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Deborah
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Groom's Family Hates Me

Deborah, on June 9, 2015 at 9:06 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 272

So my FH's family hates me. They refuse to be in the same room with me and he's not allowed to even talk about me. Why? Because we dated six years ago and I was very sick and couldn't work which made my FH stressed and we broke up then. We got back together three years later under the condition that...

So my FH's family hates me. They refuse to be in the same room with me and he's not allowed to even talk about me. Why? Because we dated six years ago and I was very sick and couldn't work which made my FH stressed and we broke up then. We got back together three years later under the condition that even if I'm sick I need to work somehow. I have fibromyalgia, chronic migraines and back problems. I work online now and work part-time. This isn't good enough for them and about nine months ago sent me letters telling me to break up with my FH because they don't think I love him. He is very soft spoken but did take a stand for me on that issue.

Well, he wants his family at the wedding - can't blame him. I am worried that they won't show and how that might feel for him. If they do come, he wants his sister, brother-in-law (who sent the letter) and brother to be his groomsmen. I would prefer they aren't but he has a right to have them.

What can I do to make this easier?

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  • OriginalRandi
    Master November 2015
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    LOL what's a crankypants Monday without a Lazarus thread?!

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  • Mrs. Lav
    Master November 2015
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    Christine, I think Centerpiece can fall in that category too. Both of them are invaluable.

    And Randi just made me LOL (which I don't typically use, because I find it disingenuous, although I literally LOLed in this case).

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  • AthenaKay
    Master June 2015
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  • OriginalRandi
    Master November 2015
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    Oh yay futuremrslav Smiley smile

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  • OG Mrs.K (2.0)
    Master September 2014
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    For fuck's sake.


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  • MrsPtoB
    Dedicated September 2016
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    I think you are setting yourself up for a life of misery. I also have chronic severe migraines since I was little and I am not going to lie I have missed some days of work because of it and been hospitalized. I have literally spent years trying to at least control them and I have. I have not missed a day in probably 5 years. As for FH and co. I obviously do not know the whole story but it will only get worse especially if you have kids. My first marriage (to Satan) his mother was a bitch she did not like me because I was white and not of the same ethnicity. She was pretend nice and mean when we were alone. She made my life hell once my daughter was born it was awful on top of other bad circumstances. I moved my kids and myself 7 thousand miles away from her 17 years ago. So she essentially never saw her grandkids grow up. Then I divorced the loser she created and happily marrying a true man.

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