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Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Footing the Bill: Modern or Traditional?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2019 at 11:17 AM

Posted in Planning 143

One of the first and most important questions that comes up when you start wedding planning is "who's paying?" Traditionally the parents of the bride used to foot the bill, but today many couples are paying their own way! How are you paying for your wedding? Are your parents generously taking on the...

One of the first and most important questions that comes up when you start wedding planning is "who's paying?" Traditionally the parents of the bride used to foot the bill, but today many couples are paying their own way!

How are you paying for your wedding? Are your parents generously taking on the tradition of funding the budget? Or are you shaking it up with a more modern payment approach?


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Thanks for weighing in and sharing how modern or traditional your planning has been so far! If you missed any of our questions you can see a list of all of them here: Modern or Traditional? Round two!! If you're on a roll you can also check out Round One from last year!

If you enjoyed these questions, make sure you didn't miss our recent games: Short or Long?, Would You Rather?, and Never, Always, or Sometimes?

143 Comments

  • C
    Super January 2020
    Cassie ·
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    Modern. We are covering 95% of the cost with some help from my parents, his parents have offered to help as well. We don’t want to use any of their savings.
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  • Caryscia
    Savvy November 2021
    Caryscia ·
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    My FS and I are paying for everything. Any contributions our parents might put forth will just go to cover our set budget instead of increasing what we will spend.

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  • L
    Expert June 2019
    Lori ·
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    Modern, we are paying
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Fairly traditional My parents are paying for about 60%, we've got about 30%, my FILs have the last 10%
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  • Paula
    Super September 2019
    Paula ·
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    We had initially planned to pay for the entire wedding, dress, tux etc but his mom and my mom are so excited that we're getting married that they've given us approx $4000 plus paying $1100 towards my $1500 dress
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  • Katie
    Devoted September 2020
    Katie ·
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    My dad and stepmom are helping us pay, we'll end up paying for about 50% of it out of own pockets
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  • D
    Super September 2019
    Dana ·
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    My parents are helping SIGNIFICANTLY. They are paying for the venu and the band and my fiancé and I are responsible for everything else
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  • Maggie
    Savvy June 2021
    Maggie ·
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    My FH and I are paying for everything.
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  • A
    Master June 2020
    Anna ·
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    Modern....we are paying for everything.
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  • Jennifer
    Savvy September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    FH’s parents are helping. My mom helped me pay off my college bills, so the rest is up to us. I’m totally cool with that since my loans were far more than I’d ever spend on our wedding. We do plan to pay only cash for everything as we go. It’s so easy to go overboard!
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  • Lc
    Super September 2018
    Lc ·
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    Modern - all is
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  • Jennifer
    Super December 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    A combo. We planned on paying for it all ourselves but our parents have gifted us either specific items they wanted to buy for us or cash that we have used for it. We didnt ask for anything but have graciously accepted anything they have wanted to give us and used that to augment the budget we planned on.

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Modern-we are paying for most of it with a few contributions from a few family members ♡ come from a not so wealthy family from both sides his and mine
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  • Jessica
    Expert October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    My FH and I are paying for our wedding.
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  • Jayne
    Dedicated June 2022
    Jayne ·
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    Parents of the groom - we asked them to move the date from Thursday night to Friday night so we offered to cover the difference. Cost was the only reason they initially chose a Thursday night. It's finals week for the groom's high school niece and nephew and they would have to miss the Wednesday when they both have most of their finals to be there for a Thursday night wedding. This is a second marriage for both of them and they want it low-key.

    We are picking up the traditional groom's family costs that they are including; bride's bouquet and alcohol at the reception and wedding night accommodations. Since they chose to not have any bridal party, they declined any kind of rehearsal dinner.

    In addition I'm doing a bunch of DIY projects that covers about 90% of the decor. But it's something I love to do and they were sweet to let me do it since it wasn't high on their priority list. Of course, every single project has had a test run submitted to them for approval.

    I believe they are covering everything else, I am not aware of anyone else contributing but I also don't know (and don't need to) that that's the actual case.

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  • Marlena
    Expert June 2020
    Marlena ·
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    Modern. my fh and myself are paying for everything except the food and my parents as pating for it as their gift to us
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  • Fenja
    VIP August 2021
    Fenja ·
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    Traditional...ish... My finacé's parents are paying.
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    It's just me and FH. My mom will want to try and throw in whatever she can because she's really excited but definitely for the most part it's just us.

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  • Future Mrs. McCully
    Devoted July 2019
    Future Mrs. McCully ·
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    My fiance, myself and my parents are funding our wedding budget.

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  • J
    Devoted October 2019
    Jacquie ·
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    Modern we are flipping the bill for this wedding as my mother does not agree with same sex marriage.
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