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Friends or Family?

Lynnie, on June 25, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 55
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This week we want to know all about your wedding guests: who's being super helpful, and who is bringing all the drama! Is it your family, or your friends?

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Click on each discussion linked below and comment with your answer: friends or family?

Who makes up most of the guest list?

Who is in your wedding party?

Who did you share your engagement news with first?

Who's going dress shopping with you?

Who has been the most helpful?

Who is bringing all the drama?

Who's hosting your shower?

Who is more likely to RSVP on time?

Who is doing the ceremony readings?

Who will you sit with at the reception?


  • A
    Beginner November 2019
    Aubree ·
    Only my parents have been super helpful and my bridesmaids but his family has don't NOTHING to help at all even like moral support! And they want to ask for things!
  • Natajia
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Natajia ·
    My friends and in laws have been most helpful with planning and creating ideas. Most of my list concludes friends and people we actually speak to today with few family members. My wedding party will be 3 friends my SIL and my cousin . I went from wanting a big wedding to a more small intimate wedding so that we wouldn’t feel the need to invite people we don’t really speak to or haven’t spoken to in years .
  • Kim
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Kim ·
    Most helpful would have to be my parents and maid of honor. His mother hardly wants anything to do with me because she wanted her son to be with someone the same race as them so she tries to ruin things all the time. We are inviting close family and our friends.
  • Tina
    Super August 2019
    Tina ·

    My friends are being super supportive. My little sister is a great BM. Twin is lke she could care less. LOL. But in her defense she gifted us $700 dollars so essentially she is the most helpful. My FMIL is the one with the most drama if you will. She has invited I don't know how many extra people to our day. I have never seen anything like it. She means well so I am rolling with it.

  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
    Kat_ ·
    My FW is the most helpful.. so family? ☺️ My sister has been pretty rad.. she gifted me a portion of my dress and will be planning/hosting our shower. My Mom is super helpful too, although she’s having a hard time finding a dress! Fingers crossed she finds “the one” soon! My FMIL is wonderful too but she’s out of state and my FSILs are also out of state. My friends aren’t really involved.. maybe I should involve them more. We are older so my FW and I are running the show!
  • Eva L.
    Dedicated March 2020
    Eva L. ·
    Some people offered their help if we need anything (no monetary, we’re paying for it). My 13 years old niece kind of begs me to help us, she knows about wedding because she watched Friends, not sure how that makes her an expert. But we aren’t in the phase that we need help yet.
  • Future Mrs. Polar Bear
    Super April 2019
    Future Mrs. Polar Bear ·

    Family, but in the end we only invited our parents and the FIL were all the drama.

  • Kimberly
    Devoted October 2019
    Kimberly ·
    I'd have to say we've kept most of planning between us 2. So nobody has been super helpful. That being said my mother and sister have been driving me crazy. Which is why we stopped informing people of our progress.
    On a bring said, my FHs parents have been really supportive and calming.
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
    Definitely friends.
  • A
    Beginner October 2019
    Ashley ·
    Friends for sure
  • Michelle
    Savvy April 2020
    Michelle ·
    Okay so our families are super supportive and everyone is contributing to help us pay for the wedding but my mom and my mother in law are stressing us out soo much but we just have to remind ourselfs and each other that its our wedding day we are gettting married not them they can have an opinion but its our choice and they can hate it but its what gonna make us happy thats what matters. As far as friends go we dont really have any we are bestfriends and we have acquaintances but not really people we can call frinds so no worries or stress about that thank goodness!
  • Jordan
    Expert September 2019
    Jordan ·
    Family has been most stressful and most supportive.
  • Lynne
    Super October 2020
    Lynne ·
    Both are bringing help and stress, lol
  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
    My family was the one that brought the most drama. Not everyone of course mostly those that didn’t even attend in the end. Also family was very supportive specially my parents.
  • Martina
    Just Said Yes February 2020
    Martina ·
    Oh boy my fiances family and my aunt are drama. We wanted a very small wedding and instead we're having a big wedding. Was so not what I wanted. If we invite xyz we have to invite the rest of the fing alphabet.
  • C
    Beginner September 2020
    Christina ·
    My parent and my bridesmaids are the most helpful. My girls are are itching to help with the diy projects. I still have well of 400 days till my wedding. On the other hand my soon to be mother in law has been a pain. She hates my venue, because it has portable toilets and the reception barn “seems dated”. Mind you I’m going for a rustic country look.
  • Rebecca
    Super August 2019
    Rebecca Online ·
    My MOH is being SUPER helpful, and my mom and FSIL are both bringing all the drama.
    Knew my MOH would be super helpful, she's a Hufflepuff.
    Knew my mom would bring all the drama, prepared for it, I'm honestly just eating popcorn over it.Didn't quite expect FSIL to do it, but I am not surprised.
  • Faith
    Dedicated August 2019
    Faith ·

    Most helpful: Wedding invite and program designer! She has gone above and beyond to capture our "essence" and make it flow!

    Least Helpful: Matron of Honor - all in her feelings because several people have thrown me bridal showers and she feels like it was her job and I allow too many other people to do communication with her in about 6 weeks

    Star Award goes to FH...he has been helpful, caring, a good listener, calms me down when I get riled up. His most often quoted phrase is. "What does it matter? At 1:37 pm on August 31st, you will be my wife"!

  • Faith
    Dedicated August 2019
    Faith ·
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  • Trisha
    Dedicated October 2019
    Trisha ·
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    Girl I am in the same situation. And then they had the audacity to ask if we can invite one of their friends and their daughter when they well know we have a 100 person limit and already invited 125 (over invited so we reach our number) so my FH told them if they want to invite them that's fine they can be on the B list or they (his parents) could pay for their plates ($117) because he isn't because he doesnt know them only knows of them. I was like "hell yeah put that foot down" 🤣

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