Fired bridesmaid

View Quoted Comment Don't have any pix of the dress on because it's at the seamstress. It's this gown in black

View Quoted Comment That gown is gorgeous. I'd tell her to pay me back and keep the dress anyway.
I wouldn't wear it to the wedding, even if you do go (which I wouldn't)
I'm sorry your family all has their heads so far up your cousin's butt that even your dad is treating you like crap over this.

I would add a colored belt (and I am not a belt fan) and then get a matching pashmina and wear the hell out of that thing. Like you said: You have the hotel paid for, so go and be the bigger person.

Then again I might wear a tiara for emphasis.

I've been waiting to comment until I saw a picture of the dress. TBH it does not at all look like a $400 dress. I think your comment about still wearing it and just adding a shawl and/or belt is a good idea. I'd definitely still go, because the food should be amazing if it's the type of wedding where bridesmaids wear $400 dresses.

If you're having someone replace you then tell her the dress is for sale. $400 and she's not even thinking of reimbursing you for the cost but she "fires" you last minute like that? I would say eff it and wear the dress anyways or just not go and sell it

View Quoted Comment Honestly we were pretty surprised with the price too! It's a nice feeling dress and I think the itty bitty beads may have made it more expensive.

The whole event is bordering on black tie and she has pretty good taste so I'm considering altering a bit. I talked to the seamstress after work and she said she can make it a true sweetheart neckline, add some cups and take out the low back straps to make it a scoop back, and add a slit to make it different. I think I may go that route anyway.

I think my saltiness has worn off throughout the day. I think she's just stretching her bridezilla muscle and strong arming her BMs because she "can."

Why would you agree to be a BM if you didn’t want to and why did you pay $400 for a dress ? Sounds like you set yourself up for failure

May just be my opinion here, but I would say still go. She is family after all.

In regards to the dress, is it the same as what the rest of the bridesmaids are wearing? If it is, wear something else. If it's just the color/style that's similar, but the dresses are all different, then wear the dress but make sure and wear something that separates it from the rest of the bridesmaids dresses.

Update:

Her lovely FH sent me a nice text and Venmo'd me money for the dress and asked that my DH and I still attend and that he hopes things blow over with she and I.

Im kind of super surprised and feeling a teeny bit better about maybe still going.

View Quoted Comment And of course it will blow over. She’s family after all.

So you have a paid dress for your pain and suffering.

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Nice. There is hope for the species!

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I'm really glad he did some damage control.. at the beginning of the sentence, I was expecting him to have said something snarky, but the fact that he sent money and was encouraging is a pleasant surprise. I hope things do blow over so you can go without feeling horribly uncomfortable. And rock that dress!!

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Excellent! When is the wedding? I liked the passive aggressive idea of RSVP'ing yes but then not going but I would feel bad wasting my aunt and uncle's money, if they were the ones hosting.

As for people saying "of course it will blow over, it is family" I respectfully disagree. These kids of things stick in families for years sometimes. I can't blame them - if a cousin shafted my sister I would be, as MrsBdeG says, "salty" about it for a long time. I would be pleasant and all but still.....you shafted my sister!

View Quoted Comment WHAT??? What is she asking you to change?? I can’t even....

Sorry just caught up!!! Omg, the nerve...I am livid for you....way past bridezilla

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Well at least he seems to have some manners.

View Quoted Comment I vote OP should do both!

I’m like the queen on petty. Either I’m gonna get reimbursed for that $400 dress or I’m showing up with the dress on and sitting up front! BOOM!! I don’t care. Banned my behind better have security then

Wow... see what someone WONT do is tell me what I can and cannot wear. I’m a grown a$$ woman and insult me too!? ... I’d be PETTY BETTY and go IN the dress. 😎😜 Eat her food, drink her liquor and go home. I usually don’t have time for drama but that day... I’d put it on my schedule 😂😂

View Quoted Comment I know that’s right!! 😂😂😂😂 I want an aisle seat making sure she sees me! Looking as good as I wanna look. 😂