Friends or Family?

I'm fairly certain that the only point of family is to cause drama....or is this because my family is Italian on one side and Jewish on the other? Fiance's family is drama-free. I've got enough for both families.

My bridesmaids can not seem to get along with my MOH or they just simply ignore her request and suggestions. For example for the bach party they all somehow managed me to get me involved even though they knew they were not supposed to all bc they didn't like her calling the shots. So now nothing is a surprise anymore they totally ruined it with their immaturity. My MOH of honor got mad at me because I questioned what was going on bc I kept getting asked questions from the other girls. They had me so stressed to the point where I'm not even looking forward to it. They all said in the beginning it was all about me, but these selfish heffas have made it all about them and their differences with each other.

With wedding planning, there are highs and lows. People that stress you out today can work wonders for you tomorrow. I have been blessed that although I have had some drama its not so bad that relationships are strained. Stress level 2.5 months out 4 to 5.

We aren't really at the stage where we need help but I have been sending ideas to my sister who is also getting married 2 weeks before me and we are in each others weddings. Also my FMIL is super excited so she sends me ideas lol

Right now the groom and I can't agree on the amount of guests we want for our wedding. The family, on both sides, don't really know we're having a wedding. Very few know, only because we know everyone won't make it to the guest list.

I've been planning my wedding for over a year. I already sent out the save the dates well in advance. One of our friends decided to plan their wedding just six month before ours and picked their date the week before ours. They say they will not be going to our wedding now because they will be on their honeymoon now.
What's the point of sending out save the dates if they are going to do this?
Let's just say we are no longer on good speaking terms and I will not be going to their wedding, nor be sending a gift.

I’ve been incredibly lucky to have two supportive families and no drama from friends or bridal party whatsoever. Although I can’t say my mom and I have never bickered over any wedding planning details, haha! But thankfully nothing serious.

No drama at all. Everyone, friends and family have been super helpful and supportive.

My family and BMs have been most helpful, My mom has been by my side through it all and very understanding on who I don't want to be there and who I want there. She wanted to invite people she knew but I explained to her that I don't know them well enough and they aren't part of my life so why should they be part of my day. She was okay with it. The drama part will be my father though and his new GF, he demands she gets invited if I want him there.

My MOH has been a savior and doing most of the work that I'm not. My family has been body shaming me and my FH family has been silent, so no help from them! I've lost track of how many times my mother has called me "bigger" or "larger" and even went so far as to buy me running shoes "so you don't have to pay a fortune getting your dress taken out." BTW, I wear a size 6-8, go to the gym 4x a week, and eat really well. My mother weighs 100+ lbs more than me.

My family and my Fiance's family have both been very supportive but my family has had more input and feels more entitled to voice their own personal opinions which has been extremely annoying at times. My in-laws to be have been helpful with suggestions. In the beginning, it was hard because everyone else felt as though they had a say in who we had to invite to the wedding but my fiance and I told them all we value them and their input but that this was our wedding and we wanted to invite the people we wanted to be there. My family still hasn't backed off but his family has been more understanding after we had that conversation with everyone.

My soon to be mother in law has my only stresser. My venue has portable bathrooms and she refuses to use them. She has considered not drinking anything the night before and the day of. Mind you my venue is outside. Also she wants to leave right after the family dances.

I am actually very surprised how things have unfolded so far. My Dad's side hasn't even offered any support at all, just complaints and opposition. My mom has been way more supportive than anyone else in my family. I feel like my Dad's side is holding it against me that my mom is even involved (nutshell back story: split parents that never got along, and I was also primary raised by my Dad). It feels like I have been treated very unfairly by my aunt (my Dad's twin sister). I consider her a second mother, so I have actually been feeling very hurt. Out of everyone, I thought she would be the first to offer help (not expecting momentary, but support or maybe helpful suggestions, or taking on some small task), but instead she has been very nasty toward me, making all sorts of remarks, and then tried to force us to invite her friend to our wedding which already has a very limited guest list because we are paying for it ourselves. My Dad passed before I turned 19, I'm about to turn 29, and I've been struggling with knowing he can't be there to walk me down the isle... it would be comforting to know his twin sister was at least happy for us, despite the issues my parents had, but she has consistently made everything about her. My Dad never would have made a big deal out of involving and inviting my mother. The past has long been the past, and I wish everyone would leave it at that. My friends have been the most supportive and helpful💕💕 And I am very thankful and blessed to have them in my life and throughout this process. My in-laws are states away, but my soon to be MIL has been very supportive from the beginning, I just wish she was physically closer.

View Quoted Comment Sounds like mom is a Slytherin lol I wish I had more Hufflepuffs in the family. They're mostly Slytherins and Gryffindors. Not always the best combination, really. 🤣

View Quoted Comment She's Aunt Petunia.

My family has been both helpful and dramatic, but I definitely couldn't do this without them. My friends are excited and have been great moral support through the tougher things like narrowing the guest list.