How do I take back my RSVP? I don't want to go to a Dry wedding!

I would go to an everyone has to dress like Elvis wedding. Also for shits and giggles. But I'd be there.

O&L...coming from a florist, I completely agree with you. It's food, alcohol (at least beer and wine), and entertainment. Flowers are beautiful, but they come after the basics.

100% with Swin, and I had alcohol at my wedding. Vets, do you remember Randi and Ninjaaaa? Some of the most beloved posters on here? They both had dry weddings and they looked amazing. It's so strange that people categorically shit on dry weddings as boring and improper hosting, when it's technically not improper etiquette, yet there are actually people here saying it's ok to decline a wedding two days before it after RSVPing yes. THAT is horrible etiquette.

ETA: Gaps suck though. I vote go to the bar in between too.

I'm still stuck on a 1.5 hour gap between the ceremony and reception...

Centerpiece, exactly. I love the flowers and there's nothing wrong with spending whatever the couple want but they did not host the guest properly. Aside from cash bar, we also pay for parking...in an empty lot and there was a tip jar at the bar. They charge $1 per water because it's bottle the bride thinks it's not fancy to serve tap water.

I could go on but the point is that if you are not hosting the guest properly, that's what they will remember in years to come. This was about 3 years ago.

That broad is going to have a rude awakening when everyone leaves early because her reception is boring AF. That's what she gets for being cheap AF.

People do not "shit on dry weddings" if the hosts are devout individuals who practice a religion that prohibits alcohol. As I recall, Ninjaa was a member of the LDS faith, and she knew that her guests were all LDS. I have a cousin who converted to Mormonism decades ago. Nobody expected him to have alcohol at any of children's weddings (but, I do have to say, those receptions are quite different than conventional receptions -- as in, open house), despite the fact that the balance of our large family always hosts top shelf open bars. I specifically remember Ninjaa saying that if a single guest at her reception expected it, she would have had a bottle ready, although she wouldn't partake herself.

What we take offense to is the couple who doesn't want to pay for the alcohol, but still believes that guests who will want to drink at their six hour, evening wedding -- oftentimes more than 150 of them -- should be painted with the "alcoholic/you don't care about your friends/you just want to get a free drunk/you're rude" brushes.

It boggles my mind, it really does, that people will not cut their guests lists -- despite the fact that they already know a majority of their guests expect cocktails at an evening affair -- so that they can offer at least wine and beer to their nearest and dearest. It speaks to self-absorption, but not on the part of the guests.

Bring a bunch of little vodka bottles in your purse and order orange juice or cranberry juice!

@centerpiece my mind is boggled as well. Let me try to explain this one more time. Its a dry wedding bc SHE'S BEING CHEAP! She wont even have a cash bar bc that venue charges for use of their licensed bar tender (I know this bc it was one of the places we looked at) Its not for religious reasons, its not bc anyone is in recovery, majority of her guest drink. SHE SIMPLY DOES NOT WANT TO PAY FOR IT.

I realize it too late to cancel so I am going go. Can I survive without alcohol for a few hours of course I can, but I am a social drinker who enjoys having drinks at social events. I like to dance but I'm shy but with a little liquid courage I gain the confidence of Beyonce. I'll write a follow up post and hey maybe just maybe it'll be fun but knowing her crowd for the most part I doubt it.

Tailgate time?

Sorry, but i think it would be really rude not to go, much more so than not having alcohol or having a gap. You can't survive celebrating with a friend without booze? You should be going to witness their commitment and show your support. Dry wedding or not, your friend put a lot of time, energy, love, and money into building their wedding day. Go to a bar during the gap if you're desperate for a drink!

Sounds to me like this person really isn't a friend. Drinking isn't everything! Like some have already said. ..Think about your own wedding and if someone would do that to you. So NOT cool! !

Personally I Don't need alcohol to have fun. Especially if I'm with good company.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Don't be "that guest". You gave your RSVP. An emergency is one thing. Bring a flask and go have what will hopefully be a good meal.

Eeek

Drink beforehand haha a lot

Omg I've never been to a dry wedding but I could imagine everyone leaving early. That sounds like such a waste of money.

I would go since you already rsvp'd. You dont have to stay the whole time.

You can't handle being sober for half of a day?

Honesty I'm from michigan and I've never been to a wedding without a gap between the ceremony and reception. Everyone just goes home or does something in the area. However I've also never been to a dry wedding. Bring a flask? Lol stay for dinner and then leave?

Considering you already accepted and most couples ask you to reply by a certain date so they can turn in their final head count (meaning they're paying for your meal) I would hope that you'd go. Sneak some shooters in if you must but, don't back out on an invite that you accepted!