wine?

The ceremony is where I'm going to support her union. The reception is where I was expecting to be thanked. If she's being so cheap to not even pay a bartender for a cash bar, I'm guessing she cut corners on other areas too.

What would yall say if a bride/groom decided they don't want to serve food at a dinner time reception bc its too expensive? Its they're they day you should just go support them. Their union is more important than food, you don't need food to have fun. Just bring snacks in your purse.

Support is mutual.

Skip the ceremony. Pregame. Stay for dinner. Leave after an hour or so.

Can you Uber to a bar in the 1.5 hours? Then Uber back? And bring a flask? Haha I feel ya. At this point, I probably wouldn't reverse the RSVP, but just make it work. It think it's rude of her to make the guests wait 1.5 hours without any kind of apps, etc. So I say make the most of it and you can still have fun...

Also I demand live updates.

"The ceremony is where I'm going to support her union. The reception is where I was expecting to be thanked. If she's being so cheap to not even pay a bartender for a cash bar, I'm guessing she cut corners on other areas too. "

Seriously, don't go. As ridiculous it may be to not even offer a cash bar, it is ridiculous to feel this much dread over your friend's wedding.

Spare her your constant night of side-eye and don't go.

I would have a bottle in the trunk of my car and still go

Why should a wedding be centered on alcohol? It's the marriage. If you can't celebrate your friend getting married without them buying you a drink, then she shouldn't be your friend.

God i hope she put that money into some kick ass food!! I went to a super religious wedding for FH'S BM. No alcohol no dancing, still have a good time with friends and loved seeing them get married. You already RSVPED go. I guarantee you won't be the only one with their own refreshments. Just don't make big deal of it. You mite have a great time.

What if she isn't having alcohol for religious reasons? You should go. She most likely had to make cuts for her list, and someone else may not have made the list so you could make it. It's rude to rescind an acceptance to an invitation and not going because it's dry is petty.

I hope she's not on wedding wire lol

It's Saturday!!! Laura--update us on your pre game and parking lot excursions!! Lol