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Footing the Bill: Modern or Traditional?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2019 at 11:17 AM Posted in Planning 0 143

One of the first and most important questions that comes up when you start wedding planning is "who's paying?" Traditionally the parents of the bride used to foot the bill, but today many couples are paying their own way!

How are you paying for your wedding? Are your parents generously taking on the tradition of funding the budget? Or are you shaking it up with a more modern payment approach?

Footing the Bill: Modern or Traditional? 1

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Latest activity by Julija, on August 5, 2022 at 6:43 PM
  • OnCloudRawls
    VIP June 2019
    OnCloudRawls ·
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    My fiancé, myself and my parents are covering our wedding.

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  • R
    Dedicated November 2018
    Rosa ·
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    My parents covered the reception/ ceremony bill and my in law's covered the rehearsal dinner and brunch the next day.

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  • Alexis
    Expert June 2021
    Alexis ·
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    Modern. My FH and I are paying for everything out of our own pockets. My parents offered to foot the expenses that the bride's family usually covers, but his family couldn't afford to contribute any, and my parents are VERY old school traditional, so this would've just caused conflict if they found out his parents weren't contributing. We decided just to avoid it all by not accepting money from anyone and doing things our own way.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    My parents are covering some, so are we and my future in law's are also helping.

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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    Modern. We are paying for everything.

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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Modern. My parents don’t support me financially at all so they definitely don’t have money for a wedding. We are paying using my inheritance that was willed to be used for my wedding or towards a house, and after that’s used up it is FH and I paying. His parents are contributing to our honeymoon
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  • Caitlin
    Dedicated November 2019
    Caitlin ·
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    My fiancé, myself and my parents are paying for our wedding!

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  • Justine
    Dedicated August 2019
    Justine ·
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    Modern. My parents have 5 girls so I didn't want to be the cherry on top of that cake.
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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·
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    H and I covered most of the bill but both we received some money from both my parents and his to use however we pleased.

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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    A mix. My dad is paying for a majority of the wedding with my mom (they're divorced) is paying for her family and FH's parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, photographer, and some of the reception cost. FH and I are paying for a chunk of things ourselves too.

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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Mostly modern. FH and I are paying for most everything. My dad gifted us with our photography package.

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  • Sarah Eliza
    Dedicated May 2022
    Sarah Eliza ·
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    We are paying for our wedding together.
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  • Kellie Martinez
    Super October 2019
    Kellie Martinez ·
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    We paid for most of the wedding ourselves. My parents paid for catering though. Smiley smile

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  • Martha
    Devoted September 2019
    Martha ·
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    We are paying for all.. I would feel bad having my parents pay since it’s our choice to have a wedding. My parents want a band so they will pay for that (we paid for dj). So far, his parents haven’t offered anything.
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  • Lauren
    VIP February 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Traditional! My parents are paying for most of the wedding, and my FIL's are paying for the rehearsal dinner, boutonnieres, my bouquet, and some of the reception costs. I have bought a lot of signs to decorate the venue, though.

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  • Amanda
    Expert October 2019
    Amanda ·
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    A little of both. My parents are paying all the deposits & we're paying for the rest.
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  • Alyrae
    Super February 2020
    Alyrae ·
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    My parents and his parents have helped a ton we paid for the venue so everybody has help out
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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    Modern - we are paying it for it almost entirely ourselves.

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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated July 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Modern. We are paying for our wedding.
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  • Ashley
    Dedicated August 2021
    Ashley ·
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    I have 4 sisters (there are 5 of us girls born within 4 years-twins in there) so our dad said he’d only pay for a marriage certificate. Haha. So my fh and I are paying for everything ourselves.
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