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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Footing the Bill: Modern or Traditional?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2019 at 11:17 AM

Posted in Planning 143

One of the first and most important questions that comes up when you start wedding planning is "who's paying?" Traditionally the parents of the bride used to foot the bill, but today many couples are paying their own way! How are you paying for your wedding? Are your parents generously taking on the...

One of the first and most important questions that comes up when you start wedding planning is "who's paying?" Traditionally the parents of the bride used to foot the bill, but today many couples are paying their own way!

How are you paying for your wedding? Are your parents generously taking on the tradition of funding the budget? Or are you shaking it up with a more modern payment approach?


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Thanks for weighing in and sharing how modern or traditional your planning has been so far! If you missed any of our questions you can see a list of all of them here: Modern or Traditional? Round two!! If you're on a roll you can also check out Round One from last year!

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143 Comments

  • Kaylee
    Dedicated September 2020
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    Traditional. My parents are paying for majority of things and FH's parents are helping as well. FH and I are helping in some ways too though.
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    Modern. My mother didn't agree with us living together before the wedding so the groom and I will be paying for the entire wedding and his Mom will be covering the rehearsal dinner.
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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
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    Modern, we are handling a heavy portion of it with help from our families.

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  • EllieRose
    Expert February 2020
    EllieRose ·
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    Modern. FH and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves, but my parents bought my dress and his parents are footing the bill for the bar!

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Modern

    we are paying entirely on our own

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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    A mixture. My FH and I have paid for most things and planned to pay for the entire thing, but my parents and his parents have also generously contributed to different parts of the wedding.
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
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    Modern. It was never a thought in our head that someone else would pay for our party.

    His parents did give a nice gift, we still based our budget on what we could afford alone and even with their gift we did not change the budget

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  • Sara
    Expert June 2019
    Sara ·
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    Mostly modern. About 75% paid by FH and me, 10% FH's parents, 10% my dad and stepmom, 5% my mom and stepdad.
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  • Arkilia
    Super November 2021
    Arkilia ·
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    Modern, we are footing the bill.
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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    Modern - we are 100% paying for everything ourselves. We had offers, but we don't want outside help.

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  • Tris
    Expert August 2019
    Tris ·
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    Modern. I do wish we had a bit of help though. It's kind of sad that my parents are in a worse financial situation than I am.

    When my children are older I will definitely be helping them with a portion of their wedding costs. I want them to feel loved and supported.
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  • ALYSSA
    Devoted September 2019
    ALYSSA ·
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    Modern: Paying our own way.... but if anyone wants to chip in along the way, they are free to do so.

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  • Mrscolón
    Super September 2019
    Mrscolón ·
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    Modern. My FH and I are paying for our wedding in full. We have had a small bit of help in some aspects, which we are thankful for. We have open bar so my in-laws are paying for all the alcohol we have to purchase. My mother purchased my wedding dress!

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  • Chloe
    Beginner September 2019
    Chloe ·
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    My mom and dad are splitting the majority of the wedding and the grooms parents are paying for rehearsal dinner,dj and photographer
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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    Mostly modern! My parents paid for our caterer but we paid for everything else.
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  • Mrs.
    Super May 2019
    Mrs. ·
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    Modern, we're covering it ourselves but have a little bit of help from both parents.

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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    My dad paid for $14,000, my in laws covered paid for $8,000, H and I paid about $5,000, and my mom paid for $1,500. So kinda traditional, kinda not.

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  • Lizzy
    Super October 2019
    Lizzy ·
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    We are all contributing, including his parents
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  • Heather
    Expert April 2020
    Heather ·
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    My parents, me, and my FH's parents are all paying. My parents have the venues, catering, and dress. FH's parents have the rehearsal dinner, alcohol, FH's tux, and (apparently) honeymoon. I am paying for everything else. My FH was going to help out, but unfortunately he is having to job hunt right now.

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  • VIP September 2019
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    Modern him and I are paying for everything. My mom contributed $400 which is fine and not expected. His mon offered to pay for rehearsal dinner which we decided is just pizza and wings.
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