Honorary Bridesmaids? Yes or no!

I'd rather be by my damn self and get a bunch of cats than interact with chicks like that.

Then she wants to mail you your shit back. Uh she can all the way keep that shit and her shit will be in a dumpster can somewhere burning in hell where she can go.

xoxo

They showed you their true colors. And when the fuck did you become a charity case??? Did you ask anyone to save you no. Do not engage them in anymore conversations or dialogue. Let their hurtful words bounce off your crown, cause you are a queen and nobody can take that from you

Everyone else has it covered and thank god because I am fucking speechless.

I am so sorry these people have and continue to treat you this way. I would talk to your husband. He should know how these people treat you and you both need to run and never look back.

Exactly what @OGK said. I just wanted to add how much I admire you for standing up for yourself and putting trust into an internet community. I am so glad that you were able to find support through here.

Please just text back the link to this thread.

I struggle to wrap my brain around the fact that people like this exist- I mean I know they do- like I know a million dollars exists- but actually seeing it is... bizarre.

I want them to come- COME. I want to see what "their" side of the story is. (is there anything else going on?!?:!?!)

And then I want to see the shit show that will unfold.

Because THAT is my petty.

I have a white friend who who was asked by a mutual black friend to be in her BP because she needed a "thick white girl to balance it out." My white friend declined and we had a laugh over the audacity. But this is INSANE. I echo everyone else... fuck that girl and all her friends. And to suggest YOU buy and apology gift for someone offending YOU!? I can't even...

So wait. The response isn't an apology but yet another ploy to manipulate you into thinking you're wrong??? And then has the audacity to pick and choose which bible quotes to throw at you to back up the bs. Then tells YOU to buy a gift for HER from Hobby fucking lobby to apologize??? The same Hobby Lobby that's supporting 45 and his shenanigans and making people like "your friends" feel emboldened to come on out with their racist bs . WTF!

I. CAN"T!

Tell all of them to go eff themselves and be done with it! Man what a bunch of clowns!

I hope they have itchy urethras for the rest of time.

WTF. I CAN NOT BELIEVE THOSE TEXTS!!!

They are NOT your friends. Not even close.

Tiffany- yes- they are continuing to tell her how ungrateful she is that she doesn't want to wipe her racists "friends" ass on the day of her wedding.

I think she just said her family lives in France. To me it sounds like she's in America (or maybe Canada) because all the bitches responses were in English and there is no Hobby Lobby in France as far as I can tell.

@OP Where are you located?

ETA: Also, they make it sound like a cult. "She brought you to us and made you part of our group" and "I just don't want you to regret this and not be able to come back to us"...... Just saying...

Once again...seeing the texts...these are manipulative sub-human pieces of shit. Even worse that they're using Christian doctrine to justify their actions and paint you as the bad person...infuriating and I'm not even Christian! Saying you don't sunburn, that you need to apologize and get them a gift? That you're ungrateful, that you'll regret not apologizing and getting back in the head bitch's good graces? These disgusting excuses for human beings are absolutely manipulative shit bags.

They have never done you any favors by pretending to be friends with you. As others have said, go watch the movie, "The Help" and hell even "Mean Girls." Geezus, what horrendous people you've been subjected to. I'm livid that you've had to put up with this bullshit for years.

Ship their shit back to them, better yet dump it out on the street and make them come get it (don't damage it as some people have suggested, they can try and sue you and they might) and then BLOCK their fucking numbers so they can't continue to try and manipulate and guilt trip you through text messages.

The mere fact that they talked with the head bitch and convinced her to take a gift, after telling you should do it and then she follows up and says okay I"ll accept the gift, and you're no where in the equation in this decision shows they're they're ignoring everything your saying and that they're bat-shit fucking crazy.

Honestly, depending on how small your town/city is I would consider relocating. You shouldn't have to do this, but if you're in a small population with mostly racist assholes I think your quality of life and opportunity to make actual friends who give a shit about you would drastically improve.

You've mentioned you need to talk with your husband. Please do, he needs to know so he can give you the love and support you need. If he doesn't support you 100% and tries to defend their actions, that is a MAJOR RED FLAG. Please tell us when you've told him and how he reacts.

Once again, please get counseling, and make sure they don't blame you for the circumstances (once again if your'e in a small town it might be rough). We're here for you OP continue to have faith and courage in yourself. Don't let them convince you you're in the wrong these shit-bags are racist, emotional abusers, and manipulators. You have no need to apologize. You don't even have to be nice in your wording to them by asking them to understand, you're so kind OP. They won't understand, they can't see beyond themselves to understand. Stand strong, you're worth it and deserve better!

I would literally take a dump in a box, and mail her that literal shit.

Fuck all of this, honestly.

I am so sorry OP.

These cunts deserve the combo pack.

https://www.poopsenders.com/

Just caught up on this thread..

OP, you sound like a sweet and amazing person and I would be happy and proud to be your friend. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to be in a place where you are away from your support network and have only your husband, while this group of racist bimbo monsters keeps trying to make you feel like you're the crazy one.

Omg I got through about four text messages and decided I need alcohol for the rest.

I wanted to cuntpunch her at "you dont get sunburnt"

W. T. F. I totally don't believe that you should have someone in your wedding party just bc you were in theirs, and did think you should get over it. But the you're black and will screw up her pictures OH HELL NO. No longer friends. If making sure you don't take away attention from her because of your skin color on her wedding day is that important to her ...... I can't even finish this sentence because my brain can't process this idea. I am so so sorry you are experiencing this.