Groom's Family Hates Me

@NotHappening It's unfortunate that you didn't have much time with your mother. However, it's possible for a woman to have a career and be an amazing parent. Choosing to work does not mean you're not raising your child. Also, being a stay at home parent does not translate into laziness.

You're entitled to your opinion, but it's not fair to make sweeping generalizations based on your experiences with your own parents. Your mother working and not being around very often does not mean that women do not belong in the work force. That's ludicrous.

@NotHappening...It takes a village to raise a child, choose your village wisely and you don't have to worry about it. And why does the mother have to be the one to stay home? My FH is a Stay at Home Dad. Is that contributing to the downfall of society or is he just showing our child that there is another way to be?

ETA: Grammar is hard

Not- your name threw people off, not everyone saw that you announced it in another thread. Randi openly said "not a troll." I think you're focusing on the wrong part in all of this.

@NotHappening, it's not just an unpopular opinion, it's wrong and the way that you worded it.

If you had said, "I want to be a SAHM, it's the best thing in our situation" no one would have blinked an eye. However, because you added a hyperbolic statement that "it's the downfall of society", you are going to be called out.

@NotHapp.....only one person called you a troll, hence the explanation of who you are. If you don't want others identifying you, stop changing your identification. You are a grown up, but yet hiding from your MIL so she cant see you talk shit about her. #downfallofsociety

That's gotta be up there in the "worst opinion ever" category. Downfall of society.. The fuck out of here.

Oh man, this thread is so much fun.

Confession- Every time I see Maybe/NotHappening's avatar, it really just creeps me out so very much.

This is off topic a little and it might be controversial but I have a sincere opinion about working moms. Having been labeled a "career woman" who worked very hard for most of my life...I do think that most parents take time for their children. How do I know that (since I'm not a mom)?

It's because my coworkers and superiors went home to their families every day at 5pm while I was taking on extra work and/or travel for them because they didn't want to and/or couldn't for whatever reason. Did I care? Not really. I got promoted. I got to travel everywhere. I worked hard. I'd make the same choices again.

What annoyed me was when the 5pm people would get peeved or snippy because I was getting a promotion and they weren't. It's all about choices. I didn't choose to NOT have kids...that was just my fate, and I chose to focus on work. I think you can do both but the ones who do both and are good at it don't whine.

@NH/MNM, I think the jury's out on whether you're a troll. But please...carry on! You're making my day!

Why are you not making a new registry?

@NotHappening...I make more money than my FH so I went back to work instead of him. Is my kid missing out on the "More loving nurturing" parent because I'm at work?

Nice back pedal, but you didn't say anything about having one parent (male or female) stay home. You specifically said you had an issue with women in particular not staying home.

Quote: "I won't go too much in to how I feel about women working. I'll just say that I believe it's the reason society has gone downhill so bad. "

For the record, I would like to publicly freaking state that I L*O*V*E the hashtag #downfallofsociety

NotHappening, you didn't say a "parent" should be home, you said the woman should be home. I'll be another one to say that my parents both worked and no one said I "should be taken away" because of that...that's ridiculous.

Also, obligatory popcorn meme.

You realize this is a forum full of working mothers?

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#DownfallofSociety

Also women who had working mothers and weren't taken away and aren't fuck ups?

When is your wedding, NH? Why are you not doing a registry? Will you be having a lot of people?

@NotHapp....yea, you weren't talking about parents staying home, you specifically said "women"....nice try though. #openmouthinsertfoot @Lively that was just for you

Many of us can't afford to stay home with kids. It's called making do.