Honorary Bridesmaids? Yes or no!

Oh OP my heart breaks for you. These people are toxic. I hope in your life you have the opportunity to meet some genuine and kind friends who aren't garbage humans .

God I hate this girl SO MUCH I don't even know how to react to this. <3

This is truly horrible. I am so sorry that this is happening to you. This is complete and utter bullshit.

Op- Ain't nothing cut that bitch off! You are better off than having someone like that in your life.

I am so sorry.

Im not reading all the comments. I have no idea what an honorary bridesmaid even is. Aren’t all bridesmaids honorary? Eta after reading a few replies here and there I just want to say why are you friends with this person?

Hannah read the damn comments. This is way more that a stupid title.

Oh Hannah, it goes way beyond the honorary bullshit. See page two and five for sure please.

174 comments and other than your updates, and a few people who are too lazy to read the comments, every person you've shared your story with has been outraged. Respect yourself enough to walk away from these people.

Just sat a read through this whole thread and I honestly feel sick. I am so unbelievably sorry that your "friend" is behaving in this manner. What an absolutely fucked up individual. Is she seriously comparing not wanting you to ruin her uniformity the same way you did not wear the colors of your table linens at your wedding? Like is that for real? I cannot even wrap my head around that level of fuckery.

OP PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do NOT apologize. This woman and her friends do not deserve your apology.

OP, I'm sure I'm not saying anything that others have not but just know your worth. You deserve to have friends who love and cherish you. This is truly disgusting and please do not allow this person back into your life.

Holy fuck stick.

OP.

Look at yourself in the mirror. Really look- and look at the beautiful caring and kind woman that stares back at you and forgive YOURSELF for being so kind and wanting to see the best in everyone.

Once you've done that- Put on your version of "All Hail the Queens" play list and realize that this fucking shit stain on the back of someone's 5 day old undies does not deserve your friendship.

Does not deserve your kindness.

Does not deserve to lick your shoes.

Not ONLY did she ignore your feelings- she made HERSELF the victim instead of hearing you out at all. She's a gaslighting narcissistic manipulator.

Cut her from your life. Immediately. Surround yourself with people who are not toxic- and who love you for you. The only person you have to apologize to your inner Queen for letting someone take advantage of you.

Do not pass go.

Do not collect 200$

Do not be a bridesmaid

Do not go to the wedding.

Do not be this person anything.

You don't apologize to shit stains.

OP, there are so many people on this thread supporting you and telling you that your feelings are not wrong and there is no need to apologize. Please, please listen.

The evolution of this thread has hurt my heart. You deserve better in every way.

Just so you know, if people ask why you are declining to be her “honorary bridesmaid” or why you aren’t going to her wedding and you tell them the real reason, it only reflects on her.... I understand you not wanting to share that information but maybe you should so everyone can know what kind of person she really is

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ENDING (hopefully)

I told the girls l didn’t want to apologize feeling that l have done nothing wrong. The screenshots of the responses of 2 of them are self explanatory. I guess it’s over now. And thank you all for the support. And sorry it got so weird and complicated. Without the support l would have never had the courage to refuse to apologize and end up with ni girl friends. I really appreciate. Thanks a whole lot.

I have never mentioned any of those to my husband because l felt like l will be looking like a total loser unable to make friends on her own. But l will start trying to make him understand the whole situation. Thank you all once again

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