Fired bridesmaid

Your cousin sounds like a Bridezilla! I'd go just to hopefully see her throw a fit when something doesn't go her way. Plus, free food and drink and a chance to see other family.

Maybe she'll grow up one day and apologize for being such a bish to you.

I would go in the dress you were required to purchase if you don't end up getting your money back for it. I wouldn't care if it matches the bridal party or not. I would not buy another dress. (and I wouldn't use anything else in my closet because I was REQUIRED to buy this one). If she didn't want you showing up in that dress after your "termination", she should have "terminated" you before you bought the dress

As others have said, no gift, eat and drink to your heart's content, leave early, and then be done with that meanie.

I would rock the dress anyways

This is all sorts of horrible. For the trouble she's put you through, go to the wedding and eat and drink to your heart's content. If she's announced that she's replacing you, try selling the dress to the new bridesmaid. I know its poor etiquette on her part to repace you, but I'd be more concerned about getting my money back...

Here is exactly how I would handle this situation

"you know, you're right, I'll just get it waxed, but I'll do it a little bit earlier just in case I have any irritation, it's your wedding, I'm just overreacting"
Shows up to wedding, in beautiful dress, and fake mustaches, then take every opportunity to be photographed while wearing it.

Wow, just wow. Go to the wedding, be the bigger person. Eat drink and be merry on her dime then leave early.

I am sorry this is happening to one of my favorite posters. Do you have to wear a long gown as a dress? If so, wear the one you bought or invoice her for a replacement one you buy or rent.

I was fired from being a BM years ago. I was never that close with the bride, but was really good friends with the groom and I think eventually she realized she just didn't want me there. She told me she still wanted me at the wedding and to come to her bachelorette party, but honestly I was pretty over it. I didn't attend the wedding, didn't send a gift, and never wore the dress.

View Quoted Comment Oh yes! We have multiple weddings every year and I hate re-wearing dresses so I'll definitely wear it again. I'm kind of considering going. My DH and I already paid for hotel and their gift so it would just be a waste of a trip.

View Quoted Comment Ugh I already contributed to the BM group gift so that ship has sailed. I'm def not going to her bachelorette though.

View Quoted Comment Ugh that's so the level of petty I want to be at but I also don't want my cousin doing one of those bridezilla meltdowns.

View Quoted Comment Yeah our other cousin is much smaller than me so she'd swim in the dress. I'm definitely okay with holding onto the dress for the events my husband has to go to.

Her wedding is huge (like 150+ people) so we may just try to blend into the madness and duck out after cake.

View Quoted Comment I'm thinking of throwing a shaw on and maybe a thick beaded belt and calling it a day. It's a pretty non-descript dress so I should be able to get away with it.

View Quoted Comment She definitely is. At three months out I had to set Alexa reminders to remember to make dinner. I didn't have time to think let alone ponder the body hair of my BMs

I would alter the dress and make it even cuter, and go. And I would bring only a card... 😁

View Quoted Comment Oh and you're one of my fav posters too! I find myself just tagging or responding with ^^Agreed lol

View Quoted Comment My Dad already called me asking if being a "Femi-Nazi" is more important than my cousin's happiness to which I said "The gum on the bottom of my shoe is more important than her happiness rn." ...didn't go over well. I expect a tongue lashing when I call after work 🙄

I honestly wouldn’t go and in that situation, I know my parents would defend me so I’d gladly take on any family drama over getting kicked out for such a stupid reason. If my aunts, uncles, cousins, whatever wanted to argue with me about it, sorry. I wouldn’t really want to go celebrate someone who made me feel so horribly and I feel like it would be awkward because I’d be pissed. But take this with a grain of salt - out of my 6 female cousins, I am only close with one of them and she’s too nice to this.

If you must go, I’d wear the dress. It’s black and some women will be wearing black as well so it’s not like it’s a super specific shade of purple or blue and it would be obvious you matched the bridal party. If she says anything, “sorry I spent a lot of money on this dress and I have nowhere else to wear it to,” (even if you do).

I'd go in the dress - maybe wear some kind of wrap or shawl or something so that it kind of looks different but not different enough for her not to notice. That's CRAZY.

Wow, just wow. Firing you for the way you look? Are people really like that? They want their pictures to look a certain way. I just can't believe it how sad. I would ask her to pay for your dress. And because she is "firing" to from being in her wedding because of the way you look,I wouldn't go to the wedding. And if people complain you can just say you didn't want to "dirty up" her wedding. How rude of her. I hopenyour family would stick up for you if she complains.

Every single ounce of me would not want to go and wear the dress on a date night that night LOL ! I would still go, for me, family is family at the end of the day. I would let her know how its upsetting though & I would personally ask for the money back but thats just me - Sorry this is happening