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Deborah
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Groom's Family Hates Me

Deborah, on June 9, 2015 at 9:06 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 272

So my FH's family hates me. They refuse to be in the same room with me and he's not allowed to even talk about me. Why? Because we dated six years ago and I was very sick and couldn't work which made my FH stressed and we broke up then. We got back together three years later under the condition that...

So my FH's family hates me. They refuse to be in the same room with me and he's not allowed to even talk about me. Why? Because we dated six years ago and I was very sick and couldn't work which made my FH stressed and we broke up then. We got back together three years later under the condition that even if I'm sick I need to work somehow. I have fibromyalgia, chronic migraines and back problems. I work online now and work part-time. This isn't good enough for them and about nine months ago sent me letters telling me to break up with my FH because they don't think I love him. He is very soft spoken but did take a stand for me on that issue.

Well, he wants his family at the wedding - can't blame him. I am worried that they won't show and how that might feel for him. If they do come, he wants his sister, brother-in-law (who sent the letter) and brother to be his groomsmen. I would prefer they aren't but he has a right to have them.

What can I do to make this easier?

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  • Mrs. Nicole
    Master May 2016
    Mrs. Nicole ·
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    Shoepeen is less creepy and way funnier than that avatar.

    And I don't understand how someone who refuses to see themselves as a victim in real life is so quick to act like a victim on an Internet forum...

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  • Snarky
    Master September 2014
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    FO' SERIOUS GIRL. Fist bump.

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  • FMM
    Master January 2016
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    For.fuck.sakes.

    Please NH.. See a new therapist, the one you're currently seeing isn't helping you enough.

    You made a blanket statement of assholery and you got called out. You insulted a bunch of women on here..and now your pulling out this card. You're entitled to your opinion if you can express it appropriately, but own up to it if you fuck up... Don't place blame elsewhere.

    I'm out.

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  • LB
    Master May 2014
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    @WWKatie has seen the shoe peen! I wonder if the execs at WW have seen it?

    I used to work at a Catholic hospital and we had a crucifix in our chapel that looked a lot like a peen. It's hard to describe and I wish I'd kept the pic of it. But it really did look like one. I had to call the Spiritual Services department and ask them to take it down. When they refused, I had to tell the CEO that the peen cross was going to stay.

    I love that story.

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  • Mrs. Nicole
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    @Snarky


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  • OG Mrs.K (2.0)
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    @Lively...I just peed' my pants. A peen cross....I love it!

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  • Mrs. Broughton
    Super July 2015
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    This thread got hijacked a long time ago lmao

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  • LB
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    @Mrs K, yeah, it was hilarious, and it was well before the Tom Ford penis cross. I wish I'd kept a pic of it but who would think "One day, I might need that..." ha ha

    The nuns were adamant that the cross was going to stay.

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  • OGJessieJV
    Master July 1867
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    @Mrs. K...I cannot unsee that!

    It's hilarious though!

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  • Mrs. Nicole
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    LONG LIVE SHOE PEEN CHRIST

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  • Finally mrs.jkr
    Master June 2025
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    Mmmmm there's lots of nannies on here, so those of us that make a living taking care of wonderful children (and using WW while they nap) take a little offense to that comment. I'm conservative and believe I belong as a stay at home mom, but all women.... Uh no, everyone has their own calling

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  • Lauren B.
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    SHOE PEEN is hilarious..however-


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  • OG Mrs.K (2.0)
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    There is no unseeing shoe peen. #itisforever #teamshoepeen

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  • .
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    I am pretty sure my child would be worse off growing up poor with me home than comfortably upper middle class with my working. But hey, I'll let my husband know that my job is the downfall of society and tell him to run shit.

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  • LB
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    #DownfallOfSociety

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  • Ekab
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    Props to @Amazing Planning for trying to get this back on track, unfortunately its been too far derailed -


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  • Emmy
    Master January 2015
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    This is moronic.

    To OP - I won't touch your issues with a 6 foot pole. I will not comment on your illnesses nor anyone else's. You need to go to pre-marital counseling for sure.

    To creepy eyes avatar - go away. You make inflamatory statements then crybaby around. As my working mother used to quote (although she was obviously not around to raise us....)"I don't feel sorry for your pig won't" Seriously, go bitch about your self esteem to someone else after you post dumbass shit like working women are the downfall of society (has your therapist helped you work through you mommy issues?)

    Where are the cat memes?


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  • Mrs. Nicole
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    Shoepeen is the #upriseofsociety

    And also when you make a fucking post with near 400 comments trying to help and support you, and then turn around and call us all a bunch of mean assholes over one comment, DONE DIDDLY DONE.

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  • OriginalKD
    Master December 2015
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    @NotHappening - In the past month you have three separate posts where you state that you are 'in a bad place' 'really upset' etc. This is NOT normal because your relationship is NOT normal. You need to get out now, but that is rehashing old news.

    A pet peeve of mine is when people unnecessarily play the victim. No one called you stupid or ridiculous. Also, the passive aggressive statement "Sorry. Carry on. I'll read the comments and I promise they'll have the effect on my self esteem that you're hoping for." is too much and not rational. This is an open forum. Not one of us has said you cannot have an opinion. Only requested that you use fact and logic to support it. If you cannot support your position, then it is most likely misguided. Also, when you take an unpopular stance, be prepared to defend it.

    Everyone else - sorry, had to get it out.

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  • Lauren B.
    Master October 2015
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    Lol @Ekab

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